girl I'm seeing still wants to stay in contact with ex who's married to someone else.

HappyRainbowSparkle · 2022-05-09T09:29:04+00:00

Some people can be friends with their exs, it doesn't always need to be a big fall out. I don't see the issue with it, are you concerned they're going to get back together or something?

neoexileee · 2022-05-09T04:33:43+00:00

Be honest. If she is still not okay with your boundaries then drop her and move on. Your time is the most valuable thing you have and the worst thing you can do is be with someone who doesn’t value your time.

samanthasamuels22 · 2022-05-09T04:34:17+00:00

This is plain weird to me no matter how much people say its not. How long have you two been seeing each other and how long ago was their relationship? What happened and how long has he been married? Who cares about looking insensitive or insecure, because the truth is this situation is making you insecure and you need to have some level of insensitivity to get to the bottom of whatever decision you're trying to make. I used to try to be the cool girlfriend that didn't care and that got be devastatingly heart broken, walked all over, driven crazy, broke, and a bunch of other things. Don't let this girl get over on you. Does his wife know? Since they're just friends they should put everything out on the table and let everyone involved know. You should know him and the wife and the wife should know you and the girl you're seeing. I feel like in a relationship you should be each other's top priority and I couldn't be with someone who's friendship with their ex was more important than me. Sayonara! Lol also, what does this have to do with red pill?

Meiguishui · 2022-05-09T13:09:53+00:00

You don’t own her and who she wants to talk to is her own private business. She has a much longer history with him than she does with you and for whatever reasons they have maintained a strong friendship. He’s married now, but so what? Maybe they weren’t cut out to be married to each other, that doesn’t negate the connection they had. Some might feel that she should keep it to herself and just not tell you about it, I almost suggested that. But actually I think this way is for the best, she doesn’t need to hide anything. If you can’t handle it then you’re not the right guy for her.

I_like_the_word_MUFF · 2022-05-09T13:15:11+00:00

You're about to lose your girlfriend because you are jealous and controlling.

BaphometMaiden666 · 2022-05-09T07:53:41+00:00

LEAVE HER! And FUCK HER! I see why you are on ExRedpill forum! Women like her, give other women a bad name, What she is doing IS wrong! If she wants to keep in touch with him (A married man she can't let go of) than she needs to STAY SINGLE! Moving on is a part of life and she should be happy to have you in the end, if she can't understand that, than, the relationship isn't going to go anywhere, I know you love her though... I am sure his current wife isn't too happy about this either, definitely sounds shady, thank you for coming on here and sharing by the way, no judgement from her, but damn, she sounds like a piece of work.

Mriconicdev · 2022-05-09T11:21:56+00:00

In my opinion, the past is the past leave it there.

vcreativ · 2022-05-09T11:48:20+00:00

I did tell her that I'm not comfortable with it that you're still in touch. Great, open communications are a good thing. Very mature, go you!

Also I said that's it disrespectful to me. I'd back off of that point and focus on the issue.

She wants to know what is it that I don't like about this. Huh. The fact that she's asking on its own is interesting. I feel if she has to ask, she's either not going to get it, or doesn't want to.

You're point is basically I don't like you hanging around people that you frequently had sex with for six years + clearly continue to have an emotional connection with.

I feel that's not that difficult a point to understand.

Personally, and it's very difficult to judge from the outside, if she even hints at this being down to insecurity I'd strongly consider letting her go due to reasons of emotional incompatibility.

Insecurity shouldn't be confused with not feeling secure given certain facts. It often is, and sadly it appears to be one of the go to defenses for some women: "You're just being insecure."

To me, the fact that you even have to argue your point in regards to something that makes you feel uncomfortable to someone who claims to care about you more than any other man (otherwise she shouldn't be with you) is the real issue.

And based on that, honestly, I don't see this going terribly far.

Title	girl I'm seeing still wants to stay in contact with ex who's married to someone else.
Author	bapeepab
Upvotes	1
Comments	25
Date	May 9, 2022 4:04 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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