26 girl without social media = huge red flag?

lanky32 · 2016-10-01T06:10:31+00:00

More like BIG ASS GREEN FLAG. Seriously a girl that doesn't crave validation? If you don't want her I'll take her

grumblinPumpkin · 2016-10-01T06:07:49+00:00

Online social presence on social media is a great big pain in the ass to maintain. Maybe she just doesn't like the hassle of being expected to log in and "happy birthday" 3 people every day when she could be doing other stuff.

Yashugan00 · 2016-10-01T10:05:31+00:00

Red flag? You're kidding right?

Fuknmods · 2016-10-02T02:10:34+00:00

So let me get this straight... no social media, doesnt go out much to look for cock, she doesnt fuck right off the bat despite obvious attraction, and your first thought is that this is a red flag? WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING?

trancedj · 2016-10-01T06:03:30+00:00

Not a red flag. My current LTR is the same. She isn't addicted to all that easy online validation and drama. That's rare these days. And it's one of the reasons I decided to enter into a LTR with her.

Tamarin24 · 2016-10-01T06:28:22+00:00

I'm only 22 and I decided a long time ago that I'd rather live without social media. So it's not unreasonable for someone her age to feel the same way.

AFPJ · 2016-10-01T06:03:10+00:00

Big ass red flag ?

Probably. You can be certain there's damn good reasons for why (assuming she doesn't) she doesn't have any online presence, they might not necessarily be sinister or detrimental to dating but she likely won't tell you the real reason.

Don't automatically assume the worst - proceed - just cautiously. If she doesn't want you to know, that basically tells you everything you need to know regardless of what the specific details of her situation or past might be.

Trust your gut. If she seems like an exceptional human being, she could be above the social media hype.

If it seems like she's still struggling with lower level human concerns, odds are she's hiding something.

Snooze212 · 2016-10-01T08:54:39+00:00

Generally girls with a low friend count or no social media at all are a lot more homely and aren't those party girls etc. You'd be suprised but yes in my experience there are some attractive girls with less than 300 friends or so who aren't into the whole validation thing and going out and getting drunk every weekend.

Does this necessarily mean she's a good pick based solely off of that? No. But it's definitely a good thing compared to a girl that has 1,000+ friends on FB (or a FB at all) and spends all her free time on it talking to her many orbiters.

TheRedStoic · 2016-10-01T12:21:55+00:00

Nah.

That's just nothing. Not green, not red.

I've had quite a few introverts (i like introverts) who had no social media, they just had an easier time hiding the cock carousel.

I've also had a few extroverts who were near perfect, dropped all outings when plated or ltr'd, kept up their social media but didn't"chill" without me, etc.

You should really base red flags and green flags on what actions have been taken, not necessarily suicidal media usage, though yes, slutty actions on social media do count as actions in the real world, especially with photo evidence.

I'd ignore this one as a neutral and concentrate on the other red/greens.

TitsAndWhiskey · 2016-10-01T12:49:11+00:00

I'll go against the trend here. Banged a girl like this a few years back. She didn't have social media because she was fucking a bunch of dudes and didn't want anyone to know who she was with on any given night.

It's not that she didn't need validation. It's that she got it in person.

empatheticapathetic · 2016-10-01T09:28:01+00:00

My oneitis had a skeleton social media (she had it but literally never touched it) and she was a straight up slut. So I'd say it's a red flag. She was super introverted so the whole revelation was quite unexpected.

A girl not having social media isn't always the same reason a guy doesn't.

Title	26 girl without social media = huge red flag?
Author	Blizard969493
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Date	October 1, 2016 5:44 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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