A woman who can’t control her feelings is not your problem. She is the responsibility of a mental health professional or the court system.

BangBang9595 · 2022-07-13T01:53:03+00:00

I wish I took note of this last year. My ex was mentally unwell and she ruined my life.

Vallahaiye · 2022-07-13T02:05:49+00:00

Few things annoy me more than someone who acts like their feeling are the fault and responsibility of someone else, including women who think it's the man's responsibility to make every move in the relationship but also expect him to bend to her wishes.

Choogie432 · 2022-07-13T03:36:02+00:00

Most don't care, and for generations were protected in their actions by armies of men who were taught to believe they served a higher purpose and gained honor and fondness of other women for protecting them. The fathers who taught their sons to defend women in their malbehavior did so to look good to their wives, dodge divorce, gain some peace, and hopefully get laid one more time. The mothers who taught their sons this were using them to push a sociopolitical cause to gain leverage over the lot of men, and set their own sons up to be simultaneous victims and aggressors.

HowItReallyIs9 · 2022-07-13T00:21:47+00:00

This generation of women villainizes and despises men. Of course it has 'much to do' with the male mental health crisis. Women today act like men. They work, chase dick, talk back. Literally no one wants to date someone like that and societies marriage rates are proving that.

ruMenDugKenningthreW · 2022-07-13T04:36:16+00:00

It's a bizarre mixed message. One half is that everything in the world caters to us and our desires without limit, and on the other, we're to remain controlled, reserved, polished, and stoic at all times or we're not men and potentially something worse.

And then come the "why don't you ever talk about your feelings."

Just browse r/relationship_advice, and it should be obvious why.

DirtyPartyMan · 2022-07-13T04:50:13+00:00

You White Knight for just One demographic. Your kids.

That is it.

aerial_coitus · 2022-07-13T02:52:31+00:00

Well stated. This needs to be pinned to the front page of Reddit.

Iceman_Hottie · 2022-07-13T07:34:49+00:00

It's a lot worse than you have stated. Most people are taught only to care about themselves and their immediate consequences.

My story: was in a 5+ year relationship, helped her with med school (one of the top students) and a lecturer failing her because of her name. Talked her out of suicide more times than I can count, recovered her from clinical depression in ~1.25 years, taught her English, helped her get into a biochemistry program in the UK and tutored her to being the top of her year + be good enough to get a summer placement (paid out of the lab's pocket). Was the main income earner, helped her land a part time in a lab and allowed to do research. Was instrumental in her getting Erasmus and Amgen scholarships.

It all ended up with her saying she was ready for us to get married, just over a week cheating, and then going from "I will do everything to make it up to you" to "everything I owe you I will give to someone else, just because I can" for a month. Everything I did right became a reason to hate me, because it didn't give her an excuse for her behaviour. Which destroyed my mental health and most carer connections (I was trying to change fields after my PhD to biochemistry as well).

Almost 5 years down the line finally got my PhD, still depressed and suicidal. Single (don't want to put someone who isn't potentially capable of handling the toll through it). Remained good friends with her parents. To quote her mother "I don't tell you whom to sleep with, and you don't tell me whom I can talk to".

Do I resent all women. No. There are many who would treasure a man for doing what I did. That's why I looked into how thoughts are formed, to 1 stay away from the situation repeating, and 2 not to let the traumatic experience bleed into my next relationship as much as possible.

TheMorningJoe · 2022-07-13T04:59:23+00:00

We’re not someone’s therapist, we shouldn’t let someone fuck with us mentally at the cost of their happiness, hell most of the time someone is just too draining to be with.

DP12410 · 2022-07-13T07:45:45+00:00

all benefits no accountability, guess you missed the memo

DaLordOfDarkness · 2022-07-13T02:23:22+00:00

I mean, if that’s been said to male, it’s only fair for women to do the same thing too perhaps.

spacegirlllllllllll · 2022-07-13T14:50:25+00:00

Look, If you are gonna abandon people because they are mentally unwell, I can tell you probably don’t have anyone to abandon

AndyBrown65 · 2022-07-13T12:17:52+00:00

One of the lessons I learnt early on is never do a woman’s bidding.

We played a sport together and After I broke up with my first GF she manipulated a lot of boys to be mean to me and ostracize me.

Eventually I lost the plot and beat the crap out of one and he told me the lies she told them to gang up on me.

My message to all you stooges and simps is simple. If a woman asks you to be mean to another man or to beat him up “because he was mean to me” chances are she was mean to him and is just manipulating you to do her bidding.

TAPriceCTR · 2022-07-13T16:08:55+00:00

Your responsibility and your problem are 2 different things. A crime victim isn't responsible for their attackers actions but they are certainly better off preventing them.

hih_h · 2022-07-13T18:10:59+00:00

These people tend to be abusers. Once you read about the tactics they use you can spot anyone of them. They all act the same like robots. You are in no way responsible for the mentally ill, not even your parents or siblings. I went NC with my narcissistic mother and her whole family. You are your number 1 priority.

Title	A woman who can’t control her feelings is not your problem. She is the responsibility of a mental health professional or the court system.
Author	NeoNotNeo
Upvotes	254
Comments	31
Date	July 13, 2022 12:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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