Ive been focused on my career and not being taken advantage of by f*boys for basically my whole life. I lost my virginity a few months ago because I felt like I was getting too old, I kept worrying about what others would think of a virgin this old, and also worrying about how normal it would be to be a virgin in my 30s. I always thought I’d be married by now and basically wanted to stay a virgin till then, but with 30 only a few months away I decided to give up on that. Long story short, I lost it and I’m happy with this decision.

Im not with the guy anymore and now I’m wondering what a healthy sexuality would be for me. I don’t know if I should still wait until marriage because a high body count might hinder my future happiness, or if all of this is bulls* and I should just live my life.

Im educated, pretty, feminine.I want to be a wife and a mother but I have also lived my life „the right way“ and still am not married or anywhere close to it. I know I’d be a great mother but what if I don’t get the chance to be one? I don’t want to just wait around denying myself sex for nothing.

Would appreciate any advise or tough love you can give me