I'm not a part of the redpill, bluepill, purple pill, Chinese pill or any pill community for that matter but I used to watch a lot of these redpill videos on youtube just outta curiosity. And I honestly find the popularity behind the whole concept really, really weird.

Although my mum passed away last year, she was the epitome of the ideal woman that these communities preach about. A housewife, a devoted, submissive and supportive wife, and a nurturing and caring mother.

My dad was the head of the household, had the final say in every decision, financially provided for the family....oh and was an engineer, so yeah, he built things.

Their relationship was exactly the type of relationship dynamic that these communities rave about.

And yet, despite being married to my dad, in all those four decades, my mum was NOT happy and eventually began to deeply, deeply resent my father.

My dad wasn't physically abusive, but he took her for granted and never really respected her or valued his relationship to her.

What's worse..... because she had spent so much of her time compromising and catering to my dad's every need, it had chipped away at her self-esteem and self-worth, to the point where she was willing to take crap/emotional abuse from people as though other people's bullshit was somehow her fault. She never knew how to stand up to my dad because he had done such a good job of keeping her vulnerable or emotionally powerless in the relationship.

My mum wanted to work but my dad made sure she wouldn't.

My mum wanted to complete her degree, but my dad wanted a housewife who could look after his parents, and therefore didn't see the point of her finishing her degree.

Everytime they had a disagreement or everytime someone had to compromise in their relationship, it was my mum who did the comprising. NOT my dad.

Why? Because money is power

 Whoever brings home the paycheque, holds power in that relationship. 

When you buy into this type of mindset that preaches the importance of being submissive in a relationship and not having career goals or ambitions to fall back on, just know, you are giving your power away to someone. And if you are lucky, that someone will treat your submission with respect. 

But not everybody is that lucky. And that's because it's human nature for us to take things for granted when things either come to us this easy or when you hold all the power in a relationship. This isn't a gender thing....it's human psychology.

And here's my gripe with the some of the messages that these communities push; not every woman is going to be happy and content being a housewife and to support a man's ambitions over her own.

Not every man wants that type of relationship either.

Not every woman wants to be a mom. Not every man wants children either. 

In fact, there are quiet a few people who regret having children but it's taboo for us to say that out loud or acknowledge that motherhood is not for every woman.

Not every woman likes being the submissive one in the relationship. In fact, there are many women (and men) who don't want or need that submissive-dom type of dynamic.

Despite all the echo chamber that is made up of YouTubers such as, JustPearlyThings, Mediocre Tutorials & Reviews, Fresh&Fit, Jordan Peterson, Kevin Samuels and the like..... modern women in their 30s who are apparently "past their prime", are still getting married left, right and centre.

Do many modern women have issues finding the right guy to marry? Yes. But so do men.

What's even more weirder with the people pushing these messages is that many of them have daughters. If your daughters have ambitions or career goals, as a parent, are you going to tell them that their career goals or ambitions don't matter? And that the only career goals that matter are that of their future son-in-laws? 

Are you gonna tell your daughters that the only value they bring to society is to cook and clean and support their future man and raise children? 

There are women, on the other side of the planet, who have lived and are living precisely the submissive housewife-life that these communities preach about and not all of them want that life and yearn for more.

These echo chambers are just so weird, precisely because these youtubers are very pushy with their messages. And generally when someone is this pushy with their messages, there is usually an agenda.

Edit: I don't have anything against housewives or someone who wants to be the submissive one in the relationship, but I just find the pushiness behind the redpill messages a bit weird.