Why is it socially sanctioned and celibrated when a woman dismantles their cheating boyfriends work, family, social life and most disgusting parental lives.. But any fraction of the reverse is condemned as disgusting, stalkerish, abusive and sometimes criminal?

Why is it socially sanctioned and celibrated when a woman dismantles their cheating boyfriends work, family, social life and most disgusting parental lives.. But any fraction of the reverse is condemned as disgusting, stalkerish, abusive and sometimes criminal?

I doubt I'll be able to find it but I'm going to try so I can toss a link here.. But a couple of months ago I read a post on I think AITA that was nearly verbatim in detail to this story- concern of an STD (in that one it was actually confirmed at the Dr's and that was like, the tipping point), the pleading cheater, blasting them all over social media and the like.

The response was overwhelmingly and vehemently expressing that OP was a monstrous asshole for destroying their partners work, family and social life. They were almost unanimously declared a piece of shit for taking their revenge in a nearly identical way that OP did here. Yet here, in a sub with an exceedingly similar type of user base, this person is almost unanimously being hoisted up on everyone's shoulders and celibrated while the target of their vengeance is further ridiculed.

The only difference is that here, the social vigilante is a woman and in the other post it was a man. Both cheaters are disgusting. Both cheaters do not deserve to be in a relationship and deserve consequences for their selfishness and inconsideration. Fucking neither, however, deserve to have every aspect of their lives targeted for obliteration.. I know it's wishful, nearly unreasonable thinking to hope for perportional response in things like this.. But holy fuck, we've reached a point where the hatred of a sex has become not just sanctioned, not just encouraged, but celibrated and rewarded.

I feel like calling it a far-reaching double standard doesn't do the severity of the issue justice.. It's malleable to so many other social, interpersonal and even legal issues.. Anyways, it's something that I've been wanting to touch upon for a while and seeing this post provided some real life context to the issue..

Just to be as transparent as possible, my issue doesn't lie with the cheater or even the vengeance of it. Frankly, there are some scenarios where the betrayal is so heinous and malicious that not only is retribution deserved, but it would be selfish and immoral to not tell those close to the offender what kind of disgusting snake they have I'm their lives or workplace.. On the other side of the coin there are also pleanty of cases where, beyond termination of the relationship, no further action should be warranted.

It's the attitude of supremacy/inferiority routed in socially accepted sexism.. The best way I can put mu issue into words would be to say that if you took the post that initiated this rant and removed all of the gender identifying nouns (she/he, her/him etc.), how different do you think the responses would be? In what way? What about if the identifiers were reversed? The answers are crystal clear and can be proven by anyone who takes the time to find and compare these types of things.. However, regardless of how much evidence is provided to this type of bias, it will never be acknowledged as problematic.. In fact I would wager to say that the more evidence you gather/the more stories and responses you compile for comparison, the more you will be personally attacked and your evidence ignored.. and that is a fucking issue..