Mental illness

dawgsen · 2022-10-19T07:50:59+00:00

Speaking out of experience, don't know any details other than what you wrote and BPD is a hard pill to swallow. My advice, if you don't have kids and can afford it financially, get out.

If you have kids or can't afford it financially, congrats it's the ultimate red pill test.

Your goal is to not respond emotionally at all to her tantrums, the question is how do you reach that goal?

I do it with daily quotas relating to marriage, self development, chores and kids. I wrote something about it in a more extended version in a previous post.

My advice would be take care of yourself relentlessly, your self worth will be not determined by her opinion about you at all. Do your daily shit and then simply ignore her nagging, complaining and bat shit crazy BPD wrath about laughable things. It felt like hell years ago and now it feels like a blessing because I see BPD women as the ultimate female shit test.

BPD women have a certain attractiveness, are usually hard core emotionally loving and pros in the bed room, but the longer you are with them, the more you realize it comes with a price.

PS: an approach I took to deal with it:

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/vuxv8n/3_concepts_for_getting_your_wifes_bj/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Edit: typo

UEMcGill · 2022-10-19T16:25:13+00:00

If I could go back in time and find the red pill before I never would have gotten into this mess in the first place.

I think you answered your own question. Why would now be any different.

We use the term "the stay plan is the go plan" often, but the inverse still applies, would you have gone with her to begin with if you are an integrated man? The corollary to this rule is the two week dating rule. Would you put up with this behavior from a woman after only dating her for 2 weeks? I know my answer.

In the long term, this is where we embrace abundance. It's an exciting world screaming toward 10 billion people. If half of those are women, eligible, high value, and attracted to you that still leaves potentially 1000's of women who would smack a BPD bitch down to take her place.

You can be kind, caring, and empathetic, and still exit the marriage. Who knows maybe you're doing her wrong by staying with her (aka codependency). In the end, she owes you nothing, and you her. So if this was your son, and you saw all this happen in the third person, what advice would you give him?

mabden · 2022-10-19T17:39:18+00:00

You can't MAP medical issues.

RStonePT · 2022-10-19T18:05:21+00:00

what does a consensus have to do with anyhting?

Tyred_Biggums · 2022-10-19T19:47:50+00:00

I never would have gotten into this mess in the first place.

Yeah but you're here now.

She lives in a completely different reality as me.

AWALT.

Have you considered you just suck?

LetsGoRando · 2022-10-19T12:54:40+00:00

Question; Exactly how fat are you?

guerillajayne · 2022-10-19T02:54:32+00:00

What she does has no bearing on what you do.

redwall92 · 2022-10-19T10:54:41+00:00

Do you want to stay with someone who loves to rip into you? Even on their bad days?

olebobman · 2022-10-19T20:45:01+00:00

This is all on you - 100%. The problem you have is that you are wanting/needing/using your wife as a vessel to fix your own problems. That's not how it works here... You have to constantly work on your shit - RE: sidebar. Stop expecting your wife to pull you out of the bullshit you directly or indirectly put yourself through. What happens if she bounces? Yeah, excatly everyone's point here...

Title	Mental illness
Author	LetsGoRando
Upvotes	5
Comments	28
Date	October 19, 2022 2:31 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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