Inner game q: how to stop getting discouraged that I'm not "that guy" who girls drool over?

Ok_Management4634 · 2022-11-04T21:13:40+00:00

I am going to set aside whether this video is real or fake, because I think that's missing the bigger point.

We all know there's the top good looking guys, maybe the top 1%, that can get on tinder and quickly have some woman they just met willing to drive over for sex. These guys don't have to take her out on a date, she just wants to bang a hot guy.

Well , you are in company with the rest of us.. the bottom 90%+ . It's really not that bad.

First thing you have to do, and this is very hard for young men... Getting laid or having a girlfriend should not be your top priority. A good woman can enhance your life, but she will not make you happy. You have to make yourself happy. So spend time making yourself happy, focus on getting in great shape. Focus on your hobbies. Do the looks maxing stuff. IMO, if you are an average looking guy, dating apps require a lot of time to get a date, and even if you do get a date scheduled, there's a high chance she does not show up or is just there to get a free meal. To some guys, dating apps are worth it, to others, it's not. Read "The Book of Numbers" by Aaron Clarey (I think I have his name spelled right).

Accept yourself for who you are. Even the best pick up artists have a relatively low chance of success. What you are experiencing is normal. "Game" only helps you so much. Doesn't mean you should neglect it, but have realistic expectations. Good luck.

319Skew · 2022-11-05T04:46:49+00:00

OK. This is a bit of a round about story but stay with me.

When I was young, I was the odd kid in school that didn't really fit in. As I grew into my teens and started to come into my own, I started to get more objectively attractive but still held onto the shit mentality that I wasn't good enough.

FFWD to my early 20s and I've got a smokeshow wife, a modelling offer, women cat calling, me, and sexual harassments from BOTH sexes but I couldn't see it.

FFWD to my 30s and I am divorced and hitting the gym deciding to get over my ex by putting a lot of women under me to the point where it's a running joke and women use me as a human vibrator and flex.

Still. Despite all that. I had (and occasionally have) to push my mindset out of that nonsense.

Because, inside me was a secure little boy and he spoke a lot of shit: "My ex wife thought she could do better, the offer was just one off, women were just trying to tease me, people harass ugly people as well," etc.

It downplays anything that you bring to the table and embellishes any weakness.

But here's the thing...There will ALWAYS be a guy that's richer, better looking, stronger, more masculine, etc.

And women will want HIM over you.

That's a fact.

It's also something that you can't stop.

Fuck it. Who gives a shit?

Choose to ignore that voice in your head and focus on bettering yourself in everyway that you can so that you're always improve from YOURSELF.

Surround yourself with people who inspire you and push you to excel.

If you lose out the attention of one, three, a hundred, a thousand, fucking hell, a million random strangers that don't KNOW you then so be it.

You write your own story so make yourself the fucking star of the show in every way you can be and accept whatever hand you can't change then just enjoy the show.

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-11-05T13:57:31+00:00

Stop being ghey jerking over good looking dudes.

Most of your looks can be improved through a culmination of things actively in your control. Check my looks 101 post. Grooming, fashion, lifting, not being an obese fuck will put well above average in looks.

Then you can throw in the esoteric stuff like mewing or chewing on tough meat/raw carrots (shoutout ray peat) to work the jawline.

Shit ain’t that hard, just takes conscious effort.

From your profile, laying off porn would also help, coomer physiognomy is real 🥶.

blackwater23 · 2022-11-05T00:30:29+00:00

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themack- · 2022-11-05T02:33:12+00:00

Discovering TRP can be quite the experience and there's almost always some form of red pill rage that comes along with it. You're finally beginning to see things for the way they are.

As a self aware man who's taken TRP, you'll probably always subconsciously compare yourself to "better" or "worse" looking men. At least I still do, it's only natural. I can admit to myself when I see a handsome dude. I've even become hyper-aware of people's body language, hairstyles, tone of voice, everything.

I say all of that to say the only way you'll begin to feel better about yourself, is to become better. The first step to becoming better is being aware, which you already are. The more you elevate, the more you'll begin to see the difference between how people treat you and others.

You can't do much about the way your face literally looks, but you can optimize your look in general. (Building muscle mass, low body fat %, skin care routine, teeth whitening, improving your fashion, etc.)

It's pointless to stress yourself out about things you can't control. Just stay on the self improvement journey and aim for a better quality of life. The rest will figure itself out.

trpthrowaya · 2022-11-05T11:51:23+00:00

Before this the guy says it's a compilation of his best interactions on Omegle. So obviously the first mistake is that we tend to compare our "behind the scenes" with another person's "highlights".

This video is an example of game in action.

First of all it's always a numbers game. For those 10 interactions there were another 10 or more bad ones.
His looks are not THAT special for the reactions he's getting. So the reactions are not about his looks (women are not as optical as men) but his overall mannerisms/appearance that suggest confident/chill/maybe fun to be around vibes which are attractive traits to women. Hence the reactions.

So the good news is game can be practiced and you can have the same reactions. Some guys are naturally good at it due to genetics and/or positive feedback loops. Some guys have practiced it to perfection.

But I think this comes with insecurities because the thinking pattern will go like "IF I'm not good at game, THEN I will not experience this particular attention from girls"

Normally I would tell you that the best thing you can do for yourself is to be content with yourself (even if you have no game). But can you be content with yourself if, in theory, you are not wanted? Maybe being content with yourself has much to do with other people so it's an oxymoron. I'm still searching the answer and I don't know for sure.

Lyla2008 · 2022-11-04T19:54:37+00:00

This video is probably fake

Lisrus · 2022-11-04T20:48:34+00:00

Realize that they don't exist, and it's not the girls putting them on the pedestol. You are.

The guys in this video (if it's even real) are wearing hoodies in a darkly lit room. What makes you, or the girls, think they are even good looking besides a smile.

Go out there and people watch at a bar if you need to. This video, and all tiktok bullshit, are curated and all the bad experiences removed. Go see the big buff boys fail repeatedly because they think they need to be big and buff and laugh your ass off.

Another would be also just that, get off tiktok, get off Insta, and go out and do stuff.

The guys in this video didn't win 'the genetic lottery'.... The only reason the girls might even want to talk to them is because they make the girls feel comfortable, and are not trying to play any game other than talk and have a good time.

Stop playing the stupid game that doesn't exist. Make people comfortable and you will win.

Two equally hot guys could walk into a room, one would fail, and the other would win. And the winner would be the one who walks into the room, smiles, doesn't stare longingly, is confident about who they are, and starts conversation with which ever person they seem to connect to immediately first. Starting a conversation that isn't forced, not over staying their welcome. And adds to the quality of conversation.

It has absolutely, fucking nothing, to do with genetics.

kuziadog · 2022-11-06T19:08:14+00:00

I won't even bullshit you. If you are ugly you will get less girls who want to fuck you.

The flip side is the same. Ugly girls have less men who want them.

But are you disabled? Are you a burn victim where half your face is melted? These people still get girls but it's way harder.

If you already maxed out your looks focus on other things like charisma/personality. Which imo is better in the long run. Different strategies yk?

marc_nawwer · 2022-11-04T20:12:05+00:00

Why would you want budget hoes drooling on omegle

Percentage930 · 2022-11-06T01:56:22+00:00

What if I told you that looks do infact matter. And that the Red Pill is a hard pill to swallow. Like hypergamy states she is off looking for the best. It's like preselection. She thinks based on your looks that you have access to lots of options for pussy. Think of Lamar Jackson. He is ugly as fuck but he gets LOTS of pussy because women think he has so many options. Women compete with other women.

Just make yourself a high value man that is well known if you crave this kind of attention. Your Instagram has pics with lots of women. Just to show her that you got options.

Andgelyo · 2022-11-09T03:31:35+00:00

Lol if this guy is “good looking” than I’m fucking Brad Pitt’s spiritual reincarnation.

pappo4ever · 2022-11-04T21:27:57+00:00

Lol 100% fake, in real life if those white girls see a guy like that, they call the police on him.

1tayg3r · 2022-11-06T22:15:51+00:00

I'm a 6'5 athletic dude and a Virgin. Girls have flirted with me, had crushes on me and all but they get turned of when they try to know me or hear me speak.

a295225 · 2022-11-07T18:38:04+00:00

319Skew hinted at this: You have invisible scripts running in your head that you need to turn off. This takes training and time. See the sidebar.

Several things to keep in mind. 1) Women sense desperation, even in a written message, and desperation kills attraction, so you *need* to not give a shit about where any interaction ends up. 2) I will bet that at least 1 in 5 women out there would be happy to talk to you. You need to figure out how to identify that 20% of the population (hint, read the sidebar). 3) Most women are scared as hell to talk to men, and many scared are as hell when men talk to them, so going out and starting conversations automatically builds your attraction level.

Few-Tree-9946 · 2022-11-12T14:18:33+00:00

I am in the top percentiles of physical attractiveness but a complete AFC.

Thanks to my looks, I am not a virgin anymore but otherwise the level of sexual frustration is close to incel-niveau.

Look at guys like mystery or style. They were the masters of the game despite being ugly af.

Study and practice RP hard and you will have more sex in 2023 than I had in my 15 years of sexual activity. Character is much more important than looks.

trplurker · 2022-11-29T14:06:13+00:00

Late to the convo but here we go.

Firstly, women aren't dickless men, stop thinking of them that way. The don't think like us and have very different sexual strategies. One of the really important things to understand is women are risk adverse naturally. They do not want to take a risk with some low quality loser that will ruin their chances to get the high quality winner waiting to come into her life any day now. It is us men that judge almost entirely with our eyes and dicks, women are far less sensitive to aesthetics and far more sensitive to action and ability.

So are you a low quality loser, or that high quality winner she's been waiting for? It's a rhetorical question, we can all be both depending on the situation and our frame. If you want to be attractive to women you need to become that high quality winner, and only a fraction of that involves strong jawlines. Women are way more attracted to actions and ability then abs, though both wouldn't hurt. They also have a near super natural ability to sniff out insecurities in potential mates. It's why being confident, having accomplishments and a DGAF attitude matters so much, it signals you believe that you have high value.

The person with the issue is you. You think you are inferior to these other "genetic lottery winners" just like those Indian dudes used to complain about height and skin color. That belief effects your confidence and radiates like a huge "low quality loser, stay away" sign over your head. You look at other guys, judge they are better then you and disqualify yourself from the mating pool, to which the hot young chicks thank you for as it makes their job of choosing the gigachads easier.

Title	Inner game q: how to stop getting discouraged that I'm not "that guy" who girls drool over?
Author	TheOGAllAround
Upvotes	30
Comments	39
Date	November 4, 2022 7:43 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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