Men have real world problems!!!

waffleznstuff30 · 2022-11-15T03:37:49+00:00

My guy is 5'9 I am 5'8. Lol height isn't it.

You have to work on that personality. What about you is a draw what about your life is so great you have to share it with someone. Are you well loved by your friends. So you have fun hobbies? Do you have a fulfilling life that you want to share with someone. Do things for yourself it may be small steps since you are depressed. But building yourself up and giving yourself small confidence boosts. Is it. Small victories will remind you you aren't a loser.

Like so much of this stuff about not being able to date is constantly backing yourself into a corner. Because life outside of dating is so much more. Do you cultivate positive relationships with your friends? Dating is such a small segment of your life as a whole focus on the big picture and the details will start coming together.

ethelflowers · 2022-11-14T22:41:13+00:00

Bro 5’8 is not the issue to focus on. I have several friends who are 5’8 who have genuinely beautiful girlfriends. One of them has a gf who’s taller, the other just has a preference for women that are shorter than him.

One is chubby (not fat) but is also handsome, the most charismatic guy I’ve met and has genuinely great social skills. The other is honestly just a really cool guy - again, social skills.

You’re 200 pounds, GO TO THE GYM. If you’re a loser, how? Do you lack social skills? You can learn this over time, you just need to force yourself to be extroverted. Pick up a hobby which will allow you to interact with people. ‘Game’ is literally just social skills. Learn skills that can help you land a career that has some more prestige, if completing educational qualifications is a need/option for you I would definitely consider it. Even a trade job would be great, it would put you in a masculine environment that could help your confidence

I’m not going to lie to you man, I’m not facing the challenges you are. I (very briefly) found myself getting sucked into the red pill after having some relationship difficulties but I didn’t learn anything useful beyond don’t pesestalise. The most important thing I realised was JUST BECAUSE THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED DOESNT MEAN I DID ANYTHING WRONG. The Red pill obviously won’t teach you that because they want you to buy their shit

I’ve always been good with women and the number one thing that’s common with me and everyone else I know who’s good with women is good social skills. I’m well-liked by men and women for basically the same reasons. With women that leads to sex and relationships, with men it doesn’t. There’s nothing weird or different about women homie

Yes, work on your physique for sure. Yes, have ambitions/skills/career etc. but most importantly learn to be someone that other people enjoy being around!! That’s it…even le godfather Rollo Tomassi says ‘money, game, looks - have two’ but packages it with such ridiculous predatory bullshit

For every ‘you’ who’s struggling because of the shortcomings you’ve listed, I can give you at least 5 examples of people who have those same shortcoming but are doing well

DauntlessDolores · 2022-11-15T01:32:07+00:00

People do understand it, but it's also important for us to "adapt and overcome" when things are outside our control. Learning the dichotomy of control really helped me here, but it does take time to internalize. It's hard, but just do what you can when you can. Depression makes things much harder, but little tasks can help us keep moving forward.

5'8" isn't that bad at all and you can't change it anyways, try if you can to let that go and stop beating yourself up over that. You didn't get to choose it. It's part of your genetics and it's only 4" difference from the propaganda that says you need to be 6'. These are arbitrary rules set forth by people who want you to believe you have to be a certain way to be "worthy".

200 pounds is subjective. I actually like thicker guys (we exist!). They help me feel safer, but if you want to lower your weight, then start working on that and that only. Improving your health is the best first option because sometimes depression is based on our overall health. Calculate your TDEE, download a food logging app, and start just logging calories.

In most cases you can lose weight on this alone, so it's something very compatible with depression. If you can manage, try to have little hand weights you can lift even if you're glued to the bed during an episode. Even 5 pounders will benefit you. Start with baby steps and keep working at it until it becomes a habit. Then you can build upon it later.

LeXus11 · 2022-11-15T10:33:25+00:00

The guy I know which has dated the most woman by faaar is also around 5´8. Obviously being tall is seen as attractive by a lot of woman, but its not the most important factor at all. He is also one of the most charming and funny people I know, which is probably the reason as to why he has managed to accumulate that much dating experience. Personality is key - even though it sounds like a stupid cliche, its true.

When it comes to height there are both positives and negatives to being tall / short. Short people can more easily look fat, even though they haven't actually increased that much in weight - but that also means that they look a lot more muscular when lean. 5kg + - makes a huge difference on a smaller frame. While a taller dude might have to workout for 2-3 years to get an attractive physique because he needs to add 15-20kg muscle, a shorter man can actually develop an attractive physique in a shorter timeframe, and might only have to add 5-10kg muscle depending on the starting point.

Most gymnasts and calisthenics athletes are shorter, because advanced skills are easier to master as a short person. These are just examples as to some positive sides to being short. Since you seem to think your height is just a problem, it might be a confidence boost to actually do activites where your height might actually be an advantage! :)

I wish you the best of luck with your journey.

seeyouonthelanai · 2022-11-15T12:32:03+00:00

Sorry that you're struggling with depression. :-(

While we should all strive to be healthy and take care of ourselves, being overweight does not make you a loser! If you want to get in shape please do it as a form of self care and not to impress others.

You can definitely get dates as a 5'8" man. Please ignore that crap about women only wanting to date men who are 6 feet tall with 6 figure salary. Only .05% of people would be in any kind of relationship if that were true.

WWhiMM · 2022-11-14T23:16:48+00:00

Depression is rough because, like, I could say follow your interests and build skills there, but I'm guessing nothing is interesting and everything feels hollow and pointless.
The main thing is to get in to do therapy; cognitive behavioral therapy has good results, there's lots of drug options, you probably want a mix of drugs and talking. You might be living an objectively great life, but if you're looking at it through the depression fog you're just going to see hopeless loser-dom.
Anyway, media recommendation, check out Hybrid Calisthenics (website, youtube) wholesome accessible (and free) fitness content to get you on track to feeling skillful and powerful.

DerZerficker20x5cm · 2022-11-15T12:40:14+00:00

Remember you are a King! You got this. Work on yourself. You have enough time to improve your life without a girlfriend. Think about how much money and time she would cost without giving you anything back. Listen to your drive of what you want your life to be like and what you want to do. You can make a lot of money, improve your body, become really famous, become more intelligent, work on skills, love your life to work on stories to tell in the future. There’s no reason the miserable I’m sure your life will be great in some time depending on how hard you work on it.

geekosopher · 2022-11-15T13:43:50+00:00

If you want help with depression and self confidence, the only effective answer is therapy and doctor prescribed medication. If those aren't working you need to adjust them, new therapist, more effort, etc.

Self help gurus and media outlets, etc. aren't efficacious. Acual treatment is.

Motor-Fault1253 · 2022-11-14T22:04:15+00:00

THIS WILL HELP !!! https://youtube.com/channel/UCV1S3cO3gb-xZPkNlvw2osg . As an avid watcher of the 9th floor id like to thank you gentlemen for putting a spotlight on us short kings. I'm currently standing at 5'2 and I'm constantly getting rejected and stepped all over by every woman I encounter. I get absolutely 0 wap and I'm quickly spiraling into a deep and dark hole in my life to no end. I've been searching for affordable knee extension surgery but they are all above my budget. Sooner or later I may just resort to permanent abstinence or homosexuality. As you're seeing this comment I'm either in my room with no light, 30 dollars worth of McDonalds and unlimited porn or dead.

Particular_Spot_9464 · 2022-11-15T19:36:16+00:00

I’m 5 7 240 lbs. Go to the gym and weight lift. Woman like men with confidence and know how to dress. Practice talking to woman. Force yourself to smile at woman. It’s really easy . Woman just want to have fun. You should do the same , go out and have fun with talking to woman. There’s 8 billion ppl in the world. You will find someone .

Shinyblade12 · 2022-11-18T21:48:36+00:00

you can't change your height. Think about how your feelings about yourself affect you:

Whether you are pissed off or sad or whatever about your height or not, you're still the same height.

So try your best to accept these things that just are. It will free a lot of mental energy to work on things that can be changed

Title	Men have real world problems!!!
Author	Physical-Eye8114
Upvotes	9
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Date	November 14, 2022 10:03 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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