My girlfriend won't have sex with me anymore

The_MN · 2022-11-25T16:25:00+00:00

very simple and classic situation, pedestal, you know the answer, some combination of these:

realign your mind: focus on yourself, break the pattern of trying to buy her, give her space to come closer to you
take her off the pedestal: she also takes shits, what value does she bring besides her looks now that deserve her to get all this from you
scarcity mindset: you care too much and she feels it stop focusing on her focus on your life
emotional weakness: do you want therapy? you sound like a bitch
go live your life hang out with your friends don't try to bring her back is the best way to bring her back

not a frequent poster lmk what you boys think

throwaway69764 · 2022-11-25T16:28:17+00:00

50 bucks she's not a 10/10 and more like a 6/10

alejandrosalamandro · 2022-11-25T16:22:01+00:00

Sounds to me like you have a bad case of oneitis, you lack frame completely and should dump her. But more importantly; you need to read more and work on your frame.

Even if she is the hottest ever, well so what? She doesn’t want to sleep with you. Get over it. It is time better spent to develop new relationships.

themostgianthorse · 2022-11-25T16:32:25+00:00

“the best I’ll ever do in my life.”

And with that one statement, the entire rest of the post is just blah blah blah.

If you can change your thinking to “the best I’ve ever DONE in my life SO FAR”, the problem will resolve itself.

You think she’s better than you. And since you do, so does she.

This is a classic case. Read the sidebar, hit the gym and pick one thing that scares you are do it.

Confidence is not something you be; it’s something you build.

MrRonchito · 2022-11-25T16:26:23+00:00

You don't have a girlfriend, you have an expensive prostitute, and I'm not even jocking.

Also you don't really talk about your problems with them, they want someone strong to be supported by, so you cannot show weakness or vulnerabilities in front of them.

Pretty sad, but it is what it is.

HOOP_22 · 2022-11-25T16:31:43+00:00

Lol sometimes these posts sound like someone who’s been reading TRP for years and is trolling, cause these actions and thought processes are the antithesis of what this subreddit is about. Or used to be about, anyway.

If you are serious - yes dump her quick, and find another girl immediately. The less contact the better. You can make a girl go absolutely nuclear by just texting them or calling them, ending it, and blocking them.

Thing is, you can’t do it with the intent of getting her back. You have to actually not give a fuck and completely ghost her, or she will know you’re just a fake ass bitch. Chances of her coming back? Slim.

And the fucked up part is if and when she comes back you still have to not give a fuck. Preferably, you should be fucking multiple bitches, and you should tell her straight up (if she comes back). If you don’t fuck it up she will gladly join the roster. And then you have all the power, just like it should be.

Sounds like you fucked up extremely bad here, so you should probably move on and read into TRP content before continuing down your blue pilled path of pain and humiliation. Good luck sir

FadedHorses · 2022-11-25T16:25:44+00:00

You provided the boredom of security. Invoke instability in your relationship.

Pastakingfifth · 2022-11-25T16:26:09+00:00

This girl is a 10 out of 10, the best I'll ever do in my life. There's NO ONE ELSE I'll ever find that's like her.

Do I dump her and never talk to her again? Again, this is the hottest girl I'll ever get in my life.

Don't make this about feelings, this is about you being a low self-esteem delusional sugar daddy.

Hopefully, this is a troll post otherwise take a few days to read the whole sidebar and pray.

filli1aj · 2022-11-25T16:34:54+00:00

This is a good lesson for you to learn. Never open up or vent your problems to your girl. Life isn’t fair, you need to understand the rules and play by them. She can’t help you with your financial problems. All she can do is lose attraction.

The only thing you might be able to do at this stage is become incredibly aloof over the next few weeks. You may lose her anyway, but by being aloof you might reignite some mysterious qualities in you. I think it goes without saying that you do not explain this aloofness to her, because she will ask.

sussykeke · 2022-11-25T16:25:53+00:00

I was in a similar situation, long-term relationships tend to do stuff like that to you. I started working out again, focusing on myself like a lot of people on here suggested, but it wasn't until I actually warmed up to approaching other women (not necessarily to cheat, but to have an option to cheat) is when something about my behavior changed so much that we started having sex again.

JGoonSquad · 2022-11-25T16:34:03+00:00

Sounds like she was using you for money. Odds are she is doing the wild thing with another guy behind your back. You can keep spending money on her but she'll probably just take advantage of you and give you next to nothing in return for it. It seems like the relationship you had with her has reached its end. You're trying to hold on to something that is over and done with. You best bet is to move on and learn from this. Do not obsess over a woman and make her your entire world. Showering her with endless gifts and money will only make her see you as a beta provider. Focus on your own life and become a high value male and women will see that and want to come along for the ride. Also, cut the crap about her being perfect and that you'll never find another attractive woman to be with. There are billions of women on planet Earth. Trust me, there are plenty of other chicks whom you will fancy.

slightlyintangible · 2022-11-25T16:34:24+00:00

You already lost after that first paragraph...

Encrypted587 · 2022-11-25T16:35:13+00:00

She used you as disposable income, she fucked you off.

Grandwizard87 · 2022-11-25T16:37:45+00:00

" best I'll ever do in my life." You set yourself up for failure right there. You need to work on how you see yourself or you'll keep going through the same shit over and over. 100%, if you thought, and better yet, KNEW, you were the man, you would NOT be saying this or even posting this, so fuck this girl for now and focus on your mindset. You can get in the gym, change your style, but if you don't change your mind... it'll just repeat with a different girl. Wish you the best.

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-11-25T16:38:15+00:00

girl is a 10 out of 10, the best I'll ever do in my life. There's NO ONE ELSE I'll ever find that's like her.

This is a self limiting belief. Resist the slave mind.

You can do better, but first you have to believe you can.

then my feelings started to creep in. I told her about my insecurities and my worries. How I felt lacking in some areas of my life, like with finances and confidence. That my mental health was not as stable as maybe she once thought.

Big mistake. Never let women see you weak. You are their oak. Never show weakness to women.

It’s like a parent showing weakness to a child.

Don’t do it. Read my post “iron and forges”.

insinuated she could only be losing respect for me. The only thing I can equate it to though is the fact that I opened up my feelings to her.

Making the connection huh? Maybe there’s hope for you yet.

It just feels like she's using me for my money.

Because she is. From your whole post, all you seem to do is provide for her, spend on her.

Not once did you mention any fun/illogical shit you do with her. It’s very “I give money/I provide, she gives sex after that”.

Is this how you want to pull bitches? Just spam the “spend some money on them” button? Meanwhile, she will have the hots (ie genuine desire) on for some broke gymbro who just makes immature jokes.

ShaiDorsai · 2022-11-25T16:39:15+00:00

This has got to be a troll post. If not - you have everything you need and you already know the answer - you just don’t want to face reality.

RedditUserNo1990 · 2022-11-25T16:39:19+00:00

The faster you move on, the better.

You are simping for an escort. Accept it, and move on.

Life isn’t always nice. Just cut ties and work on finding other women to see.

NeverLace · 2022-11-25T16:39:33+00:00

Why do people come here and join this comminity without reading the MANDATORY literature? It solves ALL of this? Has to be a trollpost.

Sir_Distic · 2022-11-25T16:41:40+00:00

Dump her. She's probably with some other guy sexually.

STOP spending money on women. Stop kissing their asses. Pull back, focus on you, work out and eat right, develop an IDGAF attitude and a way hotter woman will come into your life.

You sound very insecure, low confidence and stop sharing feelings with women. They expect you to be strong for her. You showed weakness on a daily scale but simping and spending money on her.

Lift for you. Live for you.

jjj2576 · 2022-11-25T16:39:53+00:00

Sidebar.

You can’t tell me which Iron Rule of Tomassi that you broke.

Title	My girlfriend won't have sex with me anymore
Author	BeNchMaRk312
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	November 25, 2022 4:14 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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