please help me explain to my friend

BrickedHampster · 2022-12-11T02:55:00+00:00

I hate to say it but she’ll figure it out after enough failures

mopemardermun · 2022-12-11T06:23:14+00:00

Tell her this:

Let's say you had a person who was looking for a job. They found an offer they wanted and believed they had the right experience and qualifications. But they absolutely refused to apply. They thought they were so high and mighty that the company should actively headhunt and seek them out, despite the fact they are the one who desires this job. What would you say of such a person? Narcissistic? Entitled? Nutjob?

Well that's literally exactly what you are doing.

RabidusRex · 2022-12-11T07:54:11+00:00

If she expects her crush to conform to traditional stereotypes, she had better be prepared to do the same.

odysseytree · 2022-12-11T08:50:26+00:00

Not all men who are desirable to her want her. I hope she learns when you don't have the upper hand.

Ok-Translator2294 · 2022-12-11T08:55:13+00:00

You don't. Women who think like that will never change. She'll soon get tired of waiting and get bitter. Then her evenings will be spent complaining about men.

Dronterz · 2022-12-11T10:35:39+00:00

She could try to drop signs that she's interested and just hope for the best that the guy picks up on it.

At least that's how a lot of girls make the first "move"

AbroadSalty · 2022-12-11T11:54:24+00:00

And on the other hand he is waiting for her to make a move. Neither does the man want to initiate first either(though most men do)

OpinionatedDad · 2022-12-11T12:03:13+00:00

It's fine that she wants to be chased. It's not fine that anyone assumed she has to be.

Your doing to same. Your saying you cant be chased because times have changed. She can do what she wants and suffer or succeed. It's assuming that she has to do it one way because of gender is the problem

Jay-Ames · 2022-12-11T12:24:16+00:00

Don't use logic. Use emotions. Ask her how it would feel losing her crush to another woman that took action and therefore started dating him.

If that isn't enough she'll never change. So just leave it

Ok-Needleworker-774 · 2022-12-11T16:26:51+00:00

She’s seeking a knight in shining armor to pursue her, so she’s not seeking an equal partner. She’s ISO a “simp” or a sugar daddy. Tell her to grow up, take care of her own shit, and then an equal partner will appear in her life. Otherwise she’s just repeating the cycle of selling herself on the “romantic marriage” inequality market.

Title	please help me explain to my friend
Author	Lolaindisguise
Upvotes	20
Comments	14
Date	December 11, 2022 2:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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