Well, had a session with the same counselor my W and I have been going to.. My W is currently seeing her for her codependency issues (which was 1st diagnosed 5 years ago and she never took ownership - words of counselor). I guess I needed to hear from her, of which I have grown to respect tremendously due to her professionalism and personality, that my feelings were valid. Of course she mentioned if there was a glimer to hang on.. but was not surprised by my feelings that the end of the robe had been reached...

so now, an appointment with a lawyer.. I guess it will be after that for which I will have to address to her my wishes and may then may the divorce chips fall, as painful as it could get.. There is my daughter (16) and my lifelong collector passion (2 rare cars involved)