Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday life

algo_trader_6ix · 2023-02-04T04:41:46+00:00

You make it sounds like RP is some magical thing that needs to be inferred or discussed away from the thought police in an Orwellian society.

Go back to where the RP term comes from. It's a reference from the Matrix. Taking the Red Pill simply means you see reality for what it is. In this case, you see the true nature of intersexual dynamics.

We have been so brainwashed away from the true nature of intersexual dynamics by feminism that we have to behave like this. Lol.

You can simply connect with like minded people without a need for any label.

SunshineSundress · 2023-02-04T09:12:21+00:00

In all the years that I’ve known my man, I don’t think the question of whether or not we’re red pilled has ever come up once lol. We share a lot of views and I often bring him some discussion topics that I come across here, and his conclusions are pretty RP in nature, but I don’t think he even knows what RP is and is more of just a “natural”. He would probably tease me if he found out just how much active effort I’ve put into being an RPW 😂 a magician never reveals her secrets after all!

All that to say: it’s completely unnecessary to label it. You can talk about the topics (because it’s obviously interesting, or else what the heck are we all doing here?!), but no need to label it out loud or even ask him what he thinks about it because it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

breemakin · 2023-02-04T05:47:14+00:00

I would never date a man who said to me he was “red pilled”. For me, that just doesn’t align with what I want in man. My husband doesn’t even know what the red pill is beyond the Matrix 😂

Despite this, like him, many of his friends and my own friends are traditionally minded. None of them use the internet like I do (they wouldn’t even know what reddit was lmao) and they’d have no idea about TRP but they are still in traditional relationships and marriages.

I try not to label people because I am aware that everyone has layers (like an onion). I’m definitely more progressive than many of the ladies here (I enjoy gender studies) and I’m also probably more traditional than many women here (for example: ya girl is NOT working when she has kids and said kids will not be going to daycare as I believe it’s important to have a parent in the home caring for babies but many women here love their careers).

However, like you said, you can spot the men who definitely consume aggressively sexist and anti-women material. They tend to out themselves within 5 minutes of conversation.

Anyway, all that rambling to say: at the end of the day, labels and words don’t matter. Actions matter.

buni223 · 2023-02-04T08:46:58+00:00

what could you say you are if asked?

Uh, you wouldn’t be asked this. In real life, no one asks if you’re redpilled. Keep in mind being “RP” and being redpilled about a specific topic are two totally separate things and you’re more likely to be asked about the latter than the former. I agree with other people saying you’re taking the RP stuff way too far; it almost seems as if you’re “rping” (role playing) being RP lol.

I feel like decades ago, women probably acted a lot more “redpilled” than any of us ever will, but they didn’t have to call themselves anything to prove it. They were just old school, by our standards.

So don’t label yourself as anything. Honestly, I know a lot of traditionally minded guys that would be turned off if a woman said this to them. Don’t go for a man who says he’s RP either lol. If he follows the men’s Reddit or consumes a lot of RP content, his views will not coincide with what you probably want, and he therefore will most likely fail to be a suitable S/O for you.

undothatbutton · 2023-02-04T14:47:10+00:00

I definitely do not use the term RP IRL. The majority of people aren’t even aware of TRP at all, but if they are, they are most likely tangentially aware of the worst of TRP sub’s posts that circulate online, and most think negatively about it for that reason.

I know some men that, upon reflection, I’m sure are familiar with TRP. It’s not as if they advertise it, but if you talk to someone enough, you can kind of get a sense about it. I especially noticed this about my first bf (I didn’t realize it at the time, we were in high school, but it is much more evident to me now.)

More often that that, though, I will find that some people are actually TRP philosophy-aligned without realized it. Sometimes these people will even mock TRP if they’re vaguely familiar with it, because what they know about TRP is usually the worst and cringey stuff that circulates online. But particularly if you talk with masculine men, Conservative men, etc., you will probably notice that whether they know about or believe in TRP, they are aligned with many TRP beliefs. You see that mentioned a lot on here when women talk about their husbands — they are often describing a “naturally red-pilled” man who embodies the positive alpha and beta traits (soft alpha/greater beta concept) but not a man who is actually actively aware of TRP. (And indeed, you’ll find most advice here says to specifically avoid men that ID as RP’ed.)

Some of what you’re describing could be some TRP-awareness, it could be some men just naturally being “red-pilled” without understanding or evening knowing about TRP, or you could just be picking up on men being sexist (like the “it’s in your DNA to clean” thing… no it isn’t. Being able to clean is not an inherently feminine/female trait, it’s a sign of a functioning adult…)

I personally wouldn’t bring up TRP to anyone that isn’t explicitly discussing gender dynamics/TRP anyway. And I wouldn’t identify as a RPW specifically, unless I was talking to someone who I knew understood what I meant and the nuances between TRP and RPW. Generally speaking, I don’t find a need to label myself at all, but my behavior and lifestyle shows pretty clearly my beliefs. If asked, I’d probably say my family is more traditional. Most people won’t understand RPW, because they won’t even understand TRP, so I don’t see the point.

AutoModerator · 2023-02-04T03:20:39+00:00

Title: Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday life

Full text: This one's mainly referring to male friends and acquaintances. I do limit my non romantic male friends to men I have to interact with due to work; aka colleagues, regular customers and industry contacts but I'm in a male dominated industry so there's quite a few men I'm interacting with. I'm still single and do subtly vet the single men around me, so I don't want to discourage them by making them think I'm the modern feminist type.

Does anybody here bother identifying if men are RP minded? When RP sort of topics are brought up do you express your own opinion knowing females agreeing are the abnormality that they probably aren't expecting? Do you mind being labelled as RP by people IRL? What if you don't directly mention RP, what could you say you are if asked? Traditionalist? Anti-femininist? Happy to be feminine? Would you ever openly label another person as RP? On the internet at least I find the label RP has a lot of negative associations. It feels taboo to say it in IRL.

Since becoming more familiar with the original male agenda RP I've started to notice men in real life I believe are also familiar with RP.

The bitter and sour low value RP men who want to feel alpha by treating women like sex trophies tend to quickly identify themselves by their undeserved inflated ego and poor treatment of people especially women around them, I'm not interested in engaging with these men and it's easy not to. Luckily these men are actually pretty rare IRL especially in my small local community. I don't feel a need to discuss them further.

But there's been 3 men so far who aren't the sour type but I'm pretty sure consume and believe in RP content. They tend to know that the average female (in my society at least) will rip into them if they express a view that males and females are different. But things still slip, usually as a joke they openly acknowledge as sexist to cover their asses. If it's a joke I tend to flip it on it's head. E.g. My male boss first saying he's going to get in strife for saying this then saying it's in my DNA to clean (I had just cleaned the disgusting shared work toilet), I flipped it by saying he has to do all the heavy physical tasks from now on and he's going to regret it. These things are usually light-hearted and funny in the moment and that's how I want things to be. But I find once they realise I'm not going to bite their head off for expressing their views they talk about it more. Low risk stuff like the existence of gender roles in history and other cultures, I usually chime in agreeing with certain benefits. They never directly mention RP (first rule of fight club right?) and at this point I could also rule they are just saying this stuff due to their own life observations. But then soon enough they start using terms like the manosphere and their lizard brain making them do XYZ. Or justify behaviours due to their masculinity, positive behaviours like stubbornly needing to fix something themselves instead of getting another person to do it, or a desire to finacially provide for their (ex) GFs and mother. I chuckle to myself knowing where these ideas and terms likely came from. And their own lives start to make more sense to me, aka they already have made self improvements in line with RP advice and they tend to praise/encourage my own femininity. I'm happy to label them as RP in my own head. But I'm not sure if it's beneficial to say the label out loud or be labelled RP myself. Especially as most RP consumers don't know how RP views can be used to the feminine LTR agenda.

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Title	Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday life
Author	Redlimetree
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Date	February 4, 2023 3:20 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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