I got one for you. You'll never believe this.

ShitLordXurious · 2013-10-24T03:59:13+00:00

I might be wrong, but I'm going to ring the troll bell on this post.

Title is telling us how to respond, not describing the issue.
It touches a lot of bases but lacks detail.
The cuckolded-by-a-black-man story is bait for racists.

chrispdx · 2013-10-23T23:03:17+00:00

While she is a bitch, I gotta say dude that you brought a whole lot of this on yourself. Not dumping her after the baby, not divorcing her immediately after she disappeared. Sticking your head in the sand is not an excuse. Now you gotta pay a lawyer to get yourself out of this mess, and it won't be cheap. I wish you the best of luck, though.

espoira · 2013-10-24T00:58:09+00:00

While yes this is your problem, horrible as it is, there are things you can do. You have nearly described my issue that I had for years before I could take care of it. I sincerely hope you find a lawyer to take care of it, I don't have a name as I live in Kansas.

I had to got to court in Kansas to take care of enforcement here then take care of Florida. If you don't get a lawyer make sure you cover both bases.

I'm no lawyer so look up local laws. All the best and take care of it immediately or it'll loom over your head.

ILoveHate · 2013-10-24T04:39:58+00:00

Talk to a lawyer, but you might be in trouble.

See this. And this.

Annulment is your best bet. Not sure how it works, but maybe infidelity, duress to get married in the first place, fraud, etc.

user1492 · 2013-10-24T15:50:51+00:00

Step 1 is to get a lawyer. Most will offer a free initial consultation. Get an estimate up front. I wouldn't suggest you handle this yourself, but if you're the kind of guy who likes waltzing in a minefield, here's how to get started:

There's probably a number on the letter. Call that number, tell them that you received a letter, none of the kids are yours (assuming that is the truth) and you want to challenge paternity. If they ask, give them your name, although they'll probably get it through your phone number anyway.

Nothing else. Literally nothing else. You want to give them the bare minimum amount of information. Anything from them should be in writing, you don't want them to call you, ever.

If they ask if you ever cared for the kids, "I don't want to answer any questions right now, I'm just calling to get information."

If they ask how much you make, "I don't want to answer any questions right now, I'm just calling to get information."

If they ask if you have any other children, "I don't want to answer any questions right now, I'm just calling to get information."

If they ask if you're in a relationship, "I don't want to answer any questions right now, I'm just calling to get information."

If they ask for your address, the answer is "Send it to the address in your file."

Don't be rude, just be persistent. If you can find out how to challenge paternity through their website you don't even need to call.

Start keeping records of every communication you have with the agency. Take notes (don't forget dates and times) during any phone call. Get names, departments, and positions of anyone you talk to. If they won't give you that, don't talk to them. You will keep all of this information forever.

Best of luck.

rightsbot · 2013-10-23T22:54:17+00:00

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everyone_calm_down · 2013-10-24T00:06:00+00:00

It's hard to help without knowing what city you are in. What city and state are you in?

2013-10-24T03:34:30+00:00

Damn bro, good luck.

theskepticalidealist · 2013-10-24T11:23:27+00:00

So I get a letter in the mail today. its from the Alabama child support enforcement agency.

Presumed fathers laws.

2013-10-24T12:42:05+00:00

People cry troll, but I take my usual position 'you can't cheat an honest man' and here offer my sincere and honest advice, hopefully without rising to any bait.

You are screwed. At this point your only way forward within the law will be to work to change the law. This is my advice in general to married men.

Good luck to you sir.

JaydenPope · 2013-10-24T16:54:27+00:00

Is she technically still married to you ?, if so she tried to marry this other dude then she's looking at jail cause they have a law against it.

Good luck my friend.

sillymod · 2013-10-24T18:36:47+00:00

Look - we are a collection of people from around the world. We don't have expertise or knowledge of your specific area of the US.

There are plenty of organizations that can help you find the right legal help.

Pecanpig · 2013-10-23T23:13:14+00:00

Just cause I am in the south what does that have to do with Anything?? Were not all gun nuts.

Title	I got one for you. You'll never believe this.
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Upvotes	28
Comments	49
Date	October 23, 2013 10:53 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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