Did i push her to this, or was it her slutty fault?

Evrathiel · 2017-10-28T13:02:01+00:00

If I called you a little cocksucking faggot a few times, would that push you to turn full throttle homo and suck dick? No? Neither did you 'push' her to be a whore. So stop being a cocksucking faggot and don't believe that whore's cheap blatant lies. For fuck's sake, the hamster is strong with this one.

BewareTheOldMan · 2017-10-28T11:25:11+00:00

Bro - it's not your fault. Unless a women is forcibly directed by gunpoint or threat of violence/death, she is ABSOLUTELY responsible for her actions.

Men are forced to accept responsibility for their actions ALL THE TIME. Women want equality, but somehow want to "rationalize" reasons why the stupid things they do is someone else's fault.

Men are EXPECTED to accept responsibility and accountability for the things they do/don't do...women have to do the same as well.

As men, we get very little latitude for error and major screw ups. Hold women to the same standard. You gave her an opportunity to be faithful, but she stepped outside the relationship.

NOT COOL! Accept no excuses.

I would cut my losses and start with someone new. However, if you wish to keep her around, this one is PLATE STATUS ONLY.

Sober up first and then make a decision.

redhawkes · 2017-10-28T11:57:10+00:00

She asked me again 3 weeks later and i decided to give her a shot. 3 weeks after we became monagamous

This is where you went wrong. That' why it's being said here that you should plate her at least 6 months before you do something stupid like this. Demote to plate.

dandar4600 · 2017-10-28T14:31:49+00:00

i called her a slut and a whore and other things every time i saw her.

Yeah, you just lost right there. She knows she hurt you and you're hurting her back, acting like a kid, not someone she could rely on. You immediately lose status in her eyes and it makes it emotionally easier to continue the behavior that will hurt you.

If you have to resort to name calling, you might as well just next her. Nothing good will come of it. Worse, you will get a reputation among her friends as girl's abusive ex.

If a girl cheats on you, you don't call her names. You next her and walk away. If you need to cry you do it in private.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-10-28T15:00:01+00:00

She was lying from the start, what more do u want to know?

TheSilentOne13 · 2017-10-28T14:34:06+00:00

Do you have my EX? Ghost her ass. Next she'll start hamstering how YOU are breaking her trust and saying YOU are guilt tripping her.(A standard guilt trip to accuse one of guilt tripping for no reason)

She was probably cheating the whole time if you look back with your TRP knowledge you can see the signs more clearly. Btw i waited 3 months before making it into a Mono LTR. Dont mean shit when her guy friends are " Faaaaaaamily! " and if she wants to cuddle them then "tooooo baaaad!" I mean who the fuck cuddles and goes to comfort with her sister's black skinnier than me gay "brother" guy friend who moved in with her and her family

MartinMcFlyy · 2017-10-28T14:01:37+00:00

My friend. You have heard it before. You will hear it now. And you will hear it again later. AWALT. Think about that before you text, speak and or do something with a woman.

rockybottom69 · 2017-10-28T14:25:48+00:00

You made yourself look weak by throwing so many insults. If you've established a solid frame full of content, present moment, masculine energy, and you ride a wave of subtle joy in your day to day living, why would you allow the actions of some attention seeking girl to disturb that? By name calling you're sending messages that you aren't established in a solid frame, which will plague every relationship. AWALT, and next time when you're in a situation like this, demote, give less attention, and talk with more girls. If her actions are unacceptable to you, simply drop, skip all the drama, and keep your peace. Read The Way of The Superior Man

EDIT: And if you haven't established that frame, make that your priority before you start diving into relationships. Think of it as a sort of prerequisite.

BestSC86 · 2017-10-28T15:08:30+00:00

You treated this girl like shit then wondered why she went looking for better dick?

Look I am going to give you a piece of advice that the most fanatical around here will not....

99% of the girls who the TRP badasses claim are okay with sharing them with other women are

A) fucking other dudes constantly themselves and don't care whether these dudes are one of the 100s or not.

B) are of such low SMV that they have very few other options...ie the dude is gutter trolling looking (butt ugly, landwhale, crazy\crazy, socially awkward, etc)

They are not dealing with the girl's you see walking down every street in your town.....so if you expect to go around running that game don't expect to be dealing with anything but girls like you just encountered....expect to always be dealing with constant crazy, sluts or low SMV chicks.

Note:
Just so none of the usuals go berserk...let me preface that there might be someplace\somewhere\someuniverse a dude who is so magnificent, so big dicked that he dominates a town with his fucking but he ain't been hanging out on reddit on a sub dedicated on how not to be a beta pussy around women.

Op, you need to grow up and not be an insecure, abusive jackwad...that is not what TRP is about.

zboo1h · 2017-10-28T16:20:11+00:00

Stop drinking.

billybobjoecarl · 2017-10-28T16:38:13+00:00

Right away you backtracked against your own word. As soon as she said anything about being in contact with her ex I would’ve said fuck you and ghosted her hard. No demoting here, she disrespected you but she deserves to be called those things in this scenario. She’s a blame deflecting skank, cut her off!!!! Don’t even talk to her anymore, if she wants sex just go over there fuck her and leave, no more conversations. She is clearly a massive skank and piece of filth, why do you care about her at all

walawalawa · 2017-10-28T17:40:04+00:00

3 weeks after we became monagamous, she tells me she was hanging out with her ex boyfriend one on one after she got off work

Right...

She always tried to convince me that sge was a good girl, but i later find out she was using tinder the whole time even when we were monogamous. She ssid its my fault since i was aleays calling her a whore.

I had a similar situation. I just banged the girl. When she got too crazy I finally ghosted her.

Funny thing...she went nuts...wrote a nasty note, showed up where I was djing and dropped off Christmas gifts I got her with a nasty note.

I ignored. It's been 10 months. She shows up at a party I'm at all dressed up in slutty clothes.

I ignore.

There's a lot of mind-fucking going on with these girls. They 'gaslight' you---they make you think you're the crazy one.

Let her go. It's the only solution.

DiggerClam · 2017-10-28T21:03:55+00:00

When i first met her, i told her i csnt commit.

She asked me again 3 weeks later and i decided to give her a shot. >3 weeks after we became monagamous

Girls love non-congruent liars.

Title	Did i push her to this, or was it her slutty fault?
Author	WonderfulLikeNas
Upvotes	8
Comments	36
Date	October 28, 2017 10:55 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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