What casual sexism has been thrown at you?

d_nijmegen · 2021-03-26T10:24:13+00:00

Too many things to count. But the most callous one is dismissing men killing themselves because women try to more often.

Successful_Warthog58 · 2021-03-26T16:33:31+00:00

In a school assembly of parents the were very few of us men stood in the crowd. The nearest man to me was about10 ft away. Suddenly the most horrendous eggy fart smell happened. Somebody had obviously dropped an SBD. (silent but deadly) Three of the women stood nearest to me all turned and gave me a disgusted look. My response was to say "Er no.....don't be so sexist, it wasn't me" They obviously didn't believe me. The worst part was the dirty mare that had dropped it must have been watching this going on.

Because I work shifts I did most of the caring and was often out and about on my own with my two daughters midweek (both under 5.) I wish i had a $ for every time a woman would make some comment along the lines of "Giving your wife a day off are we"

As I say because I was frequently off 4 day in a row midweek i did all the childcare, shopping, cooking, washing, housework bath times and bed times. The only thing I didnt do was the ironing, because i am crap at it. My missus who worked 9-5 during the week confessed that when the other women would all start bitching about how little their men did around the house she would go along with the moaning about me being a typical man etc because she felt guilty that I did everything.

Buying a suit I was in a men's changing room when a woman opened the curtain, barely apologised and went on to the next cubical where her husband was and handed him a pair of trousers to try on. I was gobsmacked. I asked the young girl at the changing room entrance why she had let this woman in and she said "I didn't think it mattered"

Can you imagine the enquiry if a man was found wandering around a women's changing room opening cubicles with women in them.

I and my girls were turned away from a parent and baby group because one of the women didn't feel safe around men ( i would have been the only man amongst about a dozen women)

I've got loads more but I'm off to cook the dinner 😊

omidoggo · 2021-03-26T14:02:34+00:00

Indirectly: I was on a zoom call for work. One woman said she was raising three children — her son, her daughter and her husband. All the other women started cackling.

Vanriel · 2021-03-26T18:59:01+00:00

Got told I was "scum" for being a man in the middle of the street by a random stranger.

Got my backside groped by a woman when i was walking home from work when I was in my early twenties. Wasn't taken seriously.

Get told to "man up" "killallmen" etc.

Got told I was a "chauvinistic pig" for holding a door open for a group of girls (didn't even realise they were girls).

Got the cops called for picking my nephew up when he wouldn't get off the swings to let others have a go. The officers were very understanding (shocking for me) but the woman who called them came over and said to me "it was the reasonable thing to do, seeing a man acting like that with a child". All I did was pick him up and carry him to a bench so I could deal with his tantrum away from the other kids.

nacho-chonky · 2021-03-26T17:55:07+00:00

My ex girlfriend was overly worried I was cheating all the time (I wasn’t and never gave her a reason not to trust me) when I talked to her about it she said “it’s because it’s what men do, they cheat” then I replied that women cheat just as much, she then said “well it’s because men make women cheat by not satisfying her needs”, she did not see the blatant misandry in her comments

MRChesey · 2021-03-27T00:06:46+00:00

A girl that flirted with me, wanted me to walk her home, held my hand and then kissed me realised, that she'd rather be with someone else and didnt want them to know that she liked me a few days ago so she told her friends I forced myself into walking her home and then made her kiss me.

Several friends told me that they believe her cause I'm a guy so there is a high chance I did it

CyclopeWarrior · 2021-03-26T16:27:05+00:00

Speaking of school i remember when we had to do some school dance thing that required some gymnastics moves and I got to be paired with the fattest chick around cause I was the strongest.

I dunno, just makes me think.

2021-03-26T20:26:04+00:00

that my school says boys jsut need "to show more emotions" but meaning cry a little so their problens are solved. the same school who said that feminism "was also to help boys" while she didnt mention shit.

2021-03-26T23:32:54+00:00

The assumption that I’m not compassionate because I’m a male. I hear this a lot in my profession.

Classic-Discipline-2 · 2021-03-26T18:01:49+00:00

“Man up” “come on, you’re a man, you should be able to deal with pain” “pussy” “you shouldn’t cry” “you are contributing to why I hate men for existing”.

Maddmonn_17 · 2021-03-26T22:35:03+00:00

I had my butt grabbed at work once when I was younger by a female employee in front of everyone. They ignored it like it was nothing. I guess groping men is OK but when women are groped it's wrong. For the record it's wrong either way.

Mario6416 · 2021-03-26T17:34:54+00:00

I had a teacher talk about how girls are more mature and she alao said that kids acting up act like they have adhd.

jabsandstabs32 · 2021-03-26T23:18:55+00:00

I never dealt with sexism, small town and all, but I sure did get second hand racism. And my dad was called a mother beater, because when my Nana fell, he was next to her and the police accused him. I saw it, she just fell. He now has a domestic violence charge.

Alvin_Raj · 2021-03-26T15:26:03+00:00

Just look at our NCERT history and politics text book.it is incredibly sexist. The history text book tells about the Indian independence struggle and women struggle. Politics text book also tells about women struggle. Most of which doesn't even exist. And to top of it all these books are outdated. Those books were printed on the year 2000. So none of those "women struggle" existed when I was using it. Those books doesn't teach you about how it is not illegal to rape a man in India. It's not even consider such a crime(but if a woman accuses a man telling he raped her his whole life is over.there is no point in him living). Also most of my teachers treated boys like they are defective robots. Yeah they don't even treat us like human being. Eg: •one of my classmates broke his hand because a girl pushed him down the stairs and nobody even scolded her. When he started crying most teachers told him to "be a man"(he was 12 at the time).

ResonantSpiral · 2021-03-26T22:32:48+00:00

You dont think the teacher just could have been saying that you two kids would be silly, because she knows you? We don't want to be like the feminists, claiming every single thing is sexist to the point of absurdity.

AudaciousGecko · 2021-03-27T03:52:51+00:00

umm where to fuckin start. how about... "kill all men"?

2021-03-27T04:11:14+00:00

Back when I was a little boy, a crowd of seniors who had nothing better to do in my school told me "Come on go and fight, are you scared? You're a man right" some guy who was a friend of theirs bothered me just because he was much bigger than me and so they pestered me to tussle with him. I lost a tooth and got some moderate bruises. Needless to say I've seen better days, lol

2021-03-27T08:59:07+00:00

I'm an Italian American man, and I've been told be people online that I was destined to be a murdering rapist. I have been kicked out of stores while shopping for clothes for my girlfriend. I have been told that I "have that sort of look" when I objected to being labelled a peeping tom (This one was especially dumb, since I was actually guarding the door while a friend was changing) I could go on, but I think I've made the point

2021-03-27T09:40:04+00:00

The whole "Female only" STEM programs.

Big opportunities, only for girls.

dishwatersupper · 2021-03-27T10:05:11+00:00

Too many to mention. Touched inappropriately, casual sexist and sexual comments at work, comments about ineptitude related to my gender when I haven't even been given an opportunity to do what it is they're talking about etc...

But the story that springs to mind doesn't technically involve me directly.

I was teaching abroad and the teachers were predominantly young people. A male colleague walked over to a female colleague and put his arm on her shoulder to get her attention. She was clearly having a bad day and told him "touch me again I dare you". He took his hand off surprised. She said it again. He thought she wasn't serious so he put his hand on her shoulder again laughing a little. She immediately swung round and punched him hard in the face. He was knocked over and hit his head on the wall and was knocked out cold for a few seconds. When he came too he was sitting there dazed and everyone was in hysterics. The whole room, full of his colleagues and supposed 'friends' were laughing and cheering and treating the girl like a hero whilst she raised her hands in gleeful victory.

I was the only person to go over to the guy to help him and ask if he was ok. People were pointing to him saying "she did warn you" and "you deserved that". He was clearly embarrassed and, unable to visually be upset about it, he had to lightly smile and pretend it was all ok. When I asked people what the hell was the matter with them they told me to lighten up and that he shouldn't have touched her on the shoulder a second time.

I spoke to him later about it but he literally couldn't talk about it. He was clearly so incensed but had been forced into silence. I told him how out of order it was and he just looked at the floor and said "I know but there's nothing I can do about it".

I'll never forget that day. It shocked me then and it shocks me now. I lost a lot of faith in people that night.

Alex-xoxo666 · 2021-03-27T09:55:20+00:00

An ex friend said they were literally “menphobic”

dishwatersupper · 2021-03-27T10:08:50+00:00

A female colleague told me I must be asexual after putting her arms around me and making sexual advances at me but I told her I didn't want to. She publicly ignored me after and everyone kept asking me what I had done wrong to her.

Title	What casual sexism has been thrown at you?
Author	Jesus_Christ_Is_Gay
Upvotes	63
Comments	45
Date	March 26, 2021 10:16 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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