Ex girlfriend took our texts to my supervisor and I got fired

Zhi-ren · 2023-03-27T11:26:13+00:00

Being a Paranoid Schizophrenic myself, I can applaud half the replies but also comment that they don't know how this would affect us. Center yourself friend. Realize it's just a job and there will be more to come. In the mean time cut her off, and make it a habit for now as harsh as it seems to not trust women. This will take time to process and to really get over and you don't need more negative influence in your life egging this on. If you need anyn type of kind words or someone with a similar condition make sure you find me, I am always around here, and /r/schizophrenia. You will get through this too friend. This is a small hurdle on a long life.

critical_Bat · 2023-03-27T10:12:32+00:00

Is there no local association for people on/coming of disability that could help make your case?

Or am I misunderstanding. You want your job back or her to be made responsible?

miccheck491 · 2023-03-27T11:41:53+00:00

What do you mean by you “tried so hard to get ahold of her”?

odysseytree · 2023-03-27T11:14:44+00:00

What was in the text that it became a workplace violation?

Daddy_data_nerd · 2023-03-27T10:49:52+00:00

The good news is that you aren't married to her, so... Bye, Felicia!

Now, give yourself some time to mourn that job and relationship. When that time period is up, pick yourself up and forge on.

There will be other jobs and other relationships. Life can only move forward. You can do it.

Morden013 · 2023-03-27T10:59:46+00:00

The sad truth of things is: No matter how much you love somebody, feel connected to..., feel like you are soul-mates - never ever send anything incriminating to them. The digital trace will stay forever, you can't simply delete it and it can be used against you.

Session-Special · 2023-03-27T13:11:30+00:00

If you were past the 180 days. . .I would suggest to contact a lawyer - ask if they cover employment law. Its a small sub field so you may find some resistance at first, but usually you can find a reference. explain everything.

Use the company file a complaint process - file one against HR, and one against the vindictive X. You may not get a resolve, but its a legal form and one they have to keep on file for ten years. Who knows maybe they have a history of it.

in your case - you should have health insurance until the end of the month. So take advantage of it and see your provider. . . get yourself taken care of.

Finally look up the company and see if they have an OMSBUDSMAN, they can over ride the HR decision - but you will need a ton of evidence. . .if you want your old job back.

toolsavvy · 2023-03-27T15:56:39+00:00

IMHO, having read almost all the comments you made: while she fucked your employment, you seem to own up to going too far. So in this case, especially given your financial and medical conditions, I suggest not wasting time or money on a lawyer (like a few are suggesting), let go of this situation, learn from it, and move on to figure out what you are going to do next. Even if you were to get this job back, they see you as a liability now so they can/will later fire you again for "legit" reasons, like poor work performance (including 2 warnings to make it more legit looking). You aren't teaching anyone any lessons. Teach yourself and take care of yourself.

In the meantime, file for unemployment ASAP. While some people will tell you that you will not qualify (depends on state), file for it anyway. Assuming your ex really is not a client, state something to the effect that you were reported to HR by an outside source (who claimed to be a client) that you engaged in inappropriate communications with said source, but HR did not even verify if said source was actually a client. Source was merely a malicious contact in your personal life and HR simply bought into source's lie without any verification of claims. Most states do not give unemployment backpay, they only "backpay" from the date you filed, not from the date you lost your job. So the sooner you file the better.

Never communicate with this girl again in any manner from this point forward. Also do not make it public where you work if you get another job. The less people who know where you work, the better.

In short, you admit to some wrong-doing to some degree and you don't have the luxury to use your situation to get justice as an "activist" right now anyway. So you have to look out for your own well-being because you are in a more or less precarious situation. Focus on getting your life back on track (whatever track that is) and move on...but learn from it.

Acrobatic_Sport_7664 · 2023-03-27T10:02:51+00:00

Return the favour?

lostcymbrogi · 2023-03-27T15:42:39+00:00

And the lesson is...never ever get involved with someone you work with. I truly feel bad for you, but you pretty much were doomed from the moment you let this relationship begin. The Mike Pence Rule

cjgager · 2023-03-27T16:50:59+00:00

why is she your "ex" - was she trying to "help" you? you mention your ssdi but you don't mention your drug usage - are you trying to keep that up? for HR to fire someone so quickly without backed info is a bit strange - did HR specifically tell you why? - i mean how do you know it was the gf who brought the communication to HR? i mean you're on HERE talking about your usage (which is in no way smart btw).
in some business places they offer free mental health/drug rehab services. just a thought - but if you are ready maybe call up the HR and see if the job could be reinstated if you did such treatment. of course, voluntarily.
wishing you the best.

Title	Ex girlfriend took our texts to my supervisor and I got fired
Author	perpetualddecline
Upvotes	90
Comments	32
Date	March 27, 2023 9:34 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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