how can i (20F) start my journey as a RP woman

These-Ad1887 · 2022-08-25T09:51:12+00:00

Have a routine of going to the Gym, eating whole foods and get your mind right

lgkm7 · 2022-08-25T14:25:47+00:00

Also build strong nurturing relationships with women both friends and mentors. Throughout life to try to get all your social and emotional needs met by one man is where women often are unrealistic and don’t realized women especially (more than men usually) need other supportive women to confide in

Competitive-Mix-9079 · 2022-08-25T17:13:52+00:00

Hey woah, we have like the same story! I’m 20 also. First of all, I’m so proud of your growth and wanting to change yourself around, it’s inspiring to me that there’s others with the same mindset. I sometimes feel alone in this self improvement journey lol.

Please, don’t feel guilty I know it’s hard and I have a lot of days where I put myself down from it but it just doesn’t help or make the situation any better.
It happened and we learned from it. We’re still young and have so much time, some women figure this out super late or never. No amount of guilt or anxiety can solve the past, the past is a lesson and we must learn from it.

I’m not Christian but maybe meet some people at church or even volunteering.
Working on your hobbies will start to make you feel better.
Start meditating if you don’t. I’d say start with 30 min a day and then see if you can do an hour a day. Guided meditation is good for beginners.

Try and cut alcohol off completely.

Journaling really helps. Shadow work journaling helped me especially narrowing guilt from past, I learned the things that actually lead me to self distruct which was my childhood, bullying etc.

Gratitude, it’s so important to be thankful for the things you have each day. I have a journal dedicated to gratitude and each day I write what I was grateful for.

Yoga is seems to help with my high libido.

Love and light my love you got this

lindemr · 2022-08-26T02:18:55+00:00

I would set some education and career goals to focus on which will make you more desirable to high quality, intelligent, driven men. No need to pursue a long term career but you should pursue higher education where it is likely you will find a high quality man. Are you in college?

LadySandcastle · 2022-08-25T18:58:26+00:00

Give yourself some grace. Beating yourself up about past mistakes is doing you no favors now, just keep it in mind neutrally as an example of what you don't want to fall back into and embrace the joy of self improvement.

Self improvement is really what I think of when I think of RPW. The community here is always driven to become better, more well rounded versions of themselves.

I second the advice to journal, ask your therapist if they have any ideas for topics you could start out with (or premade journals are on sale on Amazon with self reflection prompts built into the pages). Nurture your body with good food and exercise. Cut out any negative influences (friends, family, acquaintances) and recognize you don't deserve to be dragged down while on your journey. Celebrate the people who have been good to you (thankfulness). Find some hobbies that bring you joy and curate a higher self for you but also find joy in the mundane.

Take care of yourself and others will respond in kind :)

Red_rose49 · 2022-08-25T12:26:23+00:00

It's great that you're making a change and you should be proud of yourself. What counts now is that you're making improvements.

You mentioned that your a christian, are you involved in any way with the church? There are so many nice people you can meet at churches and new friendships to be made with like-minded people.

I'm sure that you will meet that right guy if you continue working on yourself.

Also, for me it really helps to take long walks in the countryside. The nature is beautiful and it makes me feel very calm and feminine.

Best of luck, I believe in you

strawberry000 · 2022-08-25T15:58:10+00:00

I can see this as a problem for majority western women, as well as men who don't have principle nor discipline of being men which is why this problem occurs in society. People only think of dating and sleeping around as opposed to traditional marriages. There is no dating in traditional marriage, if America still kept its old laws there would not be many single unmarried mothers "running around" (excuse the description). Nature entails we marry early, a woman becoming a wife and mother while man a husband and father. These men/ biys somt seem to have the discipline of commitment nor the responsibility of their actions, ultimately people are like animals. The other problem is most dont have a real purpose in life so they wobble about. Some don't even know or understand what live is coz of their trauma in their lives, some thinking money is love , others thinking toxicity is love and others thinking sex itself is love, when all is further from the truth.

buppyu · 2022-08-26T16:29:49+00:00

Stay in shape, be nice and date with intention. You are in a great place. You should be able to get very high value men to commit to you. The longer you take, the lower the quality of men you will have access to. Aim for a proposal withing 2 years.

Men are very easy. We want young, cute, nice and loyal. We don't care about your money or status.

You could easily be retired within 2 years, should you choose to.

TakeTheVeilCerpin · 2022-08-29T04:22:17+00:00

Good luck because more men are starting to ask about body count. That is becoming a deal breaker and you wouldn’t want to start a serious relationship with lies.

Bound-Submissive · 2022-08-25T10:49:18+00:00

Hi, I am 23 and my character is similar to yours with that difference that I dress like a gothic and tomboy.

My past is also not fairytale. I will keep it short. Mother cheated with many men and was super negligent. Father instead of divorcing her left the country for several years. School idiots were as if caught from the jungle, retarded bullies. I was sexually abused by my stepfather as a kid.

You have gone to discotheque before 18, seems that your country allows it. I went for the first time when I was 18. The club times in my life were 10 max. I regret them all. I despise clubbing and nightlife.

But I never touched alcohol and drugs. I advice you to never touch alcohol again.

As a teen I was in early stages of cancer of feminism poison. I regret it deeply despite I didn't hate men. I thought they can wear dresses like women. I had bitter days and was living in constant fear. Of abuse and assault.

In the end of my teen years however I got completely neutral according to ideologies. I stopped watching purposefully triggering content and avoided it. I absorbed content which I like. I unfollowed everything that annoys me.

I got my heart broken in my first try of relationship. I was depressed but didn't lose hope. I am now in a good relationship already 2 years.

First step of red pill swallow is to understand that mainstream ideologies like feminism are brainwashing lies disguised as equalism. Being pro human rights, humanity and empathizing others is called common sense. Also spotting other lies. Most mainstream things are commercial and kinda fake.

I don't trust any politicians because they are all corrupted with unclean records. Stay politically neutral because every policy, even the one closest to your alignment will always say at least one thing you can't agree with and it will be bugging you and turn it into a burden. Just be pro humanity.

I've been feeling like an alien my whole life. I feel like I don't perceive things like other people do.

crypto_tryhard · 2022-08-25T11:20:58+00:00

I actually remember you from a post you made a few months ago about your social anxiety. I'm glad you're healing from your past trauma and you're working to become the woman you want to be.

I'm a guy just a few years older than you so idk if my advice would be appreciated but I'd like to say: continue to work on your traumas and insecurities. And I say that as a person with my own. I've seen many women ruin their relationships because they bring their past and their issues into their present relationships and they unfairly burden their partners.

As for your high libido: I think you should try meditation. I've heard it works great for lowering stress and anxiety; so it might be a good outlet for any sexual frustration you may experience. But also ask you therapist for advice on your libido.

If you feel as though boys your age are more interested in masculine women, then either look for slightly older, more mature guys. Or look for boys that share your values and appreciate feminine girls. They definitely exist.

Good luck and take care!

ProzacBeagle · 2022-08-25T15:57:47+00:00

Hey, I’m 20 as well and trying to finally unlock that same ideal (and I’m gay so feminism has infected lesbians)

DivineEmotions · 2022-08-25T12:44:38+00:00

You are only 20. Slow down. Take care of yourself and grow first.

StripperWhore · 2022-08-25T21:55:59+00:00

If you have trauma, you a good therapist can help you work on your relational abuse to have successful relationships. That doesn't mean you can't use ideologies you like, but I really wish I would have gotten therapy as young as 20 and learned all the relationship tools I have now! :)

I would say when it comes to men, make sure you have high standards of dignity with how you're treated as a person. And treat that man with your same high standards. If you have gendered-trauma, only keep the company of good men you respect and not men who will further aggravate what you've experienced.

Title	how can i (20F) start my journey as a RP woman
Author	UpperUnderstanding28
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Date	August 25, 2022 8:54 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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