Talk to alot of people at parties and such, but never make real friends out of it

Werewolf35b · 2018-01-01T18:59:10+00:00

There was an episode of curb your enthusiasm where they introduced to me a concept I never heard of.

"Medium talk"

He's sitting next to am acquaintance. They talk small talk. Then the guy I think his name's Larry David, goes "How's the marriage?"

Anyway, later the guys wife tells him to mind his business and is mad. He explains that he was trying to "elevate the conversation" by moving it from meaningless small talk to more significant, substantial "medium talk"

Maybe that's what you need to do to make better connections. Elevate your conversation to more serious topics or concepts. Don't be a pussy. Don't feence sit. Have an opinion. You don't need to agree with everyone. Don't fight or argue, just state your piece and shrug your shoulders when someone doesn't agree and bugs you about it. Take a little stand and you'll get more respect and be more memorable.

It could be that. I don't know you so i could be wrong. Just a shot...

DadOnDabs · 2018-01-01T21:55:23+00:00

Make them want to invite you. Some guy wrote a post on his experience with the club scene a while back and he said the thing that changed it was bringing something to the table.

He said he brought some female friends to the club that usually wouldn't let him in and they ushered him right in.

Try something like this. If you are always the guy with the girls you are always the guy with the invite.

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2018-01-01T22:05:42+00:00

I can say two things. If you make one friend from that group, he or she might get invited and then you ask that person if you can join them...who gives a fuck. Just be humble. That how it is in college...someone knows someone etc.

If you are still struggling making one friend, then you'll have to find a way to make meaningful connection within one group. You could be the one to suggest to the group that they host a party. So you help organize a party for say the international students group on some European Union Feast Day..whatever. you get my point. Find a way into leadership positions within these groups/clubs. You'll be invited de facto or by default.
Fuck the groups...build your own social network and throw your own parties...easier said then done...but it's done.

dr_warlock · 2018-01-02T01:11:59+00:00

Any context outside of a hobby is about status, money, and pussy. Don't bother making friends here. They're not. Most people aren't worth much time anyways.

RedPilledRoaster · 2018-01-02T05:33:09+00:00

Find emotional things to talk about. Anything but boring shit.

dorgan64 · 2018-01-01T22:16:10+00:00

Try to read NLP books( recommended Frank Pucelik books) http://libgen.io/search.php?req=frank+pucelik&lg_topic=libgen&open=0&view=simple&res=25&phrase=1&column=def

NewBoomAction · 2018-01-02T16:42:33+00:00

There was a popular post a while back about "not being a boring fuck." The idea is simple; don't be a boring fuck.

vandaalen · 2018-01-01T19:06:57+00:00

Same as with girls. Get their numbers and meet them again. Again same as with girls, there needs to be initial attraction and interest in you though.

It's best to find like minded people through hobbies though. You got something to connect through already.

Title	Talk to alot of people at parties and such, but never make real friends out of it
Author	plsporo
Upvotes	14
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Date	January 1, 2018 5:31 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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