Guys I just wanted to give some advice on filing first if possible. When you have exhausted all your efforts to reconcile and she is threatening to divorce still, but has not yet, seek out the best attorney that you can find and file first. It doesn't necessarily mean that you will win big, but it gives you time to get your affairs in order without being blindsided. In my case I filed first and completely caught the harlot off guard. I now have temporary full-time custody of the kids and possession of the marital home. She is living with her mom and is a brand new trainee at Savers. I documented and recorded her abuse of me and the kids. Whatever you do. Do not fight with her. Stay calm, cool, and professional in how you go about things. Stay in control. Never give her any ammo to fight against you. Document everything and share it with your attorney. If they start seeing someone, like she did in my case, ignore it, unless it's a fault state. That could work in your favor. If you have kids, be an amazing father during the process. Never give her or anyone else any doubt that you are anything else. It's going to hurt. It's going to be hard. But if this person wants to be with you then things would have already worked out. I wish you all the best. Let me know if you need any additional info.