Life after The Raging Rapids

throwaway62737362738 · 2023-02-24T18:16:30+00:00

She is falsely accusing you, she is trying to put you in jail. Fuck. That. Bitch.

RideATX · 2023-02-24T17:35:54+00:00

Put your head down and push through. You will survive and thrive on the other side I promise. All of us have been there before, it sucks but always remember you will be free sooner than later. Good Luck Brother.

turbospeedsc · 2023-02-24T19:49:00+00:00

I dont understand them, i mean most of them claim to be doing this for their kids, o maybe for themselves but know they have kids.

So how does one gets to the logic, that getting my kids dad in jail, is the best course of action, that will ensure my kids well being.....

playerknowmore · 2023-02-24T20:17:57+00:00

This is a classic copy and paste. Guys most of the time a woman will not leave you without a backup. Normally it's a coworker. Now the coworker rarely can afford the lifestyle you provide, so women hit you with; I love you, but I'm not in love with you. This allows her to be the victim because she needs you to supplement their new best life.

When they ask for divorce; lean into it the first time. At worst they leave you with some dignity. Fight to give them the bare minimum; at this point, you are an ATM don't become a government handout.

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2023-02-24T22:27:39+00:00

Make sure you have a good divorce lawyer. Set it for trial asap because that enhances the chances of the earliest resolution. Your position should be 50/50 as to everything.

Objective_Problem_90 · 2023-02-24T23:26:29+00:00

I feel for you. Even almost two years after the divorce, my ex keeps going after me for stuff and just max pain and suffering. Haven't seen my son in two months because she is keeping him from me, but still forced to pay cs, and half of everything she keeps signing my 4 year old up for (chiropractic care, therapy, runs him to the er every time he has a fever over 99 etc ). It's just ridiculous that a person can be so cold and vindictive. I sincerely hope your situation improves.

warrior_up · 2023-02-24T21:11:35+00:00

4 years post divorce my miserable ex falsely accused me of child abuse. I won that battle too.

Let her act out and throw her tantrum. Eventually reality will set in and you'll be in the drivers seat again. We all had to rebuild man, happens one day at a time - good thing you got your parents. I didn't. Enjoy that benefit and know that you're paying to break free from a crazy women. Not gonna be easy, but it'll get done

rhett342 · 2023-02-24T21:43:28+00:00

For me it wasn't so much a raging rapids as it was tumbling down a dark hole and destroying everything I hit on the way down. I still haven't hit the bottom and am terrified what's going to happen when I finally do.

nightwillalwayswin · 2023-02-24T21:49:36+00:00

I was just speaking with a woman and confidant who has been through this. She is 10 years my Sr. Speaking from the other side ... she thinks it is crazy how women will use their kids as pawns. But she has an engineering, logical mind.

Here is what it took me so long to understand : If you are trying to engage with some based on how reality makes them "feel" - then right/wrong, good/bad, whatever goes out the window. Their "feelings" are right above everything else. Because their feelings can not be irrational or wrong!

My ex accused me of "threatening" her because that is how I made her "feel." Hint: I didn't.

The sooner you can take emotions out of the equation - the better. Both yours and hers. Once you get to indifference, then you can move on to be a better man and father. Your kids will figure this all out if you handle this situation in the right way.

BreakGrouchy · 2023-02-24T22:08:37+00:00

Keep your head up . And eyes open for opportunities to prove she’s a liar . Mine said vanilla air fresheners gave her migraines and tried to get DV charges on me . While doing everything she could to fuck me over . Trial is March 30th and now I have lots of ammo on all the lies . As well as her damaging my home moving out acting like she still lives in the house to keep me out of it. I’m keeping notes for my book . It’s been that crazy .

upvotersfortruth · 2023-02-25T01:08:33+00:00

Second worst sin is divorcing a woman who doesn’t want to be divorced. She wanted control and compliance, not divorce. You have humiliated her by calling her bluff. She’s angry and scared shitless. Just prepare yourself for the fury of a woman scorned. Accept your fate and work your way through it. The chances of her going scorched earth are very high, and you already have an indication.

You could crawl back to her and be under her thumb for the rest of your natural lives, I guess. Or you could march forward to freedom.

Fight hard against that lies that will keep you from your children.

Americanjello · 2023-02-25T14:36:53+00:00

There’s no downside for her when making these false allegations. And a number of upsides. Expect more of it.

GarlicResponsible621 · 2023-02-24T17:32:13+00:00

She has someone else. Time to get yourself someone too. She won’t see that coming, I assure you.

And how exactly did you wind up at mom’s house? Please tell me you did not break the cardinal rule of divorce and leave mom in the marital home with the kids? Because if so, you played yourself.

Artistic-Trifle-555 · 2023-02-25T01:00:28+00:00

She was in the romantic relationship before you filed.

Title	Life after The Raging Rapids
Author	PatThePiper
Upvotes	21
Comments	31
Date	February 24, 2023 3:34 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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