Feeling Pretty Low - Seeking Kind Words

Noodletrousers · 2023-06-20T11:13:08+00:00

First of all. It takes tremendous courage to do what you did. Most people would stay in a terrible marriage the rest of their lives for convenience of one kind or another. You’re not. You decided that it’s time to start living your life and while it’s going to be hard at first, one day you will look back and thank yourself.

Serve her first. It allows you to set the tone and tenor of what’s to come. Call as many lawyers in the area as you can and schedule consultations. You’re going to want to talk to half a dozen minimum. The ones that don’t promise the world are much more likely to give you good representation. The ones who tell you that with their help you can easily screw her out of everything are more salesmen than lawyers.

You’re a strong person. A weak one would just grumble to themselves until the day they die.

Reflog1791 · 2023-06-20T13:50:02+00:00

Very common for ex to shape up when you SHOW you mean business. Just my .02 but if there’s no adultery and she is willing to work on it, a decade of alimony is worth serious consideration.

We find out after divorce that all the words in the world are useless with women. It’s only what we DO that gets them to treat us better.

Read no more Mr nice guy. If you start living for yourself again the spouse may treat you much better.

Leather-Mixture-2620 · 2023-06-22T22:48:57+00:00

Oh wow. I have no advice just warm well wishes for you to make it through. I know you have been miserable for years and years. I hope this new chapter brings some relief. 🫂

Adventurous_Rain_279 · 2023-06-20T17:06:49+00:00

Sudden counselling is common trap to keep the marriage. As well, secure longer alimony

Count for worst mate, and hope for best

Unless she is high earner / earns as much as you, she will not have another option as to drain you

Unfortunately, you have to be realistic There kind of divorces can take years, you might want to explain your daughter that she has to start being mature or her boyfriend has to

Cause, you just doesnt have option yourseld Have an honest conversation

And , have a conversation with her and your wife together. To explain the consequences of this, and that they to come through it together not to spend hundreds of thousands on lawyers and loose ability to support and invest into your kids

Maybe, that gonna help your wife not to fight you as harsh

Believe me, those women change a lot when you start divorcing them. They become a different person, after they understand they loose their financial support and their lawyer promises them gold mines. And their lawyer will, so he can have this being dragged for years

Title	Feeling Pretty Low - Seeking Kind Words
Author	LonelyNC123
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	June 20, 2023 11:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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