So interacting with people IRL and online, there seems to be a huge divide on what is happening in the sexual marketplace. And by divide, I mean that some people believe that nothing is truly wrong and most people are dating/having sex just fine. While others believe that it is becoming a nightmare for men. I am a bit in between but I do believe that everyone's experiences are based on their respective attributes. Women and men for sure have different perceptions of the dating world simply because of the concept of supply and demand.

Men however are very diverse in how they stack in the dating scene as we are the ones that are chosen by women (women are as well but most can at least find sex easily). But my question is for men who failed during their "coming of age" years and beyond with women. And I am talking about men who are over the age of 35 and still didn't find success with sex and dating despite trying to put yourself out there or any other methods of improvement.

What exactly happened to these men? Were they always a repellant for women? What is their life like now? Did they find an alternative method of finding happiness? Did they find a partner later in life? I am just genuinely curious and I think it could help opening up with like minded people. All I ask is for this to be respectful and for answers to come from level headed participants. And everyone is welcome to add input/opinions.