I reconnected with someone I had hung out with a few times over a year ago and it was nice at the time. We reconnected lately and he was essentially talking about body counts , I mentioned I don’t have a high one and is that a red flag. He said no but I’m Not in my sexual peak . ( I am 41) he showed me some fresh and fit videos , Etc. Later on in the week after chatting on messenger he randomly mentioned if I had the time I should get into personal training and eat less and I can be in best health in 2 years . I am plus size / overweight (16/18) but that exactly how he met me, had been with me before , as well as I sent exact photos before we met again . It seems like he’s only interested in my large chest, so humiliating. He kind of clarified later that he meant it in personal development & he bought gym equipment but suffice to say, it’s not a nice thing to hear from someone you were sexual with and isn’t a close friend . Though I do value feedback. He also talked about a book he’s reading called ultimate alpha male(entrepreneurs in cars guy)and all these red flags to look out for ..about spinning plates, and essential anyone else should be in a friends with benefit category…..ironically i reached back out because I felt the connection was unexplored and thought a friend’s arrangement would be a safer and more comfortable way for me to connect since I have my own intimacy issues etc …

Anyways I feel really sad, it was a game from the start and I liked him…. I think he is a lost guy to Be honest. But I will take his feedback , try to Overcome my issues and be an even more attractive 42 year old in a few months and eff him! 😆 😭