Things are well in my marriage. My husband says he’s never been happier. And things are good for me too. But we haven’t had carnal lustiness since our second was born. We were so tired that it was off the radar and I’m feeling like I’m getting back into a normal rhythm and really missing it.

I have really leveled up my exercise and beauty routine. My skin and hair are lustrous, I have a great sleep scheduled, exercise in a way that’s really flattering to my shape, and hornier than ever for my husband who seems more in the quickie mentality (that’s all we could really do for so long with little kids).

So ladies, what have you done that brought back the spark? Sex is satisfying but I miss his pursuit and the tension we used to have build between us.

I feel like I have been directly trying pretty hard and need to step back and let him pursue. But I am at a loss at what additional feminine tricks I can use to catch his gaze. Any advice is welcome.