Curious

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-09-14T04:59:06+00:00

Absolutely. Look, if you just sit there or beg or pine or whatever, you create stability within the unstable situation. You partner does what they want knowing you are there right where they left you. You are also proof positive you are not changing. Add to all of this it’s perceived as a ploy.

If you move on, the dynamic shifts. Moving on means self improvement, shave, new hairstyle, hygiene, new clothes, work out, go out. Whatever. Bottom line is you become intriguing.

Add to this, she may not come back. Just means you have a start on your new life. Nothing lost in that strategy.

CB33isGMC · 2023-09-14T07:49:21+00:00

As soon as my ex made it clear she was serious about separation I went no contact. I like to pretend like it was because I’m an ice cold pimp, but in reality I’m just a coward that runs from my problems.

Anywho, she did eventually come back wanting to give us another go, but I just couldn’t deal with the “new” her. The tatts and piercings were one thing, but her personality was that of a completely different person. Made me realize I probably never really knew her at all, and we were together over 20 years.

I’m sure you’ve read/heard this a thousand times, but if a woman leaves NEVER look back. All you’ll do is reverse any healing that has occurred and waste precious time that’ll be needed to rebuild your life. Take the L and move on.

justme4556 · 2023-09-14T04:55:55+00:00

Yes, and it is a trap. I got snared twice. Don't fall for it.

l3tsR0LL · 2023-09-14T05:07:48+00:00

I have a friend that was separated, got back together and is still married 30 years later

But I can't think of a second example

flinderdude · 2023-09-14T13:29:19+00:00

Yes, once you truly let go with the other person, your behavior really changes. Your ex will notice your behavior change and make her want you more. It’s not obviously a guarantee that she comes back, but the likelihood she comes back is much greater if you actually let her go. God really does not want anyone to get together I have been convinced.

Title	Curious
Author	No_War3532
Upvotes	7
Comments	6
Date	September 14, 2023 4:18 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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