I'm starting to resent my girlfriend after learning she isn't the unique flower I thought she was.

Epicureanist · 2014-03-09T06:28:08+00:00

Congrats OP, the pedestals dissapearing andd you're seeing her for what she is; just another human. That's where i'd like to be with all women.

JumpYouBastards · 2014-03-09T07:44:04+00:00

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2014-03-09T09:59:39+00:00

The golden rule of women is that you get the quality of behavior from her that you deserve. You will never find a unicorn or a "unique flower" - but you can find a good quality girl who, in your presence, becomes that because you lead her to it.

Women are only as good as they have to be. (Men too). Don't resent her - realize her behavior is just her deferring to you and giving you a chance to lead. Check out David Deida's Way of the Superior Man - you've likely relaxed in your masculine element over the past 2 years, so naturally she has tried to fill the void by taking on "controlling" type behaviors like you mentioned.

All of these things you mentioned are things that you have to prune out of women early in a relationship. Or in the case of hard-wired female traits like hamstering that you will never remove, you keep them subdued, for her and your benefit. Let's take loyalty - VERY early in the relationship, a chick is going to test the waters in terms of loyalty, no matter how alpha you are. It will be some minor test, and you will have to handle in it some alpha manner - if she sees you silently being bothered but not able to call her out, you're done.

Or hamstering - Early on, my GF tried to hamster about her gaining a little weight. I told her she's 23, in the prime of her life, she needs to look the best possible. I looked her right in the eye and said I don't plan to spend my best years with someone on the decline. She cried, I let her emotionally volcano out, she sees you aren't going to apologize and talk down what you said, and slowly she accepts that she needs to work out and diet to win your admiration. This process will help her not hamster when it comes to anything in her life.

So basically, if you're going to LTR girls, you need to understand it's like taking on a child. You have to grow them using positive (and occasionally negative) reinforcement. This is why I fully recommend giving all girls a interview phase as a plate for a month or so before even considering thinking romantically - during this phase you will have either trained her in a few of these essential ways or you will have established that she is untrainable and move on.

mordanus · 2014-03-09T06:27:55+00:00

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Exactly_what_I_think · 2014-03-09T06:13:51+00:00

Yes.

Finding TheRedPill mindset my then GF where having more and better sex but she was starting to get annoyed as I passed shit tests. Then breakup threats. I gave her no help moving out or finding a new place but still fucked her almost every day. She was a plate for a few more months but then decide she could not stand the new me.

watersign · 2014-03-09T07:11:36+00:00

dont be mad at a dog for being a dog..

2014-03-09T12:22:13+00:00

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widec · 2014-03-09T07:00:43+00:00

Why resent the fact that she is simply doing what she is programmed to do? If she is really acting out then she probably doesn't respect you so much. Use what you have learned to make the relationship better for the both of you.

pcadrian · 2014-03-09T13:31:01+00:00

Can anyone relate?

Oh yeah. I was also in a relationship when I started taking the red pill. When my eyes started to open slowly, I lost that ONEitis quite rapidly. What to expect for the future? Nothing. Seriously, my ex has proved time and time again that I can't rely on her (despite what she would say), only confirming TRP for me. Use it as a learning experience.

youreunbelieveable · 2014-03-09T12:31:21+00:00

If her behaviour bothers you, you need to set firmer boundaries. All women will test you and they will treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. Since you started your relationship before swallowing the pill, she is probably used to walking all over you, and it may take some time and effort to assert your new frame and train her properly to adhere to your expectations (you may also need to train yourself out of bad habits and complacency).

So, if she behaves in ways that you don't like, you must tell her that such behaviour is unacceptable and make it clear that you won't tolerate it. You shouldn't get into an argument to justify your expectations--just tell her what you want. If she doesn't respect your boundaries, you must next her.

batman50 · 2014-03-09T10:32:20+00:00

I did feel the same for a while, I have been RP most of my life - some due to TDAH, some due to my parents been RP - but after swallowing the pill things got worse. But after some time I realize the devil you know is the best one. If you still fuck her, and she keeps in shape stay otherwise next her.

John_the_Piper · 2014-03-09T05:56:22+00:00

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mercuryg · 2014-03-09T15:31:23+00:00

I can relate

Title	I'm starting to resent my girlfriend after learning she isn't the unique flower I thought she was.
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Date	March 9, 2014 5:16 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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