How do I gain back my confidence

Hard_Thruster · 2023-10-31T02:38:21+00:00

Confidence can come from within and from outside feedback.

The latter is fickle, one day you're the cool guy the other day you're not, and just like that, your Confidence is gone.

Do you think you're smart? Do you think you're good looking? Do you think you're a a catch?

If the answer to those questions is yes then you wouldn't have a Confidence issue, so, you have figure out why you have doubts about yourself and it shouldn't be because of your lack of female attention or outside influence, the answer lies within.

DearSail7885 · 2023-10-31T04:15:03+00:00

Young hot college thots don't give a flying rat's arse about your career. They want the "college experience," i.e. hooking up and having fun with hawt athletes and frat guys. In terms of fun, what exactly do you bring to the table?

thetonybvd · 2023-10-31T07:06:12+00:00

For context, I’m a black male, I get called handsome a lot, but I’m also short around 5’6

I'm sorry to tell you that, but you'll need more effort to get laid with girls than the average dude. In college women are focused being fucked by the most tall and handsome white chads they can find.

However you should forget about these college girls, ignoring them and start to date elesewhere, finding more conservative girls ready to settle down.

Can be done easily if you have bold confidence talking irl with girls

Still focusing on money, cardio, studies, working out. You'll have choice in a few years, but don't give your attention to thots. Never.

kvakerok · 2023-10-31T15:46:34+00:00

You gotta elaborate man. Fail how? Fail to approach? Fail to open? Fail to maintain a convo? Those are all different things.

BlocknGhost · 2023-11-01T12:13:02+00:00

Confidence comes from accomplishing things, especially for guys.

Learn new skills, do well in class, improve your bank account (not the biggest factor in college, but still good to start early) improve your body and physical appearance, socialize more and better. This is how you gain confidence.

kclanton80 · 2023-10-31T21:56:10+00:00

Progression towards a worthwhile goal.

HODL_monk · 2023-11-02T19:04:02+00:00

I'm going to take a different tone than the other posters, because I think college is mostly just a scam for people to use daddy's money to get laid. Its really important to 'nail the launch' of your life, and maybe now isn't the best time to have a pity party here, or chase skirts harder. Yes, college is a great place to get laid, probably much better than Real Life, but you are kind of running out of college by year 3 (or at least you should be), you've got a lot of 'stuff' in your life, with college, job, gym, and music, so maybe there is just too much on your plate to really put the time needed to get girls, and since its clear a lot more effort is needed to get that going, maybe its actually monk mode time, depending on your major, it might be better to roll hard on an internship or first job. My experience is that things can go south long term, if you get stuck in those contractor jobs. Yes, the pay is decent, but its probably not a good long term plan (unless you contract as a software developer...) Once the 'good life' is off the ground and pulling up the wheels, you will probably have more time (or can make more time) to dive into the kitty cat world...

Title	How do I gain back my confidence
Author	Till_Such
Upvotes	20
Comments	29
Date	October 31, 2023 2:08 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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