She hasn't texted back, how do I play this?

Taco_Truck_Aficionad · 2018-02-13T14:31:52+00:00

I texted her the next day and she responded. We talked for a bit,

You didn't talk. You texted like a 13 year old faggot.

BusterVadge · 2018-02-13T14:11:01+00:00

You killed it with too much conversation. Too much texting ALWAYS kills attraction. Don't do it.

Triadis3 · 2018-02-13T13:59:54+00:00

Don't text HER back.

Kratos74 · 2018-02-13T15:40:30+00:00

Watch the Corey Wayne videos on this for your answer. In summary until she texts you you’re radio silent for at least few days. Then if you’ve been dating for longer than a month give her a call to say hey sweetheart let’s go out and have fun- if she reacts in a way other than definite interest in a time and place back off completely until she sets a date.

fnordsnord · 2018-02-13T19:51:04+00:00

Wait three days, text one more time, and go with "Time to get that coffee we talked about. I'll be at X place at Y time."

Then radio silent. If you don't hear back, you're done. If you get any thing other than "yes" or an offer to re-schedule, you're done. And re-schedule RIGHT THEN. If she won't re-schedule, you're done.

bewares · 2018-02-13T14:47:07+00:00

Look bro, as a mindset for the future when texting girls and she stops responding outta the blue or even if it’s a brief convo but she stops texting you...

Think of it like this, “Oh she’s playing hard to get.. better beat her at her own game”. Go radio silent for a few days until she texts back or if not, just next her like the other users have stated.

asapzombie · 2018-02-13T21:49:52+00:00

osirise · 2018-02-13T16:19:16+00:00

Here’s what my mentality is the day after having sex.

“Cool, that was fun. Im glad I got it out of the way. Now I can focus on my own shit.” Whatever that may be for you.

I then scan my calendar for the next week or so to see when it would be beneficial for me to have sex again. Let’s say today is Tuesday and I’m busy until Sunday. Perfect. That means I’m going to contact her on Saturday and ask her to hang out on Sunday. This could be the same girl or a different girl. If you only have one on rotation that’s cool.

If she texts me first that’s fine. I respond. If she wants to hang out before Sunday I tell her no. I’m busy. I’m not playing games here I legit keep my life busy. Sometimes they throw a fit here it’s important that you stay true to yourself and your calendar.

Unless you have some real good rapport. Definitely stick to only logistics when texting. Once you know each other better you can text more shit but until then build the attraction face to face.

The important thing here is to have the mentality that you have shit to do. You have goals to achieve. You have a fucking dragon to slay. You don’t have time for petty shit or emotional crap. It’s not a game we pretend to play to be attractive to women. It’s what you have to be.

Always put yourself first. She just has a very specific need to fill in your life. Depending on where you are in life, that need may be sex, it may be companionship, it may be emotional support, it may be being a mother to your children. She is not the goal. She is not what drives this engine.

Good luck

Travis2310 · 2018-02-13T15:24:56+00:00

Delete her number and move the fuck on. Too many other girls out there to worry about one.

RedPillIsTruth2 · 2018-02-13T13:55:01+00:00

hard next this is lost

RedLegendx · 2018-02-13T15:49:04+00:00

Dude lol, you should have waited a couple of days for the first text and used 4-5 texts Max back and forth and set up something definite for a week from then.

She’s not texting back because she got bored of you already through texts, don’t text her ever again, when she reaches out set up that damn date with a day and time and disappear and meet her that day.

RAiderNat88 · 2018-02-13T15:44:07+00:00

After a bit more talk and a dead end convo I texted her the next asking "how are you?"

There's no need to keep talking, you started boring her with your lame text game so in the future just keep the texting as a method of setting up meetups.

I'm thinking wait another day or two

Wait 3 days then set up a date for next week. Keep it down to a 2day window and don't make the date too long. You want her to know that you have other shit going on in your life.

OracleofFl · 2018-02-13T16:13:11+00:00

What do you mean by "hooked up"? In the TRP world hooking up is banging her. Are you saying you just got her phone number?

MattyAnon · 2018-02-13T20:31:40+00:00

Assuming she never responds, how do I play this?

Ignore for 2-3 days and then hit her up again. What have you to lose?

"tell me your schedule so I can take you out girl"

Urgh hell no. TELL her the schedule, then tell her to cancel everything to meet up with you.

Ils24 · 2018-02-13T17:50:28+00:00

I say if you really like her chase her...some women are worth it and some just play hard to get or try to weed out who really likes them and who just wants the poon. Since you were already physical she may be trying to avoid acting like a slut.

Don't be afraid to text her again, but text her with plans I.e you wanna go out on this date and here bla bla. Just take more than a few days...give it at least a week. You don't want to seem thirsty.

I've been kind of playing cat and mouse with a girl of late...I cancelled plans on her and she's been really hot and cold ever since....only on the phone though. But when I see her she lights up and hints at hanging out again.

But again, wait a week...even two if you can make it that far.

Even though you really like her...treat her like a plate.

Title	She hasn't texted back, how do I play this?
Author	The-Drapery-Falls
Upvotes	6
Comments	33
Date	February 13, 2018 1:52 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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