My wife has several psychological issues, stemming from poor self-esteem, warped thinking patterns, extreme jealousy (jealously towards her own daughter) and in general bitter towards everything.

We are married for 10+ years with a daughter in middle school. I consider our situation complex because we are immigrants to the US, married in home country and wife/kid are on dependent visas, while I’m the only employed breadwinner.

I’ve self taught myself a ton of psychology, such as CBT, ACT etc, and I’m able to live a healthy, relatively happy life under the circumstances.

The issue now is that she has mentioned her wishes to get divorced, multiple times. I haven’t bought a house in US because I don’t want to make such big investments in this situation.

I do have about $500k US$ saved in bank accounts for my daughters college and our retirement. I’m pretty sure this money is her target as well.

What can I do to prepare myself ? Can I ensure the money is saved till my daughter goes to college, without letting my wife spend all of her portion if the divorce happens ?

Is there any other way to “flee the country with the money” and after 5-6 years send it directly to my daughter after she is 18+?

I read some thing about a “underground railway” dad support group like “fathers in exile”, can that help me?