I am new to RPW and I have spent the last few days reading up and learning what I need to know. This all makes complete sense and resonates completely . I can see how the red pill approach could completely change my relationship. That being said I will now be implementing and living by the red pill approach.

Since joining this sub reddit I have realised I have a HVM that I have seriously taken for granted. I have nagged for years, been unappreciative and focused on everything he wasn’t doing rather than the many many many things he was doing. He is 17 years older than me and after being together for 6 or 7 years I can now look back and see I have been immature in so many areas. I have also expected so much from him without offering him any reason to want to fulfill these expectations . I have been pretty toxic when I think about it in the sense that I’ve often acted out of insecurity and a need to control and domineer everything. RPW has allowed me to see all the ways I have disrespected and emasculated someone who is actually a great provider and committed too. He owns his home, has a high paying job and has e sure I never go without. He takes me out for dinners and even upgraded my car. When we had a very short break up he kept my two dogs and cared for them as he didn’t want them to be rehomed. He’s a great man and Also I should of learnt STFU like 6 years ago.. On reflection I can see that I haven’t been showing respect or interacting in a way that would hype my man up and make him feel valued.

From now on I will be dedicated to being a RPW. Any tips or advice for me? I imagine it’s going to take a while to see results/a difference in my man… this is because I think it’s going to take a while for him to be receptive to the approach after years of me being a bratty, entitled, childish bitch. I really need to build him up as a RPW. I am truly ashamed of my behaviour and this subreddit has only just made me aware of it now.

Also, Do you think I should acknowledge this newfound realisation to him and express my commitment to respect and honouring him? Or not mention it but just change my ways pronto? I know he has had some hard relationships and has been cheated on and scammed - even had an ex stage all his stuff being stolen for an insurance claim. He has also had exes standing on the driveway loudly degrading him by using his full name and making proclamations about the size of his penis for all of the neighbourhood to hear. He is also a full time father after his baby mamma disappeared when his son was three due to drug addiction. I don’t want to belittle him any further as this seems to be a theme for him in his intimate relationships. Please advise all the ways I can build him up and not be another shit women staining his self esteem and pride.