Hi guys I fell like this would be the best place to ask this question because the "rape counseling" sub isn't working and this is on my mind. So my question is was I Raped? In 2019 I fell asleep on a couch in my girlfriends parents living room we were watching TV when I fell asleep, I then woke up to her rubbing my genital until I had an erection. And I was shocked completely because we've never talked about doing something like this before and I've never just touched her parts whenever i felt like it. We had lots of sex, but I always waited for a time and a place. my body was completely aroused right then and there once I got past the surprise and I won't lie I wanted sex, but does that make it okay what she did? she touched me without consent and then I listened to my body completely after that moment of surprise left. She declined to my request and we continued the show and I left to go home. But years later I finally thought about that situation and thought that idk it just didn't feel right because I wouldn't do that to a partner unless we talked about it before hand. we broke up that same year after 3 years of dating. So my question is was that rape even though I really wanted sex in that moment, although today years later I don't even like the thought of what happened