painful pms - "periods arent that normal, women used to be pregnant or breastfeeding for years"; i am feeling hopeless again, despite leaving red pill

Exis007 · 2024-03-03T03:06:00+00:00

This seems like a weird sub to post this in, but whatever. The reality is that you need to talk to a doctor. And, if we're living in reality, more than one.

It really isn't true that women used to do anything. Over the whole course of human history, there have been numerous approaches to pregnancy, childbirth, and menstruation. People have used condoms and the pull out method for a long time. People counted and tracked cycles. People weren't just getting indiscriminately pregnant. More to the point, people didn't have sex as often for fear of pregnancy and often sent their partners to brothels so they weren't getting knocked up left, right and center. You have to remember that pregnancy was very deadly for most of human history. You just died if it went badly and that happened a lot. The entirety of human history features a lot of different strategies.

That said, you deserve a non-painful cycle. There are lots of ways to achieve that. You can be checked for things like PCOS and see if that's perhaps playing a role. You can be on continuous birth control such that you stop having a period or only have them infrequently. You might be required to take pregnancy tests, but that's nothing. Pee on a stick, go on on about your day. Contrary to popular belief, you don't always have to skip a week and have a period on the pill, ring, patch, whatever. You can just rock and roll straight through. If you are in sufficient pain, you might find a doctor who advises you on how to adjust yourself to such birth control. But when I say "see a lot of doctors" I do mean that, because you're probably going to have to doctor shop for a physician that takes you seriously and doesn't blow you off. It's sad but true. Women are often disregarded and dismissed, so you might have to kick over a few stones to find a gyno who is about helping you and not saying "Well, take some advil and suck it up". Birth control is probably the most obvious answer to either a much less painful period or no period at all. But if there's something going on with your reproductive system (cysts, fibroids, endo etc.) causing the pain there are other options. So your first port of call is a doctor and then another one if the first one doesn't take you seriously. You can find solutions here.

Stargazer1919 · 2024-03-03T10:03:09+00:00

but now im thinking im pretty much an idiot for menstruating. the only thing that just made me feel better enough to write about this, was knowing women dont experience menstruation for their entire life, either. at some point women dont menstruate- menopause. but the fact that im not pumping out babies and im in pain hurts. should i be in emotional pain?

This is extremely concerning that you believe this.

Get off the internet now and book a therapy appointment ASAP.

Your body doing what it was built to do says nothing about your intelligence or worth as a person.

Isis_goddess3000 · 2024-03-03T03:29:32+00:00

You need to go to the r/PCOSsub reddit..I have PCOS too..you are not alone you need to go to a doctor that specializes in PCOS .

SweelFor- · 2024-03-03T13:01:55+00:00

Are you treated by a psychiatrist?

Grand-Connection-234 · 2024-03-03T13:04:59+00:00

Please see a therapist, I get abit emotional on period days but not like this.

oldcousingreg · 2024-03-03T22:42:27+00:00

Serious question: did you learn about periods in school?

Jumpy-Middle-304 · 2024-03-05T19:13:24+00:00

It’s retarded logic do u really think Periods are more painful then pregnancy and especially childbirth + the 30-40day “period” you get after birth?

thrownawaytodaysr · 2024-03-07T18:59:01+00:00

I second that this is a little weird to post here, but...

dealing with painful pms, looking things up on reddit related to menstruation, i am ex red pill

Very sorry to hear about the period cramps/pain.

finding a comment from a thread i looked into saying that. it was a non red pill sub. but now im thinking im pretty much an idiot for menstruating. the only thing that just made me feel better enough to write about this, was knowing women dont experience menstruation for their entire life, either. at some point women dont menstruate- menopause. but the fact that im not pumping out babies and im in pain hurts. should i be in emotional pain?

Pumping out babies isn't exactly great for one's health and would be a horrible pay off for losing the cramps. I don't know your age nor your medical access, but hormonal IUDs are a great assist for both reducing the severity of period pain, and even potentially eliminating periods altogether. They are also low-risk for insertion/removal.

But women weren't just constantly pumping out babies. Some may have. Others died in labour. Others opted out of having children. Others never wed and never had children. And so on. There's no one standard.

greeneggsandhannah · 2024-03-08T00:39:02+00:00

As others have commented, PCOS could be at play here, but I'd also recommend researching PMDD

Title	painful pms - "periods arent that normal, women used to be pregnant or breastfeeding for years"; i am feeling hopeless again, despite leaving red pill
Author	Outrageous_Touch231
Upvotes	6
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Date	March 3, 2024 2:30 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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