Often when a man opens up about his rape by a woman, he’s subjected to ridiculous responses like “you were hard, you must have been enjoying it” (even though an erection doesn’t equal consent), or “you’re bigger and stronger and she’s tiny- why didn’t you just push her off?”- just because someone’s “tiny” doesn’t make them less capable of raping somebody, and just because somebody’s “big and strong” doesn’t make them less capable of being a victim. Nobody would be using that analogy if it was a, let’s say, 5’4 men who raped a 5’8 woman. Nobody, and I mean nobody, would be saying to the female victim- “you’re bigger and stronger- why didn’t you just push him off?” , so why is it acceptable when it comes to men?

To me, saying to a male victim of a female perpetrator “why didn’t you just push her off” is the equivalent of saying to a female rape victim “why didn’t you just wear a different outfit?”- they’re both ridiculous victim-blaming.