What does it mean when she keeps talking about guys hitting on her? Is she playing games?

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Affectionate-Hand788 · 2022-10-11T09:52:03+00:00

It’s a test. She’s making herself sound desirable so that you’ll confess you desire her also. It’s one of the ways women flirt. Play it cool and make sure it appears to not phase you. Down play it by embracing it and asking her how many of those guys did she make out with? Tease her and say probably none of them and slide over a mint or some gum. Next time she mentions something like that tell her a milf grabbed your ass when you were at the supermarket and winked at you when you caught her. By the time you got home the ice cream you bought had melted.

James_Cruse · 2022-10-11T10:34:07+00:00

This is common behaviour in women that I’m casually seeing or just having sex without commitment.

What she’s trying to highlight is two things:

“We’re not in an exclusive relationship - and see I could go on a date with any one of these guys that approach me. I get approached alot & I’m hot.”
She’s also saying - “I won’t stay single long and if you don’t commit to me - I have a bunch of other (great) options that will because see, I get approached. I am scarce so you better get me in a relationship commitment before it’s too late and I start dating one of these other guys. There’s a time limit for you hehe”
It’s a test to see if she can sway you. She’s thinking “Let’s see how much pressure I can put on him - is he confident enough to not crack when I tell him about these guys. If he gets jealous, haha, I’ve got him”. She wants a man that is strong and way above her in value as a partner. If you crack over this, it will often indicate to her that she may be of higher value than you and she should be aiming abit higher by dating another guy, not always, but alot more testing will follow this if she does.

Now the actual truth: she doesn’t have alot of relationship options, 99% of those guys want to fuck her only and you’re her best option otherwise she wouldn’t be with you. You’re more high value than those guys or she would be with one of them, evidently.

The next truth: she desperately wants you to commit to her but she wants you to propose it - don’t ever do this.

Take your time and relaxed and Always let a woman ask YOU for commitment because her coming to you with it means you can set the terms of that commitment and the relationship, not her.

If you panic and lock her down with an exclusive relationship just because you’re jealous of all the other guys that approach her: you’ll act hasty, you’ll make rash decisions, you don’t think straight and you look needy and then she ends up setting the terms of your relationship, which will certainly NOT be favourable to you. All because you’re desperate to take her off the market so those other guys don’t get her first.

This is all a gambit to pressure you with jealousy and scarcity, don’t fall for it. Laugh it off and have fun with it. “Wow, that second guy sounded fun - you should definately go on a date with him, you might get a really great meal out of it or better yet get married to him, I’ll be the priest” and laugh about it like she’s an embarassing loser for telling you about these guys approaching her. Make fun of her in a playful way. It’s a shit test, so treat it like one.

Treat it like you now know she’s really really interested in you because she’s pulling out the hardcore gambits to see what you’ll do. Allow that to build confidence in your better position in the relationship and smile to her about it.

AndyTateIsRight · 2022-10-11T15:27:57+00:00

She’s letting you know you can be easily replaced. Never date a woman that pulls that

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-11T09:08:52+00:00

She is thirsty, she wants you to pin her hard to the wall. She is making such statements for you to feel the hot ground to make something happen. I wonder why guys often don't assume that, lol.

That doesn't mean of course for you to be dull straightforward. Make it an exciting game nevertheless.

infinexis · 2022-10-11T08:50:39+00:00

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AndyTateIsRight · 2022-10-11T17:52:41+00:00

she wants you to take ownership of her, its obvious as day and I only read 2 sentences

Legitimate-Remove302 · 2022-10-11T18:20:49+00:00

she is seeking attention / approval, and to spark a little bit of jealousy and protectiveness in you, and apply time pressure by insinuating "everyone else thinks i'm hot so you should too" "i have so many options i clearly won't be single for long so you better hurry up before i notice/am noticed by someone else" hoping your standard heuristics and cognitive biases will kick in.

the purpose of this is to force you to make a decision quickly in the face of uncertainty, hoping that you must then ignore/overlook/not discover any relevant factors causing you to not desire a relationship with her.

if you like her, let her know so she can calm down and not have to text dumb shit like that

if you dont want a girlfriend right now, or just not her let her know so she can calm down and not have to text dumb shit like that.

Title	What does it mean when she keeps talking about guys hitting on her? Is she playing games?
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Date	October 11, 2022 8:47 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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