How do I deal with people playing hard to get?

2022-10-09T00:03:32+00:00

You had one date and talking about trauma and I love you’s? I don’t think it’s hard to get. Might be also “lashing out” if you aren’t getting attention and it’s hurting your ego. Good time for introspection.

lildudefromXdastreet · 2022-10-09T01:00:14+00:00

You’re getting way too deep with these girls. It’s a first date, why the fuck are you even considering discussing traumas? Sounds like you’re getting way too attached and clingy. And if I can sense that through Reddit, TRUST ME the girls can sense that. Talk to more girls

ImNotReadyForThis · 2022-10-08T22:57:02+00:00

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creativedave73 · 2022-10-09T01:54:27+00:00

First date and you're sharing traumas and life stories? You're trying to create a connection, when you should be creating attraction.

Just have fun. Get her laughing and do something fun together. You don't have to know that much about each other.

She's just a girl you went on one date with. Make her want you to take her out again. If she wants to see you, she'll be the one to reach out.

I'd find it a bit crazy for a woman to start talking about marriage and children on the first date...and almost declaring love?

Sounds unstable to me, so you're probably getting unstable women who say things like they want to hang out. Hang out is how friends talk. Then they tell you they'll text you the details and get mad when you don't text them.

If the women you're on a first date with are sharing traumas, life stories and asking about marriage and children, and almost declaring love, you should probably not want a second date. You're going to get unstable behavior from them.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-08T22:54:54+00:00

they are not playing hard to get. no one in 2022 does this unless they got their entire concept of dating from books published in 1912.

they are not that into you. if it's happening repeatedly i'd bet a house it's something you're doing.

Mr_Throwaway2834 · 2022-10-09T01:29:12+00:00

Be cocky

2022-10-09T03:20:13+00:00

They’re attention whores looking for validation and you’re the guy willingly to give it to them. Don’t be their lap dog and don’t give your feelings up so easy. Stay detached and play it cool. You’ll be surprised to learn most (not all) of these women are not worth getting serious about.

2022-10-09T06:51:49+00:00

Well, her emotions dropped after some time of your meeting and she sees no clear transition for further escalation. You need to potentially make her think about you by creating unfinished matters and hunger for intimacy. First date is not supposed to be a deal maker, it's rather a gate to check if there is something more between you.

Also, you would rather not want to date with someone who is playing cold with your emotions.

help-im-alive451 · 2022-10-09T08:13:02+00:00

Sounds like average girls with the god incarnate mindset. Red flags. Simply put they're keeping you hung by a thread as it's not a problem. But you on the other hand are here posting.

Artist-in-Residence- · 2022-10-09T09:50:38+00:00

The recent girl asked me to hang out and said she would "let me know the details <3" and then never texted me.

I don't think it is because you're dealing with people playing hard to get but that you're attracting people who tend to be flakey, don't do what they say they will, and have a tendency to be inconsiderate.

These people tend to be conflict-avoidant, in which they won't communicate something that might disappoint other people, and tend to not say anything at all. Conflict avoidant people tend to be introverted sensors, ISFP/ISFJ types and also extroverted feelers ENFP/ ENFJ types.

They tend to ghost, blow people off and avoid negative conversations. Of course, this doesn't apply to all people of this type, but generally if being inconsiderate and flakey annoys you, then I would just focus on people who return your energy and effort instead of assuming they're playing hard to get.

Women who are "hard to get" usually expect you to move mountains for them, give you lots of shit tests and expect you to do the impossible lol

Title	How do I deal with people playing hard to get?
Author	ImNotReadyForThis
Upvotes	5
Comments	24
Date	October 8, 2022 9:59 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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