i read the reports of some dudes here and it's like yall are in a rush to nail her before she finds out you're a piece of shit and ghosts.

this was really confusing to me because if i took that approach i would be an absolute failure. i have been absurdly successful with women, but zero of them came from cold approaches. seriously. i would be less successful than most of you going up to a woman out of the blue. why? because of a double edged sword i call looking scary as fuck.

seriously. my default expression is 'pissed' and i'm a big, scary dude. i am so unsettling by default that i'd bet that if i walked up to you out of the blue and started conversation you would feel uncomfortable and threatened, let alone a woman literally half my size. i would pick up zero women cold approaching.

my approach is almost glacial. it takes people a fair amount of time before they'll stop judging a book by the cover, and that's expected and allowed. i don't even hit on a woman until she no longer feels threatened. however once i put in the groundwork, miracles occasionally happen. some women really, really like dudes who look fucking horrifying to everyone else but feel safe and familiar to them.

i literally need time for women to get to know me before i have a hope in hell. the vast majority of women don't find me attractive and that's cool, but they don't find me less attractive after getting to know me. the ones who do dig my brand of hideous only become more attracted with time.

this is my style, and it works for me. maybe there's a few people out there who can relate to this a little better than typical game.