This is one of those interesting things about dating the are vastly more likely to affect men than women. According to actual research, the label of creepy is applied to men roughly 95% of the time.
So what do? The cliche around here is that good looking = not creepy and ugly = creepy and honestly I'm not interested in arguing against that. People who believe this aren't able to be reasoned out of this position. I want to talk about your behaviour.
Behaviors such as "being unusually quiet and staring (34%), following or lurking (15%), behaving abnormally (21%), or in a socially awkward, "sketchy" or suspicious way (20%)" are all contributing to a feeling of creepiness, as described by Watt et al.'s study
Uh oh. you know what I thought? Autistic guys, we've got some work to do.
I think I can provide three strategies that will nearly eliminate those behaviours or the effects those behaviours might have.
1) If you've been told you have an awkward, uncomfortable manner, you can discipline yourself and retrain your body language, or, you could just be honest about it. Whenever I'd be chatting with a girl early on and I'd feel the conversation lull and worry I've made things awkward, I'd tell her. I'd just say 'sorry about my awkwardness, I'm a recovering introvert' (social disabilities weren't as accepted back then). 9/10 times they laugh and say it's fine and things are chill. Your awkwardness is way less creepy when the girls know it's something you're aware of and working on.
2) Do not have ulterior motives. You see this bit:
"sketchy" or suspicious way
You know what causes those feelings? Ulterior motives. It's literally in the definitions of sketchiness
dishonest or disreputable.
and suspicious
causing one to have the idea or impression that someone or something is questionable, dishonest, or dangerous.
So be honest about your intentions.
3) Don't lurk / stalk. Just in general. This is something you can just not do.
Sources:
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0732118X16300320?via%3Dihub
https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fcbs0000066
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