I’ve asked this question on another sub, but they were really unresponsive.

Thanks in advance.

Hello, (still) virgin here. Here’s my problem.

I’m about to have sex for the very first time. We kissed, I sucked her breasts, and ate her out. Spent about 25 min on foreplay. She sucks me off in an attempt to get me hard. She got me hard for about 35 seconds, enough for me to get in and pump a couple of times. After that time period, I go limp. We tried again, with the same approach only instead she used the top of her thumb to stimulate the underside of my penis. I got hard again, couldn’t put on the condom and stay hard for more than 45 seconds.

After this happened a 3rd time. I called it quits. My mind just wasn’t in the mood to have sex. I tried to remain calm and serious throughout the whole thing and told her to leave. She did, and told me she really wanted to get some dick, but she’d comeback if I could fix the issue. I told her thanks, and she left.

Why couldn’t I get up for longer than 45 seconds? Are there any factors that come into play here?

Some I can think of

  • I have watched porn quite a bit since I was about 13 years old (I’m 18 now).
  • I’ve never had trouble getting hard when I watch porn or just masturbate to sexual thoughts
  • I have a weird masturbation technique where I stimulate myself by rubbing the underside of my penis on a smooth-ish material. It works pretty well.
  • I did smoke before the encounter
  • I was extremely sleepy before the encounter and during it.

Should I get viagra or cialis?

EDIT 1: Just masturbated to the mere though of having sex with said woman and I had a huge climax.