Whenever you give in to approach anxiety, you reconfirm the idea that you’re not good enough!

tristian_lay · 2022-09-14T16:58:12+00:00

Facts. For me I don’t have any issues in business bc I’m confident in my product but for some reason when it comes to attracting women I take it more personal

gulaschgel · 2022-09-14T18:07:37+00:00

I like to think of one's first approaches as something akin to leveling up at the beginning of an RPG. You're trying to get those EXP for a few nice level ups until you become a force in the world, tedious as it is to grind trough. Of course you also ( often) need to upgrade your personals ( body, Finance, socials, style) but approaching should always be at the top of one's ladder if you wanna get serious about it.

Shadowboxxin · 2022-09-14T21:22:57+00:00

Man this hit hard. I’m 31 now, with zero cold approach/day game experience. Just getting out of a 5 year relationship with a girl I met through mutual friends and trying to learn the ropes. I have crippling approach anxiety and I am trying to overcome my demons. I just need to make that first approach, even a cold hard rejection would feel like a weight off my shoulders.

Kundalini-Electric · 2022-09-14T16:45:16+00:00

Well said. I needed to hear this thank you

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-09-14T17:16:54+00:00

She’s just a woman who pisses and shits just like you do

epimpstyle · 2022-09-14T17:19:37+00:00

Do you know a beggar with approach anxiety? :-)

rudedesign4899 · 2022-09-14T19:21:00+00:00

Same goes for really attractive guys too fyi. Speaking as one who also have experienced choking up in my words and topics to talk about if I find someone too attractive.

Bret_Abderahmen · 2022-09-14T18:47:32+00:00

Happened to me today i was walking Nd reading reply on reddit and listening to music and when i saw her she was gorgeous i was going to approach her but it was kinda too late

What I've learned today is i shouldn't wear headphones when you're walking somewhere with the intent to approach

It will take u time to stop the music and take the headphones and shit

Those 4 seconds makes up the biggest difference

Being on your phone while walking on the street will make u lose so many chances and ur soulmate moght pass u by and you're not even aware of it

vegeta1418 · 2022-09-14T23:44:37+00:00

What if I want to approach many women that I find attractive? In the same vicinity lol. Won’t I look bad or desperate?

cryptosis420 · 2022-09-15T00:56:52+00:00

Before i approach i say to myself "WHO DAFUQ HAS THE BALLS TO DO THAT"

Throwawaycauseimvery · 2022-09-17T10:40:28+00:00

Confidence comes from results tho, not from thin air. If the women you approach reject you then your confidence will drop, it's natural. It's like boxing and losing all your matches, you will not be confident stepping on the ring.

Bret_Abderahmen · 2022-09-14T17:59:40+00:00

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2022-09-14T19:33:03+00:00

Any guy could pay his way into sex, or find some old cougar to date. This sub is obviously about finding the best possible woman, not whatever is easiest.

So, if she's an attractive woman with any self worth or value, you know she's going to have other guys who want her. Wherever she goes. You know subliminally you are competing with the other men she comes into contact with.

Approach anxiety is a battle in your conscience of short term effort vs long term effort. You can practice the "pickup tactics" and "opening conversations" in one afternoon all you want.

Your long term reward neurons are screaming that you haven't put in the long term effort to build a person FAR better than her other options. You know you want her to not have to decide between you and another guy. You want to blow her mind with seduction.

For example, how much anxiety do you have going into a test you've studied your ass off for, VS a test you haven't studied well for? Your long term anxiety alarms are justified then, right?

That is what I believe is the source of, "approach anxiety."

2022-09-14T17:50:25+00:00

Neat

2022-09-14T20:16:59+00:00

It's much more ambiguous. Giving in to excuses is also about protecting your ego and avoiding rejections. The real damage of passivity is the wasted chance.

If you confindence and self-esteem are not solid enough, rejections can reconfirm negative ideas about yourself as well. Most interactions are rejections. So often passivity is about protecting yourself from the harsh reality of approaching, which is in a way the opposite of what you said.

2022-09-15T06:59:58+00:00

You rather need to embrace anxiety, don't fight with it. You approach a girl, not because you want to win over anxiety, but because you want to interact with her WITH your anxiety.

lame_birdd · 2022-09-15T08:49:27+00:00

I needed this actually. This August i cold approached 5 different women and got into conversation which is a big deal. But i had my cousin over at the place later in the month. So I couldn't go out to approach women. Somehow I reverted to my progress on my approach anxiety. These first two weeks of September i haven't cold approached anyone. i have to get my shit together and push myself to take action. How my anxiety came back i have no idea.

mrkenzo1950 · 2022-09-15T11:59:35+00:00

You need Knowledge and a Plan, an overall Plan on how to meet approach talk escalate with women. Then you need a Work Assignment for the day what you are going to do that day to get results.

Title	Whenever you give in to approach anxiety, you reconfirm the idea that you’re not good enough!
Author	RobertRKonen
Upvotes	161
Comments	52
Date	September 14, 2022 4:35 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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