For some context im 27 years old tunsian and live in germany .. i have one of the worst approach and social anxiety ever and i never had a girlfriend

In the last four months after lurking in seddit for years i decided to take action and started with the gradual exposure program to fix my anxiety . Asking girls about the time until i get comfortable doing it and then adding direction to it and then compliments . I spoke to over 1000 girls the last 4 months

Today i decided im going to end the gradual exposure program and start cold approaching . I went to the city center around 10 pm with a friend whos been gaming for a while and who have fixed his anxiety. I had the mindset that i must at least talk to 5 girls before i can go home . I thought it was not going to be hard after i ve spoken to a lot of girls but i was so fucking wrong . It was scary as fuck , my mind tried to talk me out of it but i persisted . I wanted to approach a girl a couple of times but i could not . Its was as if there were invisible hands blocking me everytime i wanted to take a move .

After a lot of struggle i went to the first girl and said " hey i saw you for a moment and thought you were cute thats why i wanted to say hi ". I was so scared i could not breath and spoke too fast 😂 i told her my name , reached my hand for a hand shake , she gave me her name but then told she s in a hurry to catch the train . So i told her good bye and left . I felt so awkward after that approach but also so proud .

The second approach was a cute girl who was waiting for the train and doing some funny dance moves . I approached with the same opener and complemented her dance moves . We talked for 6 minutes until the train arrived . Sometimes i felt i was blocked and i could not think or speak straight but she was actually into it , she even asked me a lot of questions about myself . But when i told her i wanted to meet her again and asked for her number she told me she was not intrested but thanked me nonetheless for approaching her . I told her goodbye and left . I was so fucking proud of myself and it felt like a lot of weight has been taken of my back .

I did 3 other approaches where the girls dismissed quickly but respectfully 😂 . I started to notice every approach getting a tiny bit easier and i was very happy that i completed the 5 approaches even if i did not get any number . My metric of succes was not getting numbers or getting the girls to like me . It was taking action despite my fears and anxieties and approaching the girl no matter what her reaction is . My goal now is to cold approach 5 girls a day everyday and to get used to taking action despite the anxiety . Hopefully my post can motivate some folks to go out and approach and take action . If even i can do it , anyone can ...

(Excuse my english , its not my native language)