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[–]FreeDependent9 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think she deserves better than you, and you should just leave her be.
[–]ashcakeseverywhere 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Haha xD Gold. The whole conversation seemes sensible until second to last paragraph were op comes across as a complete freak.
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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude, if you really want a serious thing are are happy settling down you hit the jackpot. If you wanna fuck around some more do that and let her find someone else but u said you had plenty of experiences so it's only incremental fun from now on.
If i was you i'd def wait as long as needed, a woman with a good personality submissive that hasn't been on the c**k carousel is a very rare thing. That's wife material
[–]YourDustyLampshade 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you want a serious relationship with this woman, you’ve got to quit worrying about what all you could’ve been doing with other women. That’s not going to help at all. Is there any particular reason why she refuses to have sex or is she simply just afraid? If she’s afraid then easy peasy lemon squeezy, all you’ve got to do is make her comfortable. If for any other particular reason, then you need to respect that. But you also still need to make her want it, make her long for it. And obviously, when you finally do get to it, you need to communicate with her. Figure out what she is enjoying and what she isn’t. Make sure you let her know that you just absolutely fucking love whatever is going on otherwise the insecurities won’t go away.
[–]JanetInSC1234 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why should she trust you when you're already thinking about sex with other girls? She's probably looking for someone, who, you know, actually loves her.
[–]CloutComputing 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm a virgin, send her to me please
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I married a woman who lost her virginity to me. I’m divorced now. Our sex life was decent when we were dating, but as time went on, it really started to suffer. She was closed-off sexually. She was self-conscious about letting me go down on her, rarely tried different positions, etc.
Most guys get this idea in their head that marrying a virgin or a woman with little experience is the goal, but they often are insecure sexually, especially if they grew up in a religious setting, or body insecurities are there.
You don’t want to be with someone who gives everyone a turn, but it’s much better to be with a woman long term who has some experience, knows what she likes, is kinky, and gets turned on by giving and receiving oral. Just because a woman has sexual experience doesn’t mean she won’t be faithful.
[–]Mornin23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry to hear that bro, this is probably the best reply to this thread, advice wise. Unfortunately the divorce rate is well over 50% these days and men always lose in court. It’s a cold world
[–]MywarUK 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Trust me, you’re going to look back wt this post in a few years and kick your self. Some virgins stay with their partner, where as some also then want to experience sex with other people. Start shy, end up a sex freak…. Careful which one you got right now ;)
[–]CocoBabeNYC -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Lol for wanting a virgin. Your funeral man
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. Putting virgins and extremely low body count women on a pedestal is more about the guy’s insecurity. If you have a lot of experience with women yourself, it doesn’t matter. Women who are sexually experienced don’t intimidate you.
[–]Mornin23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Easiest way for a woman to show her value is a low body count, it has nothing to do with insecurity or being good in bed. Or being intimidated lol.
The women who preach loudest about body count not mattering will still lie about it, because even they know. C’mon now.
[–]JanetInSC1234 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Well, we know that some guys are too insecure to realize that a healthy woman also has sexual needs and has had sexual experiences. Do you want a woman who really enjoys sex, knows how to make her lover feel great, and wants to have sex for the long term? Then choose someone with experience.
[–]Mornin23 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Having experience doesn’t require a high body count. Hell, being better in bed comes faster with one partner over a longer period of time rather than several. So let’s not get on that
But in reality the concept is simple. Men have never been sexually selective, women are. A woman with a high body count shows that she isn’t very selective about who she lets have sex - and make no mistake, women are the gatekeepers of sex. A good metaphor is the old supply and demand - it’s not as valuable if it’s easily accessible.
But tbf, the biggest one for me is paid bonding. Casual sex with several partners leads to a decrease in oxytocin and makes it harder to form a long term bond with a partner or even children. There’s no getting past that.
[–]JanetInSC1234 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Strong disagree. I'm passionate and love intimacy. Intimacy is the best part of sex. And cuddling. If I shared my body with someone, it was a gift. (I did make some stupid choices, but that was part of growing up. It's to be expected.)
[–]Mornin23 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Your disagreement is irrelevant - this is factual, not based on opinion.
[–]JanetInSC1234 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sure it is. /s
[–]Draigi0n -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
Virginity is a social construct that needs to be erased. Imo
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[–]Draigi0n -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why should it matter to anyone?
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[–]Draigi0n -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tell who what. I stated an opinion.
Totally agree.
[–]Mornin23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
That is the opposite of a social construct lmao
[–]Draigi0n 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
How so?
[–]Mornin23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
it’s very literally one word for whether or not you’ve had sex - there’s no “construct” here.
[–]Draigi0n 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Words are social constructs. They only have meaning because enough people agree they do. Virginity as a word meaning "has not had 1 or more sexual partners" isn't a bad thing but this whole idea that it's a special and important state is stupid.
[–]Mornin23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If every word is a social construct then the term itself has no meaning. 😂
Look, nobody cares that much if a girl is a virgin - not in western society anyway. But a low body count, that matters.
[–]Draigi0n 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If every word is a social construct then the term itself has no meaning.
Words only have meaning because enough humans agree they do. They are literally constructed socially.
And sll of these comments are under a post abt a guy asking for a virgin lady. Evidently not nobody.
[–]Mornin23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
😂😂 whatever dude. Keep living in your world where the consequences of actions are the world’s fault for having vocabulary
[–]Draigi0n 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That doesn't really match with anything I've said so far?
[–]Mornin23 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
1- you can be banging other girls in the meantime. If she’s making you wait for sex, then you don’t need to commit to her.
2- she probably isn’t a virgin bro
3- my go-to here would be literally not to let her touch me intimately until she was ready to have intercourse. Kissing, whatever. No blowjobs, handjobs, all that - just tell her “you’re obviously not comfortable and that’s ok” or whatever. She’ll think that restraint (you’re not so needy as to need a shitty hand/blown job from a virgin) is hot, and on a better note then she’s actually not doing anything until she’s ready
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think being exclusive with someone you’re not fucking is actually absurd. I also think spending 2 months with someone you’re not fucking is absurd.
You can do what you want, but it blows me away that you’re willing to invest another 2-3 weeks. Even if it happens tomorrow, is the juice worth the squeeze? Feels like you’re chasing her.
As someone that is now in their 30's the one girl I regret breaking up with that could have changed my life for the better was that type of girl you're referring to. I was 16 at the time. I'd do anything to go back in time and change it. I've never met a single person like her in my life. If she meets all the qualities you desire then Don't think with dick you will regret it later. Sex should not be the deciding factor. Just my 2 cents.
[–]poly_nerdy_panda -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck other chicks and don't focus on her
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