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| 1 | [FR] Inadvertently cold approached a girl but got anxious?I can't find it, you should send a PM instead. But we probably are | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 09:22 PM |
| 4 | Where do you find a wingman?I have the same concern. My "friends" either have girlfriends they met on an app, or don't like (crazy) bars. I don't either, but I would go with others. | /r/seduction | 15/07/22 01:22 AM |
| 9 | Cold approaching is fcking insane!I could've sworn I saw this EXACT same post a month ago | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 08:24 PM |
| 1 | How the hell am I supposed to curate an online image to attract girls?Makes sense | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How the hell am I supposed to curate an online image to attract girls?I'm 5'10" and lanky, so maybe the 1st example. Which is the problem because although I can get in the gym and build muscle, it'll take many years to get to something tangible. I'd have to imagine that even the way I am right now it can be possible | /r/seduction | 14/07/22 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone ever spotted a Daygamer/PUA in the wild?Do you really think he gives bad advice though? I think for cold approaching, he gives the best advice. | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 08:50 PM |
| 9 | How did you overcome not getting girls?A match a week (or more likely a month) means nothing to me if I'm constantly swiping, getting left on read, etc. Whereas in person, I know my worth is much higher and I can talk to anyone I choose. It doesn't mean they're single, but at least I won't get left on read as I'm taking to them face to face. | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Where do I meet women if I’m not into clubbing or dating apps?Same here | /r/seduction | 11/07/22 08:40 PM |
| 6 | at what age are women basically safe to creampie without risking pregnancy?I can't even get a date and these are the kind of questions on this sub Isn't this for r/sex? | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 10:24 PM |
| 7 | What kind of men do highly confident women generally fall for?I'm one of them I guess, yet I was raised in a stable 2 parent household. Don't know what I did wrong now at 26. | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Viewing yourself as a sexual person more?You ask a good question and haven't got good answers. I'm a virgin at 25 myself and struggle with this. For me, being sexual means jacking off. | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Best affordable city for a guy in his early 20s trying to meet attractive women?Buffalo, New York | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 04:40 AM |
| 5 | How to approach those who seem preoccupied/unapproachable?This is why it's probably important to be doing something while you cold approach. Like playing guitar or walking your dog or flying a drone in the park. Or you have a basket full of groceries. But what do I know? I haven't made 1 direct approach yet. | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 11:46 PM |
| 7 | Cold Approach is Not For EveryoneIf I wait for choosing signals, I will be a 40 year old virgin rather than a 25 year old one. The time is now for me to act and quit bullshitting. I've been reading this sub for 5 years and have nothing to show for it. Meanwhile, there are dudes 10 years younger than me who get it consistently. | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 11:22 PM |
| 13 | Cold Approach is Not For EveryoneWell in my case, many of the options you mentioned are not applicable for me. Online dating apps have been a sick joke for me since mid-2020. No matter how many profiles I swipe or like, or send messages to, I will usually get ignored or treated as a secondary option. My goal is to be the primary option. Of course, my pictures could use work, but all of the stars need to align for me to create the BEST pictures (setting, lighting, outfits, clear skin, fresh haircut) that it would take several mo… | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 08:30 PM |
| 3 | Stats on 40 Cold ApproachesAs a man I can confidently stare that dating apps almost never work for me. And I'm not ugly. But I am black, if that means anything. Maybe the message being sent to me is to cold approach, despite how inefficient it may be. Because the bar and the club is not my scene, and my social circle is nothing but dudes with significant others. | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Stats on 40 Cold ApproachesI live in this shithole called Buffalo, probably not too far from you. Let me tell you I know all of those African Lion Safari commercials. Maybe I'll use that as a date idea for girls I lose my virginity to, lol. But I am new to cold approaching and have heard going direct is more effective in breaking approach anxiety as opposed to indirect. I have never done direct, only indirect, and have never been able to transition to showing intent. Until I can bluntly show intent, I don't think I should… | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Most good posts are from years agoWell not everyone is extroverted and living the dream. I work 8 hours a day and do the best I can trying to cobble together a social circle, while maintaining a following on Instagram of just under 200 followers. I last posted in April of last year. I don't see why I need to build a social media following to attract women when I can just talk to them on the street. I have a very nice apartment in the so-called "hipster" section of town. That is enough to pull women to my place, without dating ap… | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Is America the greatest country in the world for dating?Because there aren't too many who grew up in a similar culture/lifestyle that I've had. My sister is an exception. But they're out there, there just aren't many. | /r/seduction | 06/07/22 03:04 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys look at waiting for sex with a girl who is a virgin and has all qualities to be someone you can a have a serious, long term relationship with?I'm a virgin, send her to me please | /r/seduction | 06/07/22 03:02 PM |
| 8 | Is America the greatest country in the world for dating?Well if you're black like myself who grew up around all whites people, you have a difficult time finding black women who will be into you | /r/seduction | 06/07/22 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Having props will bring attention to youWell i think you're right. This girl in the grocery store I was in was cute, and she may have been attracted to me. I don't really know, but I never showed intent in my interaction with her. These kinds of things only happen once in a blue moon. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 04:16 AM |
| 29 | Cold approached a Police WomanThe irony of this is that I saw a police car behind me earlier here in the US, and I always assume it's a big burly guy with a mustache. No, this was a girl with sunglasses and the windows rolled down cruising down the expressway. I joked to myself that I should've ran a light or something to get pulled over and then ask for her number after I got my ticket. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 03:27 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Talked to girl in grocery store but was too afraid to show intentYeah. The irony is that I was watching videos from a guy named A G Hayden on YouTube earlier, where he was talking about the game of Coach Kyle, and how he can elicit emotions out of the women he talks to. I am so new to socializing in this way, that i kind of have this barrier in my head where I can't show intent. I am very close to just going out and spam approaching, so I can get this irrational fear of rejection out of my head. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Having props will bring attention to youYeah and the issue is, I look too "nerdy" right now, so that combined with the drone gives off a stereotype of weakness, which I'm not trying to project. I will be in the gym at least a half hour starting this week. I've had glasses now for over 15 years. I wear the tortoiseshell ones. But as of this month, I will be trying contacts. My hair was a mess a lot of times. Now I get haircuts more frequently, which is a buzz fade. Of course, my social skills are not great and I tend to get nervous and… | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 07:30 PM |
| 2 | I'm married now, but I used to have a closing date of about 50%. Here's How.Well gym, cooking because I have to, and sadly, reading and watching content about seduction... but I'm trying to get back to doing what I used to like doing like flying my drone/photography, eventually will learn guitar | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | For some reason, I'm thinking about women, sex (virginity) and dating nearly 24/7. I can't even function properly anymoreI work from 1pm to 9:30pm. Not an ideal schedule for socializing, but the money is good. It's ideal for using dating apps, but I do the worst on these as well. In other words I am fucked. | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | For some reason, I'm thinking about women, sex (virginity) and dating nearly 24/7. I can't even function properly anymoreGreat tips, thank you. | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 04:28 PM |
| 2 | I'm married now, but I used to have a closing date of about 50%. Here's How.I have a question to everyone. I work from 1pm to 9:30pm+ Monday though Friday. I am not a fan of bars and clubs. As we all know, most groups and events where you can "build rapport" take place after the typical workday ends, which is after 5pm during the week. So what other things can I do? Cold approach during the day? | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 04:27 PM |
| 1 | For some reason, I'm thinking about women, sex (virginity) and dating nearly 24/7. I can't even function properly anymoreWell, I can PM the info to you. Would rather not post it with this account. | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 04:42 AM |
| 3 | For some reason, I'm thinking about women, sex (virginity) and dating nearly 24/7. I can't even function properly anymoreYeah, I was at 160+ before I started working a second shift and then moved out of the house. No more home cooking or 3 meals a day all the time means that I have to adjust a lot of things. I've spent a ton of money on take out food in the last 2 months just to get a lot of calories in. But I'm now starting to shift to a meal prep strategy. The wardrobe, I try to follow the so-called "basic bastard" on r/MaleFashionAdvice , which works somewhat, but it can be hard to get things to fit right (I ha… | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 03:25 AM |
| 1 | people on reddit always say things like "with that attitude no wonder you're a virgin/single" and "women are repulsed by you because you're a terrible person" but how much of it is true?That sounds like me, but what's the solution? "Treat women like people?" I always have. I just walked around the park for an hour after getting a fade buzz cut. I didn't draw any attention from women I would be into, or at least I don't believe I did. To top it off, I have a brand new apartment, with a balcony, in a busy part of town. My friend (really the only one I have left locally) said to me that I have a prime location just for dating. I told a white lie and said that's not why I moved her… | /r/seduction | 03/07/22 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Online dating openers. What works for you?Well we'd love to see it, please share what you have so we can all improve. I am lucky if I get a match a month, yet I've shared my pictures and have been told I have a lot of potential. | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 06:38 AM |
| 0 | When Im drunk Im very good at online gameIt only works if you have a good profile. If you're not getting matches to begin with, it doesn't matter how good your prompt responses are being drunk. | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 09:04 PM |
| 10 | Did having your own place make you approach women more?Exactly, I've been in my new apartment in the city center for 2 months now, and not 1 girl has sat on my couch. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?You have too much free time on your hands. I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom that I provide, and then questions the manner in which I provide it. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?So you think it's immoral? Why? | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 04:38 PM |
| 1 | If you're a virgin, how do you juggle between the idea of just wanting "casual" sex (I.e. go from a first or second date right back to your place) with something more gradual???? | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?Okay? And what's is your point? Why are we judging morality here? Everyone who meets their signigant other has to meet them somewhere, and talk to them. Maybe it was uncomfortable, maybe it wasn't. Maybe it was gradual or maybe it wasn't. Both you and I have a biological mother and father. Chances are they had to go through courtship, or perhaps it was done all in one night and they forgot about it (well she didn't). They had to meet each other one way or another, unless you're a test tube baby … | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?How do you know that I don't? Even when I'm getting food in line at a restaurant and it's taking too long, me and another guy will notice and start a conversation off of that. It's not that unusual. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?Why not? I talk to everyone | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 04:32 PM |
| 0 | Day gaming at grocery store?I'm the last person here that should brag. I don't have any tangible success. Stop trying to defend this guy who has no leg to stand on. THAT'S pathetic. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?I went to Toronto the other day and asked a young couple on the street for directions, yes I do. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?No, I view it as my attempts to make conversation in the grocery store. We have become isolated as a society and I'm not falling into that trap. I don't give a damn who I make uncomfortable. You are saying this as a way to cope with the fact that you would never have the balls to do it yourself. "Making conversation" is not illegal. Hell, outright telling a girl you think she's cute isn't even harassment or sexual harassment if you don't keep pushing the subject when you've been rejected. At lea… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?You sound like the real incel here. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:52 PM |
| 2 | If you're a virgin, how do you juggle between the idea of just wanting "casual" sex (I.e. go from a first or second date right back to your place) with something more gradual?No you answered all of my questions. I haven't really asked anyone out. That's about to change. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?Again, you are speaking with a defeatist mindset. Do you not hear yourself? Like the other guy said, you are the one who sits back and hopes that women will just fall on your lap. That used to be me. I've become proactive now and are seeking them out. "Don't talk to strangers" is a load of shit. "Don't make people uncomfortable" is silly. I walk through the grocery store multiple times a week to pick up stuff. I see average or even conventionally unattractive guys with hot women all the time, an… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:48 PM |
| 0 | Day gaming at grocery store?No you shouldn't be, because I'll be taking the women that you were too afraid to talk to. I've already started approaching this week. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?What he's saying is pretty simple... if you're in the store to do errands and you see someone worth talking to, what's to stop you from doing it? Cultural conditioning? GTFOH. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:42 PM |
| -2 | Day gaming at grocery store?Now I'm going to do it more. Every time someone tells me what I shouldn't do, it's usually something I'd do very well at. And I suspect this is one of those times. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:37 PM |
| 0 | Day gaming at grocery store?Well for guys like myself (25, work from 1-9:30pm M-F among old married men, live in a neighborhood with a LOT of younger women), to me anyplace is fair game to cold approach. I have next to no dating experience because I was a pussy in high school and college. Now when I have a chance, I can't talk myself out of "taboo" environments. Hobbies and social outlets are few and far between, and are not always going to be a place where you'll meet your significant other. I've seen my friends do it, bu… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:36 PM |
| 5 | What types of cold approaches are low hanging fruit for beginners?I was told direct is actually the best because you can get rejected faster and move on | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 05:56 AM |
| 1 | If you're a virgin, how do you juggle between the idea of just wanting "casual" sex (I.e. go from a first or second date right back to your place) with something more gradual?Well I wouldn't know either way. I just have to start cold approaching and stop mentally masturbating. I can't even think about sex if I'm not advertising myself the right way. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 05:54 AM |
| 1 | If you're a virgin, how do you juggle between the idea of just wanting "casual" sex (I.e. go from a first or second date right back to your place) with something more gradual?Yes, good points. Your last two paragraphs are a bitter pill to swallow because it isn't as if guys and girls don't lose it to each other, I am just not in that lucky cohort. I mean, I pass for about 22-23, I look much younger than I am, but that does't mean anything. At this point I don't care what the circumstances are as long as the woman isn't a hooker or a walking Petri dish. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 05:52 AM |
| 15 | Constant rejection is a sign of bad demographicsBeing a 25 year old 5'10" skinny black guy who has spent 95% of his life around nothing but white people, despite being raised by 2 black parents also messes with you. You are too black for white women and too white for black women. There's little wiggle room it seems. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Talking to a girl every single day for the rest of the year (update) June 22nd-25thThat's basically my profile! | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 04:37 PM |
| 1 | If you feel like it's time to put the rubber to the road (no pun intended) because you rarely get matches on the apps, dos it make sense to just start cold approaching if you don't have time to update your pictures?Toronto? | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Went out and immersed myself in public in the Toronto area. Not sure how I feel about my day.Yes good guess, I made it obvious. Wow they banned it? I wasn't even paying attention, but it must've been a real problem if they went ahead and did that. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 01:36 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with white knights?Well I can understand that. I know my sister is 21 and would probably share your sentiments. To my knowledge she doesn't get approached constantly, if at all. And while I will not rate her, she is certainly not ugly. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 05:56 AM |
| 6 | How to deal with white knights?Well when you get next to 0 matches on dating apps, you have a very small (almost nonexistent) social circle, and don't have any real social activities that don't involve alcohol, you are forced to have to do this. I lost all of my friends after high school and college. I work among old married guys. This is my reality. I don't know where you live, but social connections must be important in your country or region, because at least in the U.S., it's everyone for themselves. Edit: you appear to b… | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 05:46 AM |
| 9 | How to deal with white knights?I guess the question is, Joe do I avoid this from happening? This is one of my biggest fears and hesitations from cold approach. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 05:31 AM |
| 0 | Getting laid regularly taught me I don’t like casual sex, I want a girlfriend. Anyone else?As long as I can not be a virgin with someone I care to be with, then I don't care about how I get it. As long as I can experience it even once. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Here's an experiment: search "cold approach" here, and search for it on r/dating_advice, and you will see which sub is glass half empty and glass half fullThat's why I wonder how my parents were able to do it. I have never heard any stories of my dad going to bars and getting dates, or parties, or whatever. Because he met my mom when they were in their teen years. I'm 25 and haven't had a girlfriend yet. I turn 26 in less than 2 months. It's silly. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 04:11 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Went out and immersed myself in public in the Toronto area. Not sure how I feel about my day.I'll definitely shoot a DM the next time I go up there. That place and the Eaton Centre are gold mines. Here in the US we have the Niagara Fashion Outlets and Walden Galleria but I am trying to restrain myself from approaching there right now. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Looking strangers in the eye while out in publicStill, I feel like I'm invisible at times. I don't know why. This is no matter what city I'm in. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Looking strangers in the eye while out in publicYes and thank you. But I noticed, of the many dozens, if not hundreds of women I looked at today, maybe only 20% returned a look. Most were in their phones or something. Some looked at me, but this was a handful. Of course if I dress in a more provocative way, maybe this would get attention. I.e. wife beater. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Looking strangers in the eye while out in publicYeah I can definitely do that. Right now though I feel completely free and alive. Like I can do anything, because I know I'm 100% anonymous being away from home. Just walking down the street and through the malls is titillating | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 07:32 PM |
| 1 | The nerd's guide to approaching womenA: What is the legal basis for this B: Where do you have the quantitative data that "Women have made it very clear they don’t want creeps bothering them as they go about their day." | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 12:38 PM |
| 1 | The cold approach guide post was deleted?That was a very useful post which I had saved. I'm surprised it's gone. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 05:03 AM |
| 3 | The cold approach guide post was deleted?Probably this https://reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/vijkxl/my_standard_cold_approach_format_that_ive_used/ | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Stop trying so hard and you'll get laidHow do I handle it since she's my next door neighbor though? It's awkward | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 03:37 AM |
| 0 | 😎 My Standard Cold Approach Format (that I've used for 8000+ approaches)The next question I have is, where should I approach? I live in a medium sized city, but it's big enough where it'll have events and things. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 05:56 AM |
| 1 | I'm 25. I just moved into a new apartment. I don't have a large circle of friends anymore and never had a girlfriend. If I invite people over, what should I suggest we do?Why? | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Stop trying so hard and you'll get laidThis is my new next door neighbor at my apartment, and this is what the "less you care" looks like. Meanwhile I would imagine in the amount of time from when I sent the last message (and she liked it with a tapback), 3 dudes have come over next door (that's a double entendre). Of course, I can send a message suggesting something to do this weekend. But I believe that would be being needy. https://i.imgur.com/oE65Fwx.jpg | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 04:00 AM |
| 16 | I see girls with several sexual partners as unfit for being gf materialWell I'm a virgin at 25 so I get where you're coming from. But I have said fuck it, I no longer care. It's useless. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Why "making them wait" upsets many men...Well I am a virgin at 25, but I have come to the conclusion that any girl who I will be with will not be and will likely have a high body count. And that's OK I guess. I'm not looking for anything serious anyways. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 08:28 PM |
| 1 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Well again, as I've said in this thread, if you don't have anything to say to a girl you want to talk to, style/clothing is one of only a few options to fall back on. The whole "Hey I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you." Although I've never done this. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 08:34 PM |
| 3 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?You spelled counselor wrong, dummy. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 03:29 PM |
| -3 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Get a new job? My degree is in engineering. How dense can you be? I moved out of my house with my parents in the suburbs to the middle of the city. I'm doing a 10 day athletic event next month. It isn't as if I'm not trying to change my situation. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:55 PM |
| 0 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Well this has been an issue now for at least the last 5 years. I remember going to the mall with my parents when I was 19-20 and jealous because I saw groups of friends/couples/single girls and I can't talk to anyone, and I had like no friends myself. And this same issue persists today, even though I've put myself in an environment that would (in theory) give me the ability to meet many new people. In reality though, I live here, but have to commute to a place where I work for 8+ hours around so… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:10 PM |
| 1 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?No, I didn't do it yet and wouldn't do it because that's a bit too far for me. But I'm willing to show courage and approach women in general now. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 01:54 PM |
| -29 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Why do I care? Because I feel the need and urge to approach every hot girl I see. Yes it sounds creepy, it sounds perverted. But imagine being 25, almost 26, always thinking you were ugly. Only 6 dates to my name, still a virgin and never had a girlfriend. Add to that social anxiety and ADHD. Then you get nowhere on dating apps. Of course I will feel a certain type of way when I see girls dressed in an attractive way. But I just have to recognize this and move on like a normal person. And I'm no… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?The sad thing is, I had pre-ejaculation in my pants just thinking about our conversation at work the other day. It hurts to even type that. I guess I need therapy, or exercise or something. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:12 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Well, I thought maybe it would up my social status a bit. I've gone from getting 0 dates/girlfriend/sex to 0 still. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:11 AM |
| 2 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Absolutely. No was I would be careless if I were in that situation | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:09 AM |
| 0 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?That makes no sense. There was a time when dating apps didn't exist. If bars are for drinking, what offline venue is for dating? | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?You're not the first person to tell me that, even offline. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:07 AM |
| 2 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?I got Tinder Platinum last year. 90 matches and nothing to show for it but 1 awkward date with a girl who was 6 feet tall. You can read about it in my profile going back to around August. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Well that's true, but I have no success on the apps so I have to use the only other method at my disposal. Otherwise I may as well remain celibate. Well, I already am but still. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:03 AM |
| 1 | How do I avoid establishing a friend-vibe with my next door neighbor at my apartment complex?Yes I've heard of the ladder but don't know much about it. It's truly silly that I know all of this pickup stuff and terms that 99% of society has never heard of, yet I'm part of the probably 15% of guys at my age who are still virgins. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?I will take 1, but never 2. I have too much self respect to pay for something I can get for free. Otherwise, I would have done it a long time ago. And my therapist is aware of my dating problems. He suggests a "dating service" — which we know is nonexistent for the under 30/25 crowd. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:00 AM |
| -1 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Yeah, and so do I. Yet it seems you are dismissing my observations. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 06:58 AM |
| 1 | How is a guy supposed to handle being forced to approach in abundance without being judged for it?What's the solution? | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 06:04 AM |
| -27 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Well we can only speculate about why someone dresses the way they do, and to be quite honest, I usually don't have the time or energy to think about it. Only perverts make comments to random women about their bodies, so that's not something I have to think about either. Yes, commenting on an outfit is weird and taboo, but when you can't say anything else anyways and you aren't getting attention as a guy yourself, you need to use any excuse to start a conversation with a girl you find attractive.… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 05:42 AM |
| 7 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Well what do I know. I've never cold approached a girl and told her she's hot/cute/pretty, so I can't actually give my two cents on anything anyways. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:47 AM |
| -4 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Of course | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:46 AM |
| 1 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Interesting stuff | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:46 AM |
| 1 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?I have the same questions too. And I'm not judging or mad. If you live in the US like I do, it's a free country and people deserve to wear what they want without criticism. I made this post to decipher the intentions of doing so. I dress the way I do because I want to look well and presentable, but I would be lying if I omitted the fact that it's to make myself more attractive to women. Spoiler alert: so far, I doubt it has. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:44 AM |
| -39 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?Well I'm not being judgmental, but (in my opinion) there shouldn't be a double standard as to where women dress to get attention, but it is considered creepy and taboo to approach/compliment based off of what she is wearing. This does not apply to men as we aren't really judged on superficial physical attributes and women see no need to cold approach us for the most part. But if you're a guy like me who gets next to no attention through the "official" dating channels, like the apps, then cold ap… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:41 AM |
| 3 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?No. My post is about girls wearing very few pieces of clothing when it's not even warm outside. I suspect it's to attract attention from guys, but It's not often that you think of girls wearing clothes like this outside of the bar or nightclub environments. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:59 AM |
| 1 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?No, but it's considered "socially taboo" when we have dating apps that don't work. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:58 AM |
| 4 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?What "phobias" are you referring to??? Yeah, maybe I'm afraid to approach but what does that have to do with this | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:47 AM |
| 2 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?One of what? | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:29 AM |
| 3 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?I don't know what that has to do with what I posted but OK. I just don't understand why me pointing this out could be considered "sexist", so I have to be careful with my words. It just doesn't make sense to me why women dress like this yet you're not allowed to cold approach and tell them they look hot. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:11 AM |
| -6 | I am going to go out on a limb with a question I probably shouldn’t ask for fear of being admonished. But why is it that some girls wear the most scantily clad outfits to the store when it’s not even warm outside?So that's supposed to act as a green light my for guys to cold approach? Because by attention that's what I would imagine, other than gawks and stares. If I were to walk around in a wife beater it wouldn't look too good (I'm 5'10" 145lb) | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Well that's a good idea. The only problem I have right now is I work from 1pm-930pm+ M-F, when all of the social activities are happening. Which usually leaves my free time from 8am-12pm during the week and my weekends typically open. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 04:40 PM |
| -3 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Well the worst part is that I'll actually be at work and notice my pants are wet because of premature ejaculation just thinking about a girl who wanted to go on a date with me. That happened yesterday, and was incredibly uncomfortable. I need to figure out a way to reduce my testosterone. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 08:10 AM |
| 5 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?But that's the thing, I'm not dusty. I make $85k and have a luxury apartment. The girl that's into me (at least on the surface) is pretty good looking as well to me. Perhaps my problem on the apps is that I'm not pictured next to a private jet or next to a Brinks truck I cut open. Because I know for a fact that I'm above average, even though my pictures may not do a good job of capturing that. I can't figure out how to get better pictures either (and I have a Sony Alpha camera system). | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 08:08 AM |
| 16 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?I get what you're saying. I live nearby 3 bars within a 5 minute walk. All I have to do is point to my apartment and tell the girls "I live there." Maybe that won't work, and maybe that's over the top. But something needs to change. It makes no sense that with how I look at 25, I get so much anxiety about dating and looking at girls I find attractive. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 07:59 AM |
| 1 | How do I avoid establishing a friend-vibe with my next door neighbor at my apartment complex?Why dinner? She seems like she'd be more interested in getting drinks or coffee, or something that's Los pressure. For additional context, I went to follow her on social media and she clearly is a party girl, but she just moved here after graduating college and probably knows no one here. I'm not a party person, but I don't mind going out to a bar or something. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Why do women love thugs so much?Well that's a good analysis on things. I guess I'm just drawn to the lifestyle I'm living, but at the same time, I would be lying if I said that it wasn't to get girls at the same time. Now since you posted this, my next door neighbor who I only met once when she moved in a month ago saw me in the apartment parking lot. We had small talk, she just asked for my number, said we should hang out, etc. She seemed really into me. So I guess something I'm doing is working well. Now I don't know where t… | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Rating different ways to find a partner.Well I may have just walked into a spicy situation by accident. We'll see where things go | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 02:18 AM |
| 1 | I need help urgently!Well I'm chill now and back in my apartment. Now that she texted me her name and said we need to hang out what do I do next? Invite her right over this weekend? | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 02:01 AM |
| 7 | Rating different ways to find a partner.Well the enthusiasm is great and I would ask you for your advice, as I'm a 25 year old virgin who is 3 years out of college. I just moved to the city and have a luxury apartment near a college and a bunch of bars and some cafes. However, the caveat to this is that I commute to a place where I work the second shift with 2-3 older dudes and few others. I mean 50s/60s. But this is a large corporate headquarters, and the office area on the day shift is much busier. I am too new to be among these peo… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 11:44 AM |
| 1 | To those who was intimate with a coworker how did it turn out?The comments here go completely against what I usually hear around here. Interesting. It's a coincidence too. This guy who works in a different department at my job but works with ours a lot will get in a conversation with me from time to time. I'd say he's in his mid 50s, and I've known him since I started working there in late September. Well just yesterday, his daughter apparently started her summer internship here and he introduced her to me. She looked about 20-21, I'm 25 (but don't look it… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 06:20 AM |
| 3 | I walked all day in the park and didn't approach a girl once today.This Is the right answer. I'll have to try this | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 05:35 AM |
| 4 | Why do women love thugs so much?See this is what I don't understand. At 25, I think I'm doing well for myself, I cleared all of my cystic acne away, I go to a barber who knows what the hell he's doing, I dress fairly well, and I just moved into a "luxury" apartment in the city. And I make over $85k if I work 5 hours of overtime a week. This is me being underemployed in my first job as well, and I have side hustles that I plan to get going soon. This is usually considered "alpha". Not even fake alpha because what I have going o… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 05:21 AM |
| 6 | Are we as men working too hard to get women?That's ridiculous. I may be a virgin at 25, but I've always been respectful to the many women I've met and became friends with over the years. Sadly, it has never gotten me anywhere. I only have 6 dates under my belt. | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 08:45 PM |
| 10 | Are we as men working too hard to get women?I get what you're saying, but I've always treated women with respect and have had girls who were (and are) good friends. It has never gone beyond that, maybe due to my lack or fear of showing intent. | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Are we as men working too hard to get women?But I've been chasing goals now. And I'm still a virgin at 25. So when do I chase holes? | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Is it easier to find a fwb than a relationship these days?I don't have the ability to choose any of these options. I can only take what's given, at the moment (which is nothing). Hopefully my luxury apartment in the bar district will change this. | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 05:18 AM |
| 1 | I feel overwhelmed when it comes to dating and meeting girlsI like to fly drones and do drone photography/videography. Now there are lots of girls into photography, but let's face it: these are solo hobbies, especially with drones (unless you have a spotter). How will women be a "byproduct" of this? I feel like I'm expected to start a Fortune 500 company to date 1 girl. Granted, I'm not approaching in Target or Whole Foods yet, but with a lack of success (and motivation) on the apps, and the fact that I'm not getting younger, I'm willing to put my nuts o… | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 05:14 AM |
| 1 | How can I offset being skinny while I bulk up in the gym?No, I'm black and live in the western Northeastern USA | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 04:06 AM |
| 2 | How to approach girls on the gym?Well that's interesting. What is your primary method of meeting women then, since you appear to take a more passive approach to things? | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 10:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you cold approach at a store without drawing attention/getting embarrassed?So you're saying to do it away from people, right? | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | How effective is "Meetup" for meeting women?My social life is somewhat nonexistent, I'm in a Snapchat group with a friend and his 14 other friends, which I was put in last year. I still barely know these people, and he's had bonfires with some of them, but they're all guys really and the girls are in LTRs. Be that as it may, I just moved into a nice apartment and will invite people over to watch movies or something soon. I'm near bars as well, for whatever that counts for. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 04:52 AM |
| 2 | how does your success wirh girls has improved after learning seduction? does it really work?I gotta pushback on this one. Of course on the apps, the deck is stacked against average looking guys. But IRL, you at least have the ability to talk to girls who would never even see you on the app. A good friend of mine is not conventionally attractive at all, and he has even said as much himself. Yet his girlfriend is pretty good looking in my opinion. He would have never even matched with her on an app, I can guarantee you that. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:11 AM |
| 2 | I approached the hottest girl in the venue last night.I hate it when that line gets thrown out left and right, gaslighting people and intentionally ignoring the fact that unless you're gay, a dude wouldn't just walk up to another dude and say he thought he was "cute". It takes a lot of courage to do that with a girl, something I haven't been able to do yet but am very close to being able to do. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 01:42 PM |
| 2 | I did my first "approach" in as long as I can remember, but locked up during itAlso, I really wonder what I could have done differently in this scenario. What would you do if a girl sits about 3 feet away from you while waiting for food? | /r/seduction | 04/06/22 08:19 PM |
| 1 | A girl just moved into the unit next to mine. What should I do?So why on r/Dating_Advice am I being slammed and called a creep for even thinking this way? Go check out the other thread. I'm getting conflicting advice. | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 03:43 PM |
| 1 | A girl just moved into the unit next to mine. What should I do?I think that's the best course of action. Don't be too pushy. | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 02:55 AM |
| 1 | 7 Things Women Secretly Desire In The Bedroom (BUT Are Afraid To Say)How is this going to help anyone when we can't even get women on dates? | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 01:19 PM |
| 1 | If you don't respond fast enough via text or on an app, will a girl ghost or unmatch you?Well I care because its the only match of the week. And people wonder why guys are so frustrated with dating. You quit the porn and get on the apps, nobody sees you. Then you return to it because of a lack of results. Thank god I live near a bunch of bars and cafes so I can do IRL game. | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 04:46 AM |
| 4 | Finding a boyfriendI find that interesting as well, because my sister is 21 and I don't think she's unattractive, yet she doesn't really date anyone (lives at home), and I could never imagine hearing her say something like that. It could Be because she's slightly socially awkward, but it could also be that she doesn't trust everyone. | /r/seduction | 18/05/22 06:35 AM |
| 2 | I can’t sleep with a woman because I feel like I’m doing something wrongI guess I was brainwashed by society. Why at 25 am I just now learning to take the gloves off? | /r/seduction | 14/05/22 05:56 AM |
| 1 | I can’t sleep with a woman because I feel like I’m doing something wrongread her body language Which I go to therapy for to correct. It's just not possible for me, from the moment I see a girl walking past me. I can't even get to where we are in this thread. | /r/seduction | 14/05/22 05:52 AM |
| 2 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?I guess I shouldn't ask for a blow-by-blow explanation of how you would carry on with the conversation. But given any reply I make could lead to her losing interest and her ghosting me, I would want to know what direction to go in. | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 03:24 AM |
| 1 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?Yes, I probably lean towards relationships myself. But I'm a 25 year old virgin who's only been on 6 dates. I have my own place now in the heart of the city, so I'm willing to take more risks and be bolder in my interactions. Still, because I'm a virgin, any escalation beyond a kiss will be extremely uncomfortable for me. | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 02:09 AM |
| 1 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?I mean is this too soon? Should I redirect the conversation elsewhere? Ask her about herself? https://i.imgur.com/yB0oyY8.jpg | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 02:02 AM |
| 1 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?I guess the question is, do I just go straight for the date? https://i.imgur.com/GzfJfVX.jpg I.e., do you like wine? Or coffee or something? | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 01:45 AM |
| 1 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?I already got a response | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 12:14 AM |
| 1 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?I already responded see below | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 10:33 PM |
| 2 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?? What do you mean? | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 10:32 PM |
| 4 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?Yeah... she's the only match I have on Bumble. | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Is this giving away too much validation?Yeah, I thought that going TOO fast would be a turnoff though. I'm no longer going to beat around the bush, but there has to be a level of investment from the girl before she agrees to a date idea, right? That's how you really get ghosting and flaking. | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 09:08 PM |
| 15 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?Great job. I guess from now on I'm going to start pushing the boundaries with every girl. Rapid escalation is the name of the game https://i.imgur.com/zDgyWL2.jpg | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 09:06 PM |
| 6 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?I went ahead with sexy. We'll see if she responds or what she responds with | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 08:56 PM |
| 1 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?It's a coin flip which one I pick | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 08:44 PM |
| 5 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?Beats me. But I need to figure out a response. At least she's high interest. | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 08:43 PM |
| 4 | How do I not get so literal in this conversation?Idk if I'm ready to say sexy? I feel like that might be a turn off, not sure Then again why not. It's just that to a more relationship-oriented girl, bringing up anything sex related too soon might cause for a unmatch | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | How to respond here without being so literal?That would've been nice but that's obviously a neg, which isn't something I do | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 08:11 PM |
| 1 | How to respond here without being so literal?I think I got it now | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 08:10 PM |
| 1 | How to respond here without being so literal?That's not my message | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Why is it when I'm in line (say Target), and a decent-looking girl lined up behind me, I get intimidated?Yeah it does. I have to pretend I'm on their level. Once I get rid of my cystic acne and grow muscles things will turn around. | /r/seduction | 05/05/22 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Approaching in a non threatening mannerI don't think I do | /r/seduction | 01/05/22 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Approaching in a non threatening mannerYeah, my parents were stunned. I don't know, I'm just socially uncalibrated with ADHD inattentiveness. That's why I'm unsuccessful with women and why I post here. You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable, and recognizing good and bad social situations. | /r/seduction | 01/05/22 01:00 AM |
| 2 | A constant theme I've noticed among my female friends who use dating appsWell when you're a virgin at 25 myself it's hard to grapple with that. Does everyone have a past, as they say? Well not me. I haven't had any validation from girls, except friendly companionship and my first kiss in January. And I'm not trying to brag or anything, but I think I'm above average in looks, certainly not ugly. So I'm more inclined to date younger, 4-5 years, and not near my age. It's just that between the pandemic and my living sirueadikn (at home with parents), I haven't had the op… | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 11:48 PM |
| 7 | WHERE THE FUCK DO I LOOK AT WHEN A GIRL IS WALKING PAST ME?I have the same issue | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 03:59 PM |
| 6 | A constant theme I've noticed among my female friends who use dating appsWell that depends on your definition of "lower ELO" For me, my pictures are a bit older and less fashionable. But they're not bad. Still, lower ELO for me at 25 would be obese women, or girls that obviously have other issues that make them undesirable. | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 03:22 PM |
| 17 | A constant theme I've noticed among my female friends who use dating appsIf I can't find a girl worthy (to me) of a relationship, which means raised in a 2-parent household like myself and is committed to long term relationships, I'll just go the rite of the physician. I've only been on 6 dates at my age of 25, and I feel time is running out to build any meaningful LTR. By age 30, most single women in my age range will be divorced, single mothers, or permanently damaged from dating guys who would only use them. Why would I want to marry a girl who was just a quick wa… | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 03:16 PM |
| 1 | The Proximity Principle: Unless you are consistently interacting with women, don't expect them to magically show up in your life.So I'm supposed to just sit at home jacking off all night, rather than go out at meet women and other people? Even if it's through innocuous random banter, based off of me noticing something g about her? I suspect that your preferred method of men meeting you is to go through the pre approved corrals of dating apps, like pigs in a slaughterhouse. Why would I do that, where you'll get 700 likes from a guy and he'll get close to none (if any), when he can go out on the street and at least show his… | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 07:07 AM |
| 3 | The Proximity Principle: Unless you are consistently interacting with women, don't expect them to magically show up in your life.The fact that there's no consensus on this means there's no right or wrong answer. Attraction is subjective. If Leonardo DiCaprio said "Hi" to a girl in the grocery store, what would the reaction be? | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 07:03 AM |
| 0 | Taking girls on expensive dinner datesYes, I live in the suburban neighborhood I grew up in with my parents, and of course I won't meet anyone there, let alone women. That all changes in the next week when I move out into a trendy, younger neighborhood where I will have proximity to the people and things I want to be around. I'll still be working a second shift, but my lifestyle will enable me to become more social. | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Taking girls on expensive dinner datesI'm completely inexperienced as I said. I've only been on 6 dates at age 25. You probably have more experience than I do. | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 02:14 PM |
| -5 | Taking girls on expensive dinner datesIf I have options as well then my tune will change. Until then, I won't be comfortable dating sdineone who has me as a 3rd, 4th or 5th string option and she's the only person in dating. If she's only dating me and I'm only dating her, that's one thing. If I also have options, that's another, in case things don't work out. If she has a ton of options and I have only 1, that will create an issue with me. | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 02:13 PM |
| 3 | Taking girls on expensive dinner datesWhich is it? https://i.imgur.com/ZanTbdo.jpg | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 06:06 AM |
| 5 | Taking girls on expensive dinner datesI'm a virgin | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 03:48 AM |
| 2 | Best place to find high value womenI refuse to believe they were already locked down, I think if you're under 30 you can still find someone of quality. I'm 25 but I look 22. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Is approach anxiety rooted in low self esteem?I think it's directly tied together, as that's where I am now. But I feel like once I get my chronic cystic acne cleared, put on weight and muscle (5'10" 150lb), and get slightly better clothes and shoes, my self esteem will go up a little bit. It's also about practicing mindfulness though. That might be the key to everything. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 03:55 PM |
| 2 | First time having my own apt adviceI'm going to be in the same position in a couple of weeks | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 03:46 PM |
| 4 | how come most people get pretty girlfriends without knowing anything about "game" or all the psychological stuff, just being a random joe? Is game for hookups or low-value men only?You're doing better than 99% of the rest of us... I don't know who you are but I'm 25 and a virgin I'm guessing you look like a model and just tell these girls to "come over" on Tinder? | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 03:08 PM |
| 2 | how come most people get pretty girlfriends without knowing anything about "game" or all the psychological stuff, just being a random joe? Is game for hookups or low-value men only?Following the conversation for new comments. I know exactly what you're talking about. But it's funny because I HAVE a great job and have only been on 6 dates at age 25. Literally every guy at work I know is engaged (younger than me), married, dating around or divorced. I'm always asked who's new that I'm meeting. And then I turn around and tell them how shitty the apps are. I'll be moving out into an apartment for the first time in a younger neighborhood near a college. I would be lying if I sa… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 05:55 AM |
| 20 | Go to a Salsa/Bachata classes to improve your game.Maybe if you're over 35. Everyone in the group here looks like they're middle aged. I'm 25. | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 10:24 PM |
| 1 | How to reinvent my IG?Yes, but isn't it also a way to find people you otherwise would never meet? I agree, but I want to use every Avenue possible to meet people. A lead generating system so to speak. I don't want to be one-track minded. | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | How to reinvent my IG?Well I used to ageee with you, but now I'm kind of back and forth. One of my coworkers is 3 years younger than me. He told me he found his now-fiancé on IG, but apparently they went to school together and didn't know each other. She has over 1,000 followers and he has 400. But they've been together 4 years, so those numbers were a lot less. It may be different today. You probably can't pull that off since 4 years in this dating environment is a long time. I don't know. I'm just trying to find di… | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 10:20 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with womens fuckery?How does this theory hold up for daygame? | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 06:06 AM |
| -2 | Successful hook up story from last nightNo I'm not jealous. I practice mindfulness, meditation and gratitude journaling daily. I go to the gym 5 days a week as well now. My time is coming. It's just not here yet. But I think it's weeks now, not months or years. I turn 26 in August. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 04:35 PM |
| 0 | Successful hook up story from last nightYou know you replied to me? You said "this dude". I like solutions, not broad generalizations. I've always had friends tell me, "dude, just get a girlfriend" as if it's something that happens by osmosis. I'm happy for others' successes. All of my friends, I've congratulated them for whatever romantic conquests they've had over the years. I try to be humble. Nevertheless, I'm done feeling sorry for myself. I'll be the one slaying soon enough once I move out. I'll be within walking distance of 5 b… | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Successful hook up story from last nightSo then I will use my sexual charisma in place. You have 15 year old boys boning girls in high school and I'm 25 and have seen nothing. At some point, something has to give. Which is why I decided to move into the college neighborhood. Even though I work second shift and have a 25 minute commute, it's better than being at home with mom and dad for another 2-3 years, right? | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Successful hook up story from last nightYou can thank the pandemic for that. I tried at 23 and couldn't go anywhere. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 01:30 PM |
| 1 | If I'm 25 and 3 years out of college, but am a virgin with limited dating experience, how do I grow my social circle and get invited to house parties with college girls?No, but it isn't for me. I'd rather use my natural abilities rather than admit defeat by doing that. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 01:28 PM |
| 2 | If I'm 25 and 3 years out of college, but am a virgin with limited dating experience, how do I grow my social circle and get invited to house parties with college girls?You offered no solutions. It's not like we've had a pandemic where you couldn't leave the house for 2 years. I'm essentially 23 when it comes to life experience, although my age doesn't account for any of this. Now I finally have a career, I'm on track to making around $75k. I'm black, and live around white people and have always done so. Is that a detriment? I doubt it, it might limit the pool but so what? Perhaps I didn't mention, but I also have ADHD and social anxiety. The former I take medi… | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 06:06 AM |
| 1 | If I'm 25 and 3 years out of college, but am a virgin with limited dating experience, how do I grow my social circle and get invited to house parties with college girls?Yes | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 06:00 AM |
| -8 | Successful hook up story from last nightWhy does everyone come on this frigging sub to brag? Here I am at 25, a virgin, sitting at home with my hard dick essentially in my hands. I am so glad that I will finally be moving out into an apartment in a couple weeks. But at what cost? Just for privacy and the ability to finally date? In your case, you basically snapped your fingers and had sex. You must be extremely attractive or this girl was intoxicated. The closest I came to that was about 7 years ago on a college trip, but the girls we… | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 05:59 AM |
| 1 | I’m Done Being a PussyHaven't even had that much? I'm 25 and have had 0. And I'm not ugly. I've just always been socially anxious and in many cases sheltered. You are doing better than most. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 05:14 AM |
| 2 | How did dating in your late 20s / early 30s compare to dating in your early 20s?Unfortunately, I wasn't in a position to take advantage of the "late teens" phase you bring up. Everything you mentioned, I was always thinking about from 18-24, but could never execute due to a variety of reasons, including very low self esteem, ADHD, social anxiety, poor demographic conditions (going to tech college with mostly guys at age 18), and horrible logistics. Then the pandemic hit and I went from 23 to 25, living at home with my parents. As I type this, I still have this V-Card you sp… | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 06:01 AM |
| 1 | If I'm 25 and 3 years out of college, but am a virgin with limited dating experience, how do I grow my social circle and get invited to house parties with college girls?Thanks. That's the difficult part, rebuilding a social circle in my hometown via some kind of social activity. Many social outlets just skew older, which makes finding any kind of friend in my age group difficult. I work with older coworkers. I barely know anyone around my age anymore. I don't talk to anyone from high school, and I barely talk to people from college. | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 05:48 AM |
| 3 | If I'm 25 and 3 years out of college, but am a virgin with limited dating experience, how do I grow my social circle and get invited to house parties with college girls?It's funny because I wood like to use Meetup as there are interesting groups, but it's clear that at least in my area (Buffalo) they tend to attract old folks on the older end, and people in their 30s/40s on the younger end. I looked at Cleveland and their groups skew somewhat younger. Also, a lot of events look pretty empty, but maybe I'm just not looking into it right. Eventbrite tends to have a lot of things on there, but a lot of it revolves around bars and nightclubs (also known as night ga… | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 05:46 AM |
| 1 | It seems my problem, after all, is too much libido,Zero per week. I work at a large manufacturer, obviously women will only be sprinkled around the place and in the office (and they have BFs or guys orbiting around them, and are conveniently far way). Outside of work, I live with my parents and now go to the gym 5 days a week for 30-45 min. That's currently my only "social outlet," even though I don't actually talk to any one in there. And I just started going back there recently, because I changed shifts and it messed up my schedule. So these c… | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 06:22 AM |
| 1 | 5 quick lessons from cold approaching todayYes, and while I may not have been directly taught these kinds of things by my parents, I don't know if they would've been able to anyways (at least in regards to dating). They met as friends, in their teens, and lived in the city, only blocks apart. Where I was raised, it's a subdivision. And that's fine, but the circumstances are different. So they could never give dating advice (and I never asked because it's an uncomfortable topic and is especially so today). They know of no dates I've been … | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 05:51 AM |
| 1 | 5 quick lessons from cold approaching todayAnd that's the issue. I don't want to settle down, because what the hell am I settling down from? I guess I've always wanted a relationship, but I feel as though I was robbed of that opportunity when I was 18-24. You can partly blame the pandemic, but I would also blame the sausagefest polytechnic college I went to for my first 2 years, as well as living off campus the last 3 years of college. I blink and I'm 25 now, but I feel (and even look) 2-3 years younger. Because of this, I decided to jus… | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 05:45 AM |
| 4 | 5 quick lessons from cold approaching todayReally weird how only 3/10 women are single, if we use the 18-24 demographic for instance. If I had known this 6 years ago (I'm 25), I would have put more energy into dating in HS and college. But I was told, and kept telling myself, that it would work itself out one day. That was complete fairy tale BS. | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 04:02 AM |
| 2 | It seems my problem, after all, is too much libido,Well as a virgin at 25, I can only be envious of the fact that this kid is depressed because he can't get it, even though he's already had loads of it with his ex... Yet I've been coming to this sub for 5 years, practically nonstop and not much has changed. It was only January that I had my first kiss. I decided enough is enough, I will be getting my first apartment in May, albeit at a steep cost to live in a trendy, young neighborhood with bars literally at my doorstep. I am crossing my fingers… | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 11:55 PM |
| 4 | How do you guys that are introverted (like me) meet girls?I notice a lot of suggestions here are definitely for older millennials and Gen X's. Younger millennials like myself and Gen Zers (although I could probably be classified as either or) are left out to some degree, especially if we're out of college. | /r/seduction | 11/04/22 05:36 AM |
| 10 | DMing models on Instagram does actually work, but you have to do it in a VERY specific way to get responses"Only" have 900 followers? I guess I'm a loser at 200! | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 08:50 PM |
| 7 | Do girls like virgin boys?With the way things are today (pandemic, social isolation), it's not like it's easier for guys to get with girls. | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Tips for socialising with women in gymHow and where? The million dollar question. Coffee shop? Grocery store? Restaurant line? These are the places I find myself outside of work (sausage fest). | /r/seduction | 31/03/22 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Caught feeling for my old sneaky linkYeah and no, I wasn't criticizing you. I personally don't like it for other reasons lol. My interpretation was that it's the FWB you cheat with. It's all the same to me though. | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 06:15 AM |
| 1 | When only casually dating, is age gap important to you?At my age if 25, with so few dating prospects, I'll date a girl who's 28 or who's 18. I don't particularly care because there are so few options for me. | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Caught feeling for my old sneaky linkI'm just stopping by to say how much I've always hated that term | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 05:30 AM |
| 3 | gaming on cashiers/women at their jobI'm not going to lie, I'm pretty much in the exact same position. I work at a large engineering company with older dudes in their 50s. Nice people, but not the demographic I'm looking to be around. I'm a 25 year old virgin. I live in a suburban house with my parents. In nearly a month I will have moved out into my first apartment in a trendy area of the city. It's 25 minutes from work by freeway, but I'll take it if it means I'll be around a lot of chicks. But right now, and possibly even then, … | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 05:27 AM |
| 2 | A good Instagram profile helps getting chicks .How do you get them? What do you do to gain clout? I have 200 followers and my last post was in April 2021. Edit: actually, I found a good resource https://youtu.be/wDJVE6Qz9hg | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 05:12 AM |
| 3 | A good Instagram profile helps getting chicks .Any examples? I've heard this several times but I don't know what a "good Instagram profile" looks like. Also, I have 200 followers, getting to 4K sounds like a slog. And how? | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 05:09 AM |
| 2 | The #1 issue I have with dating (specifically apps) is that my pictures are taken at interesting places, but I don't look sexy in them.With all due respect, why go through all of that? Most guys on the apps, they don't pay for photographers do they? I have a Sony a6500. I could take pictures of myself, but I am not confident that they'd turn out the way they do, and I don't like anything staged. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 07:08 AM |
| 3 | Alright guys. I (F24) need your help seducing a friend (M24) to have sex with me.. again.. possiblyWow. I wish a girl would just wind up having sex with me. I'm 25 and have to go through "official dating channels" like apps that don't work in a futile attempt to lose my virginity. My envy grows every day. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 07:06 AM |
| -2 | The #1 issue I have with dating (specifically apps) is that my pictures are taken at interesting places, but I don't look sexy in them.It's so conflicting because this thread thrills people not to approach in public. https://reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/tq4ubu/giving_up_on_dating_because_you_arent_having_luck/ So much competing advice. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 06:52 AM |
| 1 | The #1 issue I have with dating (specifically apps) is that my pictures are taken at interesting places, but I don't look sexy in them.But I don't like nightclubs and bars. The women are just too tacky for me. I'm not saying I'm better than them, but at least where I am, it's mostly trash. This isn't NYC or Toronto. I'd rather meet them playing a sport, or at the grocery store or some shit. But that's just me I guess. What I meant by putting myself out there, was putting myself out on the apps. Right now I live in a suburb of a medium sized city. I am about to sign a lease on an apartment and move out, primarily because I want … | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 05:53 AM |
| 3 | What am I doing wrong? 25 dates and not on relationship / sexAre we as guys conditioned to be platonic? Why are we scared to take risks? I could see myself being this guy, a virgin, afraid of offending people, just awkward and isolated. But I'm starting to realize life is short and we could die any day. When I start talking to girls again, I will give zero fucks about taking risks. Because if I do, I'll stay a virgin. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 05:43 AM |
| 0 | Don't put all your eggs in one basketSometimes, like in my case, there's only one egg to put into the basket at a time. You say go to the park, what do I do there? Sit on a bench and approach girls like a scammer? Going to the bars, well most people go there to socialize or find someone to hook up with. That's not really what I want. So I'm left with only the store clerk, or cashier, or whatever. | /r/seduction | 27/03/22 10:01 PM |
| 2 | wingman in TorontoLucky you. II was just up there last weekend to do some shopping. I live in a hock town 2 hours south famous for losing sports teams and chicken wings. Toronto girls are mesmerizing | /r/seduction | 11/03/22 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever messed up your perfect tinder matchI am black as well. I wonder if black men are collectively doomed on the apps. I mean my profile wasn't fantastic, but it's also wasn't a pile of shit. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Malcolm X's view on relationships between Men and WomenIn fact, it is a stupid question to begin with, dont you have bodies behind you? At my age, 25, the answer is no. Hopefully that will change before I die. | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Anybody here in Rochester, NY?Yes, best of luck to you too. I'm planning to move into the city to the so-called "trendy areas" where I know I'll at least be near women. | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 01:14 AM |
| 1 | I hate the allure of driving 2 hours to a bigger city where there's attractive girlsI cannot move for at least a year. I have an apartment lease. The only place I see myself landing is SoCal. | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Anybody here in Rochester, NY?I'm 25 and in Buffalo and the dating scene here sucks ass. I went on a couple of dates with a girl near Bergen but she didn't want to do the Thruway thing. | /r/seduction | 26/02/22 08:57 PM |
| 1 | If having sex is supposed to be an evolutionary and biological need, why is it so damn hard to get laid?!If they're weary, why is drunk college party hookup sec popular? Then the same women will be gatekeepers of sex against a stable guy with a career 5 years later? I haven't gotten that far as I'm a 25 year old virgin myself. | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Going after college girls at 25?25 | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Going after college girls at 25?Well I'm trying to do damage control. Next month I move out from my parents house, and I'm moving into a newer modern apartment in a trendy area of town near a college. This is the last resort. | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 01:34 AM |
| 5 | Going after college girls at 25?I agree | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Going after college girls at 25?I have the same problem | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 12:50 AM |
| 9 | Approaching as a black manI'm 25 and black, I haven't approached anyone yet though. That's bound to change soon. | /r/seduction | 21/02/22 05:25 AM |
| 3 | I just got depressed reading and article on the front page about dating (as it applies to me). I wonder how I can turn things around?No, I'm 5'10", 160lb. Not even close. I still need to go to the gym though. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 03:10 AM |
| 0 | I just got depressed reading and article on the front page about dating (as it applies to me). I wonder how I can turn things around?You're not going to find chicks in the 18-25 range at a jazz concert or festival. More like 55+ divorcees. I need to broaden my musical tastes. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | OLD feels impossible when you're unphotogenicMy "mates" at work are 30-plus suburban dads or husbands. I am planning on moving into the city where the trendy neighborhoods are, and thus younger women (I'm 25 but look 2-3 years younger). Now I'll be within 5 minutes walking distance of 3 bars. | /r/seduction | 13/02/22 09:39 PM |
| 0 | She should just love me for me… right?I don't agree. The last person I went on dates with, I didn't feel like I had to pretend to be someone else for her to be attracted to me. Even as inexperienced with dating as I was. Yet being an hour apart was too much for her and she decided it wasn't worth it. Unfortunately, I feel like there aren't many girls out there like her. | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Would it be worth it joining a church to date if you're inexperienced in dating?No I wouldn't say that. It might help, given I have next to no experience with dating at all and places like bars and clubs are not for me, as I said. Maybe you overlooked where I said that I'm pretty ignorant of what's in the Bible (and want to learn)? If I can meet single women there in the process, then that's an added bonus. | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Women can be extremely fickle with their emotions when you first get to know them. They can be attracted to you one day, and then lose interest the next. Understand and accept this before you develop feelings for someone you barely knowThis is what I just experienced. I went on 2 dates with a girl from a smaller town an hour away. She was very sweet. I'd guess I would say, and these were only my 5th and 6th dates at 25. Unfortunately she just said the distance was too far. Very devastating for me given that I never get dates to begin with, and have to start over from scratch with a sour dating pool here at home. | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Would it be worth it joining a church to date if you're inexperienced in dating?No, I haven't stepped foot in a church in many years. But I wouldn't mind going, I've never been on my own. | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Did anyone else actually have a great childhood with loving parents but still struggle with dating and relationships?This is me in a nutshell. | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Ten Ways Guys Fuck Up Their GameThis means I can't date. Look at my post history, I'm rushing to move out of the house because I can't get "physical" by the 3rd date living with my parents. | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Am I being too friendly and not showing intention in my online interactions?I wish there were examples of non-sexual flirtatious conversations on the dating app subs. I go to /r/Tinder, /r/Hinge and /r/Bumble and it's just a bunch of silly/cringeworthy one-liners and meme-worthy conversations that aren't usually applicable for most people. Everyone has their own style, but there has to be a way to do it that's more than "boring" like you say. I'm terrible at texting and all of that. I'm introverted, I don't get invited to things very often. Like once in a blue moon. So … | /r/seduction | 11/01/22 05:27 PM |
| 1 | How to not be boring in my conversations?With the prompts thing, I think you raise a good point about this. My thing is, often times I'll connect well with a prompt that a girl puts up, but we never match because either she's "too attractive" and my profile never makes it to her, or she doesn't find me attractive. So I try not to put as much effort into thinking about whether to not I can hold a conversation off of it because I don't even know if this person will like me anyways. My profile pictures do me no favors for the most part, b… | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 04:17 PM |
| 0 | How to not be boring in my conversations?I used this formula https://youtu.be/8R_BIDyCoRM | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Every first date that ended with a kiss on the cheek/forehead has wen to a 2nd date. 100 percent of the timeI'm a virgin | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 05:22 AM |
| 1 | How to not be boring in my conversations?I think you have the right idea. It's hard to figure out how much is too much messaging, too little, too sexual, not sexual enough (none of my messages are sexual because I'm afraid I can't pull that off), etc. | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 03:26 AM |
| 2 | How to not be boring in my conversations?Looks like you and /u/spademan56 might have a difference of opinion here. Some people say drag it out, others say go quickly. I have yet to figure out which direction to go in because I always get conflicting advice. So I tried to meet in the middle here at about 3-5 days of talking. If I didn't get her invested in the interaction, I would have been left on read like has happened in the past. I'm not Drake or Brad Pitt. I have to prove I'm worth dating. | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 03:25 AM |
| 1 | How to not be boring in my conversations?I will now. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 11:54 PM |
| 2 | How to not be boring in my conversations?You'd be surprised at the rental situation in my city. We're a rusty belt town but the older apartments are shitty houses and the newer places are in short supply, small and expensive. Regardless, I'm making it my plan to move out as soon as possible to the city. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 11:53 PM |
| 2 | How to not be boring in my conversations?Yeah I think I've already made my decision to move out sooner than I planned. I just told my parents, I'm done with them spying on me with all of their Ring cameras and everything. There's no privacy here, and no expectation of it. And they know this. The thing is, I'm not into luxury apartments, but I also don't want to live in a janky place. And that was the last time I will suggest a phone call. Not sure why AMS teaches this, but it clearly did not work here. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 10:38 PM |
| 4 | How to not be boring in my conversations?I hear you man, but like I said, this stuff does not come to me naturally like it may to you. I am re-reading Mark Manson's Models for a second time because the information didn't stick the first time. I have ADHD and social anxiety. My friend circle is spread out across the country and is small, and the people I do know here in my hometown are lousy. While this girl might be going to a football game with her family and friends, I'm sitting at home watching it on TV by myself. I've never walked … | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 09:12 PM |
| 1 | How to not be boring in my conversations?Because AMS said it was a good idea https://youtu.be/7RyY8-CGoo0 Yeah it sounds stupid, but I thought it made sense in the moment. Regardless, I am a master of shooting myself in the foot. I think the biggest issue is I live at home with my parents, which offers no privacy and the ability to express myself. I'm planning to move out soon, but it's expensive. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 09:02 PM |
| 5 | Stop Focusing on Your LooksHow can I have an abundance mentality when I've only been on 4 dates at age 25? When I barely get any matches online? Where will the motivation come from that will put me on a self-improvement journey for myself, and not for women? | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 07:38 AM |
| 3 | Men of Reddit, what body language you notice when you make eye contact with a woman?I stare | /r/seduction | 25/12/21 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Are women the most driving life force (for you) ?Being a virgin with only 4 dates at 25, unfortunately I'd be lying if I said no. I go to social skills therapy, ADHD therapy, etc., to find out why I can't do anything. I doubt I'm ugly, I mean I redownloaded Tinder/Hinge/Bumble the other day, added a new picture and made a witty one line bio and I matched with who I'd say is a 8-10, if you want to put numbers on that kind of thing. Yet for some reason, I just can't get dates. No matter how playful or teasing of a conversation I try to have, I c… | /r/seduction | 19/12/21 11:10 PM |
| 10 | Any tips to improve game on snapchat? Do you snap girls all the time? Do you post a story all the time?No not at all What will I see pictures of? Lunch? My oily face lacking a haircut? And then I only have like 2 or 3 people I send pictures to, 6 or 7 years ago it may have been more. | /r/seduction | 23/11/21 03:04 AM |
| 1 | M, 23. kiss-less Virgin NO MORE!I agree I hate seeing these threads. I'm 25 and have been celebrating other peoples achievements for too long now. I want this to be me. | /r/seduction | 14/11/21 07:06 PM |
| 0 | Meeting women at a marathonI misspoke, it's an 8k. There's an after party as well at the finish line | /r/seduction | 04/11/21 09:16 AM |
| 1 | How do you make friends with girlsWhat if work is a career full of guys and you graduated college 2 years ago? Bars and clubs are the way to go? | /r/seduction | 03/11/21 11:10 PM |
| 2 | The more you want them the less they want youDoes this mean I have to settle for a stinky and obese woman? I get people have preferences but that's not one of them for me. | /r/seduction | 03/11/21 10:20 PM |
| 12 | Couple of successful dates but no reply afterwardHow the fuck do people even pull off what you did. I can't even get a kiss at 25. If I were you I would definitely not get down on yourself because you're doing more than most guys. | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to change my lifestyle: be more social, meet more ladiesWhat kind of volunteering were you doing? | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 03:27 AM |
| 1 | How to I Improve My Game and Get Girls Outside of My Race to Want MeWhere did you look? What made you successful? I feel lonely and secluded, but places like bars and clubs don't interest me. I'm 25 and black, and work at an engineering company. My whole life has been surrounded by white people, which I don't mind, but because of my social anxiety, ADHD, and low self esteem, I was not willing to take a chance. | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 01:52 AM |
| 1 | How to I Improve My Game and Get Girls Outside of My Race to Want MeI'm awaiting an answer on this as well as I'm essentially in the same demographic but I feel worse off because I've only had 4 lifetime dates and am a virgin. Perhaps this has something to do with it. Kindergarten through college has been almost entirely white. | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Any guys here who have gone from a kiss less virgin in their early 20s? Also where are you now with women?I'm 25 and have never kissed a girl. I'm not ugly either. But I have ADHD and social anxiety. | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 01:30 AM |
| 2 | The catch-22 of not waiting to use apps but not having enough options IRLPay for what? | /r/seduction | 16/10/21 12:19 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I barely got incoming likes. Maybe a handful. 99% of my activity was outgoing, unless I switched locations on the map. Even then there were only a small handful (2-3 likes). And most of the women were attractive to me incoming and outgoing! | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 11:21 PM |
| 4 | Are bars and clubs REALLY the only place to meet women?Is that really the BEST way? I go on there, pay $50, upload halfway decent pictures and add a bio and interest, and of 5,000+ swipes, 1% are a match, and that's really the end of it. Dead interactions with uninterested girls. That doesn't sound very effective to me. | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 02:46 AM |
| 16 | [deleted by user]In my case, if I'm not paying, I don't get matches. When I pay for platinum, I get 1-3 matches per day if I swipe on 100-200 girls. Better than nothing, and I'm not overweight or ugly necessarily. Just not hot. | /r/seduction | 12/10/21 10:28 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]I used to believe this, but after seeing my lanky friend who has an acne riddled face and a fucked up shoulder with thick glasses get a girl who is probably out of his league, my opinion on this changed. | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 07:03 PM |
| 1 | She mentioned this dude that she is datingAnd how do you do that. I have never sexually escalated with a girl. The one time I grabbed a girls hand on a date, she was not impressed. And I'm not ugly. | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 02:42 AM |
| 2 | How much easier was it for you to date upon moving out from living your parents?I know it's a bit off topic, but what do you do if you are about to start a job in a male dominated engineering facility? What if you don't have any female friends in the area? What if you don't go to the bars and clubs, but dating apps have failed? | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 05:33 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I want to save at least $20k, I'd also like to move up quicker at this company but they have a year long probation. | /r/seduction | 23/09/21 02:55 AM |
| 4 | What are some things men can do to show romantic/sexual interest in a girl?I'm in the friend bucket everywhere I go | /r/seduction | 23/09/21 02:53 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]I just got the job. Now I need enough cash to move out. Maybe once I have my own place I will finally be able to lose my virginity at the old age of 25. | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 03:22 AM |
| 4 | How many of you are virgins?25 Lack of opportunities, I have to pay for Tinder Platinum and Hinge Premium where for every 90 matches I get 1 date out of it that leads nowhere. Also maybe a lack of confidence and trying I have been described as a nerdy black guy I have ADHD, but I'm not ugly. I go to the gym 3 days a week I also live with my parents right now, I just got a new job that pays $60k a year. But I don't have enough saved to move out yet. I don't like the nightclubs here, I'm indifferent about dating at bars | /r/seduction | 19/09/21 04:21 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Well this cheered me up | /r/seduction | 19/09/21 04:10 AM |
| 0 | [deleted by user]I can't even get a kiss | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 11:46 PM |
| 2 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.If I knew that there was a pool of eligible single ladies in my age demographic that I can ask out on a date, I probably wouldn't be as concerned or confused about it. I was so reticent when it came to dating in high school and college, because I was told it would "just happen" that I got screwed up in the head and now really don't know anyone to date in person, offline. Of course, in the suburban neighborhood I live in there are lots of cougars and single moms, but I'm not into that. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 10:56 PM |
| 2 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.Well unfortunately I spend so much time worrying about dating and other things that I don't even have the time to pursue hobbies. Instead of reading interesting books, it'll be self help stuff. Instead of practicing my photography skills, I'm browsing /r/Seduction on Reddit. Instead of learning how to play the guitar, I'm doing other things. Now that I have a job though, I might be able to focus on what I'd like to do in the spare time that I have. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 04:59 PM |
| -2 | Best places to meet singlesYou're ruining it for the rest of us who have no choice but to use it | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 05:32 AM |
| 0 | Best places to meet singlesThis seems to be the question of the hour. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 05:19 AM |
| 1 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.I actually live near Toronto. 1 1/2 hours away across the border. Yes, I was born and raised in a rinky dink rust belt city. I just accepted a 1 year job offer at a manufacturer in the suburbs, and am trying to figure out how I can date at age 25. I would imagine daygame here is extremely difficult, but not impossible. I've never tried it. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 05:06 AM |
| 4 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.In my 25 years of walking on this earth, none of the girls I've met have given signals at the outset that they were attracted to me. Perhaps later on and I missed them. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 05:00 AM |
| 2 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.The problem with the girls dating friends approach is that ultimately a lot of guys do not have friends that are girls, or many of them. And the ones they do have, well if they're friends, more likely than not they're in the friend zone anyways. I'm 25. In my situation, which I made a post on another sub about, I am about to enter a workplace with 85% guys and 15% girls. A manufacturing facility. I was offered over $60k, and the position does align with my career goals, but sometimes I wish I ha… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Seduction should never be the #1 priority in your lifeI like hiking and other outdoors things. I am also into photography and have a drone and mirrorless camera. Eventually I want to learn how to play the guitar. I also rowed in college. The bars also have party chicks, I don't know if that's what I want. Apps are similar. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 01:39 AM |
| 2 | 25Male, never had a girlfriend and I find it extremely difficult to find happiness in this loneliness.I'm in your exact same shoes and I am facing a wall of sausages in the future. The job I start in 2 weeks pays well but is a sausage fest. I'm also 25 and black, but I try not to see race as a hindrance. I live with mom and dad. It couldn't get any worse. | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Seduction should never be the #1 priority in your lifeI just got a job offer for $62k after making $0 for 13 months at age 25. I've only had 4 lifetime dates and I'm a virgin. I'm not bad looking, but could use some improvement. But the place I'm going to work at is 85% male. Am I doomed again, or will I be spending time at bars and clubs? | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 08:29 AM |
| 1 | I went from being unemployed and broke to getting a job offer for $60k+. I'm 25 and live with my parents. Now what do I do?But by then I'll still be clueless with dating and in my late 20s. Guys 10+ years younger than me will have earned their stripes. | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 07:43 PM |
| 1 | I'm more desperate than ever to date, but as unprepared as I'll ever be as wellI actually forgot to mention that I go to the gym 3x a week now. It's helped, but I need to do more. | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 08:42 AM |
| 3 | For guys, what's one dating advice that never worked for you?This is the story of the 25 years of my life. Lots of girls who are friends, and still a virgin. | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Bland personality?I thought going to an $80 music festival would be too high investment for a first date. So I backed away from that for the time being and suggested a walk in the park. My issue right now is that my self esteem is at rock bottom. I am insecure about my weight (I'm 5'10", 150 lb and skinny), skin acne (which has improved but still showing blemishes), posture, haircut and personality. So if I go on a date all of this will be on full display. I'm actively trying to improve all of these things. But e… | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Bland personality?I already deleted all of my apps and accounts, I need to reinvent myself, including physically, before I can seriously get into dating again. I have to find a way to loosen up. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Bland personality?I tried doing that. I just think she's looking for attention like most of my matches | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 04:29 AM |
| 4 | I did not just see what I think I saw.This happened to me the other day. I was eating a burrito in the park and thinking about my lack of success with women. Then some guy walked over to a girl under a tree and talked to her for 30 seconds, then walked away. I knew that's what it was because they didn't look like friends. | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 03:19 AM |
| 1 | 9/10 girl who is very engaged in convo frequently disappears. Need suggestions. (Includes screenshots) [Serious]What are the offline alternatives for a 25 year old college graduate | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 03:21 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys do it?I never had anyone tell me that in high school. | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Find purpose outside of dating and relationships and you will get the ones you want.Well how did my dad meet my mom in their teenage years? He was not a high value male then Or my ugly friend who met a 7. Neither was he, and he was 22. | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Cold approach at the county fairAh that's true too. I didn't think about the groups thing, because this is the exact same issue I ran into at a food festival a month ago. | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 186 | Masturbation addiction is a serious libido killer. It leaves me unmotivated to approach.Quitting porn was a godsend for me, but now my thirst levels are off the charts. My envy is as well. | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Sexual Drought and no confidence with womenHow do you have problems with women when you were in a 2 year relationship? I have had 50 matches on Tinder in a month and a half and I could only get one date out of it! And I'm still a virgin! | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Is there anyway I can turn this conversation aroundYeah I was able to actually get her to agree to a date. https://i.imgur.com/7JdeUUl.jpg | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 04:23 AM |
| -2 | Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps?Our imaginations! Lol because it's like finding a unicorn, All of the good women were taken before I turned 25 today. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Is there anyway I can turn this conversation aroundConsidering this is how most of my matches turn out, I don't really care at this point. I have to get better pictures so I conform with Rule 1 and Rule 2. Then it won't matter what happens because the girls will swoon over me anyways. I'm not ugly, but my pictures are just average. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 01:20 AM |
| 0 | Is there anyway I can turn this conversation aroundThe appetizer idea was someone else's. I took it and here we are. But it got me the number. I really have to refine my game some more. I've watched hours of videos and more content, but often times opening a conversation and setting the pace can be extremely difficult because you're not guaranteed a reply from an opener. So you go for stuff that is clickbait-y. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 12:15 AM |
| 3 | How to build interest after only 6 messages and a number close from Tinder?It's funny you mention all of this because my goal has been to avoid giving validation. Unfortunately, a lot of girls don't respond to pickup lines, and they definitely don't respond to "Hi". When you say qualify, I keep hearing this, but I don't know how to implement it. Also, it's weird because in the past I've engaged in back and forth banter, but 99% of my matches that involved bantering went to me being left on read. So in this interaction, I felt pressured to ask for her phone number as qu… | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Is there anyway I can turn this conversation aroundSo do I write this conversation off? Because she's in an antagonistic mode now. I can't tell whether she's wasting my time or not. I do like your line about not having an interesting conversation in awhile, I wonder how I could slide that in. | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 11:31 PM |
| 1 | How to build interest after only 6 messages and a number close from Tinder?If she's not local then I'll cut it off. She could be on vacation, how the hell would I know | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 05:16 PM |
| 1 | How to build interest after only 6 messages and a number close from Tinder?It could be that she's traveling but is from the area. And I'm in the US | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 02:14 PM |
| 4 | How to build interest after only 6 messages and a number close from Tinder?This is really interesting. Thank you | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 02:08 PM |
| 2 | How to build interest after only 6 messages and a number close from Tinder?Interesting, thank you. Although I do have to find out if she's even local first. Her bio only mentions distance and not locale. | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 02:00 PM |
| 8 | How to build interest after only 6 messages and a number close from Tinder?1) she's currently 400 miles away and I don't know if she's local or not, but she matched when she was in my area. I have to find that out first among other things. She could be a single mom for all I know, or in an open relationship. Two things I'm not looking for at 25. 2) even if I were to meet for a drink, how the hell do I transition from "Hey" to a date? | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Does being "too nice" cost you on dating apps? Do you see something in me that I can't see?Unless you're sexy, "Hi" will not allow you to stand out from the 70 other matches per day a girl gets. I feel I'm a 10/10, but my value is what the girl determines it to be. So she probably views you as an 8-10. | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Does being "too nice" cost you on dating apps? Do you see something in me that I can't see?While I'm planning on cold approaching soon (I have a bit of acne to take care of need to grow out facial hair/gain 20 pounds/get a new haircut), I've heard that you get very few if any results. Would you mind if I PMed my profile so you can see if anything looks unattractive | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 01:56 PM |
| 5 | Does being "too nice" cost you on dating apps? Do you see something in me that I can't see?I think you have a point. High value women would be much more forgiving of my conversations in public. Any good friend that I've had as a girl, she was not turned off by my conversations with her when we first met. She may not have been interested in me for anything more than friends, but she didn't just walk away like the girls on the apps. Still, I posted a similar thing on /r/Tinder, and some guys were explaining how they weave humor into the conversation. While I agree that humor will work, … | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Daygame in TorontoI live a just under 2 hours away from Toronto but want to daygame solo soon. Maybe I'll take you up on the offer. | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Too afraid to sexualize over textWhat I didn't say is that I had to send out at least 3k-5k swipes with Tinder Platinum and Hinge Premium. So no I'm in the same boat, maybe just in second class and not first class. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 05:47 PM |
| -1 | Is approaching a girl in the gym a good idea?Not at a gym you're always at, I wouldn't. But I haven't cold approached yet so don't take my word for it. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 03:42 PM |
| 1 | If you were me, where would you take this conversation?She was wondering what I thought was funny in her profile. Not everyone has advanced game or has developed good social skills like you. If that were the case I wouldn't even be on here. Now why do you say what you'd have said instead? | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Too afraid to sexualize over textI can try your method as well. The one I used is from a channel called Playing with Fire. It seems everyone has a strategy, but his is to build investment with the girl (small talk) so she's less likely to flake when you ask for the number. But I've seen guys use your strategy as well and be successful. I don't really know which to go with. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Too afraid to sexualize over textI'm barely a beginner at this shit. I had to Google an opener to use, I found that one and used it. When she wondered what the funny thing I saw was, well I saw she had a picture of her holding a dog. My dog actually does like to go crazy when people walk past our house, but lies around the house half of the day. So I thought I would weave that into the conversation. Again I'm not attacking you, I'm just pointing out that every time I match with a girl and have to do the heavy lifting, I feel li… | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 05:31 AM |
| 2 | Too afraid to sexualize over textYou're talking to the 25 year old virgin here buddy. My goal over the past month with my 60 matches and 1 date has been to try and change that. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Too afraid to sexualize over textYeah it's tough because I actually found that opener on Google, but I thought I could come up with something funny and then I fucked it up. I guess I'm punching above my weight with these matches, but I can't stand out with looks alone or with just a simple "Hey". | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Too afraid to sexualize over textYeah I know about PWF. I still can't figure out how to do it. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Too afraid to sexualize over textHere's an example right here. Way too dry of a conversation. https://imgur.com/a/lhEo8Tz/ Most of my interactions are like this. Friendly. No sexual elements to them because I don't want to scare the girl away. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 01:42 AM |
| 1 | If you were me, where would you take this conversation?Yeah it's funny, because the girls on the Canadian side are 10x hotter than what we have over here. But thank you for your help | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 01:17 AM |
| 1 | If you were me, where would you take this conversation?It's Niagara Falls. Are you suggesting that a lake/park would be easier? | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 01:10 AM |
| 1 | If you were me, where would you take this conversation?Can't do that. She's in another country, across the river. But we live near a major wonder of the world so I wonder if I should do a date there? Or is that too heavy? | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 01:08 AM |
| 7 | Is online dating a waste of time for guys?AFAIK the few friends that I have don't go to events, and they definitely don't go to the clubs and bars. Usually they just go to places and do things in a group. I'm considering moving out of the area. It's not a bad place to live and it's a mid-sized city, but there just aren't enough options for me even if I looked more attractive. | /r/seduction | 02/08/21 04:56 PM |
| 50 | Is online dating a waste of time for guys?I (24M, black) started using the apps at the end of June, which really marks my first time ever dating (Prior to that I had only ever been on 3 dates, and to this day nothing more intimate than a handshake or hug has happened to me). Since I started using Tinder Platinum, Bumble and Hinge Premium, I've gotten about 60 matches. I'd say about 20 to 30 replies. Of those, maybe I had actual conversations with 5-12. Of those, 4 gave me their phone numbers. One girl flaked, the others were not respons… | /r/seduction | 02/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Why exactly are you here?Because I'm not standing out on dating apps enough for it to allow me to go on actual dates. I've had my profile and pictures reviewed by at least a dozen people, and nobody has said I'm ugly. But there are things I can do to look better. Having said that, the matches I do get have been of decent quality but I'm ghosted either after asking for a phone number when we agree to the general idea of meeting up, or after a prolonged conversation. So I can't figure out when to ask for a date, how to be… | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Did I blow this interaction?Yup... but I'm wondering if I messed up by putting the ball in her court https://i.imgur.com/zqVOI6q.jpg | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Did I blow this interaction?Turns out you were right. | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Did I blow this interaction?Miraculously she responded 😂 https://i.imgur.com/j5M3luF.jpg | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Did I blow this interaction?You know I read into this too much. She actually got back to me with this https://i.imgur.com/TV8mJvo.jpg I gotta pull back here... what should I do? | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Did I blow this interaction?Good to know. Sometimes my desperation just seeps through my messages. This is why I haven't had any dates on these apps. | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Did I blow this interaction?No she did not | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 01:45 AM |
| 6 | Did I blow this interaction?That's just my communication style, the texts were all within a minute. However when viewed like this you would think they were separate. Usually it's so I can separate my thoughts out, although I guess that's not how it's viewed on the receiving end. I guess I have to change that 🤷🏾♂️ Either way, the margin for error on these apps is super thin and I think I'd have better luck just walking up to a girl at the grocery store who may be forgiving of my social issues. | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 04:02 AM |
| 11 | Never compliment a girl on her looks in the first few encounters.For every person who says don't do this, you'll find someone who says do it. It's all subjective. I was just listening to a course from someone who said say just that. But AMS says don't validate. But if you don't say it, the intent is missing. | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Am I set up to fail before I even begin?I'll go with the flow, but my circumstances just leaves a bitter taste in my mouth and it can be a challenge to stay optimistic. | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 07:48 AM |
| 5 | How honest should I be when showing my intentions to women on dating appsIt's strange because I don't really know what I want yet. I am late to the party at 24, when many people my age have started settling down. At the same time I'm a virgin, so what am I "settling down" from? I don't even know what I'm looking for really. I've always wanted a girlfriend, but I don't know if staying with one person forever without meeting new women is effective in 2021. | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 04:02 AM |
| 1 | If I can't vibe as a third wheel with my friends, how will I be able to hold my frame with a girl?It's not a date it's another friend that's a guy | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Under 21 dates that can lead to escalation?It's possible that I try to break the ice on the dating topic with them. It came up at dinner time the other night when we were talking about my sister's lack of dating and we all got a good laugh. So we'll see. | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Under 21 dates that can lead to escalation?They question whether I even like girls. I'm 24 turning 25 next month. Also I have a sister at home and my parents are retired. | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Under 21 dates that can lead to escalation?They don't even know I'm dating (or preparing to date) anyone. So this would be a huge leap to do something like that. | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white?You misread what I said. I said, like Indians, not "like us Indians". | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 06:16 AM |
| 6 | Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white?I'm in a similar position, but I'm a year younger and unemployed with a good degree. I don't know what you look like, but like Indian men we also have to work extra hard to have success in dating. If you're super skinny like me or overweight you will have to go figure that out. That may be one thing holding you back. I also swore off online dating for a very long time. Unfortunately, it's here to stay and I've had to actively train myself on how to use it properly. There's a YouTube channel call… | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 07:00 AM |
| 0 | Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white?Wrong. I'm black and am not jacked at all, in fact I'm very lanky like a Scandinavian guy and it has worked against me for years. Luckily I've gotten a gym membership and will be working on this with a trainer, but this is one of several reasons why I'm still a virgin at 24 (although this could change in the next month or two). The big dick trick combined with high intelligence, ambition and curiosity should be a ferocious combination for me. I haven't capitalized on it yet though. | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Went to a food festival, had fun but couldn't find opportunities to cold approach. Advice wantedGreat advice thank you | /r/seduction | 11/07/21 05:23 AM |
| 1 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?Or boba tea | /r/seduction | 10/07/21 10:34 PM |
| 1 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?Then I'll do nighttime coffee | /r/seduction | 10/07/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?Again, she claims she doesn't drink on her profile so that might be a no-go | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 07:20 AM |
| 1 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?I actually found a good blueprint here; https://reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8aqqnu/fr_coffee_date/ | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 07:01 AM |
| 2 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?Let's say I stay with the coffee date. Any suggestions to prevent it from falling into a platonic trap? Videos? The last few of these I had were kind of miserable to be honest because I got ghosted afterwards. Also, I've never been kissed. I wonder if I could make that happen on a coffee date. | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 06:48 AM |
| 2 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?What's the strategy if the girl doesn't drink? | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 06:22 AM |
| 1 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?I meant that I had 3 dates in my life before meeting this girl. I know about the car thing but I don't know where to go for that. Depending on the location you can get caught or get on the sex offender registry. And here's the cherry on top: my parents have a video doorbell and security cameras in the house. Go figure, right? | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 06:10 AM |
| 2 | 4th lifetime date coming up and I don't know what the objective is?Because daytime coffee dates are inherently platonic. | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Dating checklist for first timers and the inexperiencedHey, maybe you can help me. It looks like I have a date coming up with a girl who if "shy" were a poster child, it would probably be her. She's 21, but her Hinge profile says that she doesn't drink or do drugs. In a coincidence it's rare that I do as well, but I wouldn't say "never". So because of this I proposed a coffee date and she accepted it. I want it at 8 at night. But I don't know what the objective is because I'm a 24 year old virgin and am still at home with my parents. While this girl… | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 05:10 AM |
| 3 | How many women have you had sex with? Between what ages did you get the most? Where did you usually go to find them? (Bars/Dance Clubs, Dating Apps, etc)Zero at almost 25. Was well known in high school but a bitch who wouldn't talk to girls in a non-platonic way. My first two years of college were at a tech school with like 20% women. The next three were at home, but I had to work in the evenings, was off-campus and lacked balls still. Cold approaching was not something I wanted to do, but tried once and failed. The coed sports team I was on also didn't provide opportunities. And look at how much time I've spent on Tinder this past week, with Pl… | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 08:09 AM |
| 2 | The Dark Side of Online Dating: Why Dating Apps Don't Work For Most MenI should clarify that of the 1000 or so profiles, 80% were a left swipe. | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 04:19 PM |
| 11 | The Dark Side of Online Dating: Why Dating Apps Don't Work For Most MenI spent 5 hours using Tinder last night with a Good subscription just to see what would happen. Well let's just say that I wasted 5 hours of my life, because even though I'm not actually ugly, I discard most profile with no bio, low effort bios or bios with social media accounts in them. I swiped on probably 1,000 profiles during this time. I wake up a few minutes ago to no matches. What happened? I had 7 matches about 36 hours ago when I recreated my profile and used the Gold boost. My profile … | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 12:59 PM |
| 2 | You can't seduce any girls if you aren't near any.You're lucky I'm a polite guy, because that was a pretty arrogant comment. I'm none of what you described, and you don't have to be a rapper to be a US black guy. I'm guessing you're from Eastern Europe where you see stereotypes of black people eating fried chicken and playing basketball all day. | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Approaching during the day is a futile effortSo what options are left? I installed 5 dating apps on my phone (again) and while initially I drew in attention and one match with a conversation that died off (this person was 60 miles away), nothing has happened and I'm not expecting another match. | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Approaching during the day is a futile effortThat's great advice. And I see your other posts, thank you | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 01:00 AM |
| 3 | I think tonight I will ask out the girl I like from work.So essentially as we get older, opportunities for dating decrease. I wish I had known this 10 years ago. | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 12:10 AM |
| 4 | Do you use dating apps? If so, how do you not allow them to crush your self esteem and drive you insane?No, they're bullshit. From everything I've heard, online dating may have been useful 10 years ago, but today it's something completely different. At 24 with 3 dates in 5 years and never kissed, this point I'm just putting myself out there, literally, hoping I will be seen. | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 07:04 AM |
| 6 | Unpopular dating opinions I've gathered over the yearsEven ADHD or social anxiety is a disability/disorder, which makes an already hard task almost impossible. | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 05:02 AM |
| 2 | No matter where I go during the week, there are very few if any single women aroundThis is Buffalo, New York on a Tuesday. I saw no more than maybe 10 women at least 5 or above. The rest were unattractive (weight) to me, or were doing something where they didn't want to be bothered (I.e. running, etc.) Maybe things will be better this weekend (there's an air show) but I am still ready to move out of the area. | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 11:25 PM |
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