Waiting for IOIs:m/choosing signals vs. being proactive as a beginner

potatoeswithfries · 2022-06-15T07:48:42+00:00

Yet you've heard that you should just rely on choosing signals/IOIs.

Whoever told you that just... Gave you bad advice. Simply.

Sure, if you see a girl sending you a smile, go talk to her - but don't ONLY talk to girls who smile at you.

First of all, because as a beginner you want to have as many opportunities as possible and approach as much as you realistically can, so that you can get all of the mistakes out of the way as soon as possible, learn from them, and get some real life experience with chatting up girls, so you have some reference points regarding what to do in certain situations when you find yourself in them again.

Second, sometimes a girl won't notice you, but she'll be flirty and interested once you go over and start talking to her - you wouldn't know she'll be like that just by looking at her facial expression or body language. By only going for girls who already noticed you you are severely limiting your options.

Third, women have a way of checking us out without us noticing, so sometimes she HAS noticed you, but you didn't realise. So, again, you are limiting your opportunities when only going for girls who you see checking you out, and you'll be missing out on a lot of girls just because you didn't notice the signs... And you WILL be missing signs (even the slightly more obvious ones) when you're inexperienced.

Which brings us back to the first thing I mentioned: to get that experience, you have to approach a lot first, so don't limit yourself regarding who you talk to and go get that experience!

atomant88 · 2022-06-16T04:57:58+00:00

never ever ever wait for IOIs. they dont matter. the only thing that matters is how they react to your approach. the way to find their interest? make the approach. thats the only way you'll know for sure. make the approach

puma085 · 2022-06-18T08:25:11+00:00

I would say be pro active. Waiting for choosing signals can be misleading. Especially if is something so simple as smile. There are many reasons for women to smile at you and only one reason is being intrested in you.

Sometimes women also smile for other reasons. Maybe embarrasment or feeling uneasy.

A few years ago when I was staying at guesthouse in Tokyo an american girl that stayed in the same guest house smilled at after coming out of the bathroom when I was looking in the same direction coincidentally.

That was no IOA for sure. In other more normal settings a smile could be seen as worthwile invitation to for it. Just beware the context.

revente · 2022-06-15T08:42:55+00:00

Unless you're getting sinals left and right - be proactive.

Title	Waiting for IOIs:m/choosing signals vs. being proactive as a beginner
Author	CloutComputing
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	June 15, 2022 6:32 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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