As a 24 year old guy with only 3 dates under his belt, where the hell do I find single women? A Pew Research chart is included showing where people find their significant other.

Forgiven29 · 2021-06-27T02:53:28+00:00

Flea market

Ilovethaiicedtea · 2021-06-27T12:44:08+00:00

Dating apps are a SKILL
Sounds like you're looking for Day Game.
FedEx driver can be a cool one if you're hitting on like receptionists you see often. Since u say you don't have a job, a restaurant/retail job is usually GREAT for this purpose.

ethical_slut · 2021-06-27T07:51:54+00:00

Safety first.

A lot of older men prey on young adult women, and often times teenagers.

Being in the conventionally appropriate age range helps when approaching women.

Friends and family connections typically provides the social reference/proofing that doesn’t ring “stranger danger” alarm bells.

It’s oddly similar to networking for a job. If you’ve exhausted your existing connections, then you need to make new ones by joining new groups and expanding your in-person social networks.

When you meet someone you’re interested in, you pleasantly let them know you’re interested while respecting their boundaries.

It helps if you have a mutual connection that can vouch that you’re not a psycho abuser.

Seddit and pick-up typically push the route of charming the pants off someone in a first impression because it’s statistically the most efficient way to get laid. It’s not necessarily bad, or wrong, just a different approach with different priorities.

When I was online dating at 24, I preferred driving myself to grab coffee/tea and chatting for 15-30min.

I could usually tell by the end of a text convo if I would ask someone out but most of my friends at the time felt most comfortable with a couple weeks of knowing/talking to a person.

If a dude is totally off his rocker: will send unsolicited dick pics, text/call while drunk, ask for nudes, make racist/sexist/generally shitty comments, those behaviors typically show up within a few weeks of casual communication.

Some women at my age also said they needed to be facebook friends for a time before they would agree to date someone.

A different group of women would say they’d only date people they had met before in person.

Different kinds of people get comfortable with new people in different ways.

Generally accepted is lighthearted but engaging conversation in a “spontaneous event” of being at the same place at the same time.

Put yourself in more positions where you are more likely to meet the right kind of people at the right time, whether it’s online or in person and you’ll have better luck.

5ilverMaples · 2021-06-27T02:16:00+00:00

Not researching Pew ill tell you that rn

Bettor_Trust · 2021-06-27T11:12:58+00:00

"this makes me more depressed"

No, you're looking for reasons to be depressed.

Get your T levels up bro. It'll help.

favclandestin · 2021-06-27T09:21:45+00:00

I feel this bro. I'm in a very similar boat, having very similar experiences and opinions... I just don't get how others have always someone to date, even if single, they always chatting with someone, have someone to go for the next date. I'm attractive and social. Also depressed and kinda hopeless.

PompousSchmuck · 2021-06-27T04:12:39+00:00

IRL, doing social stuff like classes/dancing/learning something extra curricular. At the mall doing errands, in shops, markets, outside, beach, on the train (but don't linger if you get rejected), on holidays, on events.

Anywhere.

Edit: If you look decent++, have your shit together/good dame, and somewhat confident, you can meet women anywhere and they will be somewhat receptive to you.

Speckledorf69 · 2021-06-27T03:45:30+00:00

I'd highly suggest looking into the app Hinge and trying a 1 month subscription out. Get an amateur photographer on facebook or craigslist to take some decent shots of you and just go to town. That's where I've found most women who are looking for a serious relationship.

notendearing · 2021-06-27T10:36:11+00:00

As someone who used to be in a dating app, can I ask what you mean by malicious women?

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