The natural cycle of dating in the beginning

Initial-Laugh1442 · 2022-06-27T21:07:03+00:00

They must perceive you as 'attractive'. You brought value and, in effect, you managed to seduce them successfully, they now want more of you. I think there is an important point

SuggestionHonest7989 · 2022-06-27T21:05:47+00:00

Hasn't happened with me yet, Everyone's experience is different but yeah chase is fun.

handsoncans420 · 2022-06-27T22:22:58+00:00

Can you go on to detail on how you lay the foundation for the second and third date. I've actually had the opposite. I can get the first date and then it just gets kind of boring where they seem kind of lame.

Cactus2711 · 2022-06-28T05:07:58+00:00

Yes I've found this too. Women have an initial 'testing' phase to see what kind of man you are. Once you pass that test their attraction for you grows exponentially.

koolex · 2022-06-28T06:05:22+00:00

Yup that was my experience as well, in fact if a girl made it to the 3rd date with me it was very likely we would have sex and she would want a relationship later on. I think what you're missing is most men do get filtered out by the 2nd date and for her to be still showing up for the 3rd date she usually has to be pretty invested & attracted to you.

daddysgotanew · 2022-06-28T01:53:13+00:00

This is because you’re not attractive, or not their best option. I know, because I’m not either, and this is exactly how all my dates/relationships play out. Often they start with sex early and then when it progresses for a couple of months without a promise of commitment (resources) they’re gone like the wind. Several have outright ghosted me after the “what are we” text. Better to go back to chasing Chad for that one percent chance he’ll text her back rather than wait for me lmao.

Neo-Rio · 2022-06-28T01:47:10+00:00

Are you having sex on the first date?

To explain what's going on, I would need to know this.

Either way, second dates flag to women that you have put your hand up to be either:(A) LTR - if you had sex(B) Provider - if you haven't(C) Friend - which sucks any way you want to look at it

I am always suspicious of second dates. Usually I just don't do them for those reasons. If she's not attracted to me by the first date, she's probably not really into me.If I don't get laid on the first date, she goes on the backburner to either arrange a booty call on her own, or I forget about her. And then if we have sex, I don't arrange second dates because I don't want to let her think that there's going to be a relationship other than a sexual one to come out of it. The only second "dates" are booty calls.

LTRs always push you in the direction of marriage - and if you don't want that now (or ever) - it's not fair to the woman to lead her on IMHO.

But don't let me stop players from spinning plates. We've all done it. I had to do it to learn all about it. It is gratifying to go on multiple dates and have a girl screw you so hard in her quest to get you to capitulate to monogamy - but it always ends in tears.

Title	The natural cycle of dating in the beginning
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Date	June 27, 2022 8:57 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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