For someone to want you, you gotta stimulate that person's senses.

  • Having a good well groomed face, great body will stimulate the visual sense.

  • Having a deeper, calm, relaxed voice will create a masculine vibe which will stimulate the auditory sense.

  • Smelling nice will stimulate the smell sense.

  • Escalating physically (handshakes, hugs, holding hands etc) will stimulate the touch senses.

  • Having good body language (confident, calm, relaxed) and Being charming and playful/flirty (which is often referred to as having "Game") will stimulate mental senses.

I also think, escalating is like a test on how much the other person likes your and let's you get away with. Be it either physical escalation, verbal escalation or logistical escalation. If someone is not letting escalate, they probably are not comfortable enough to let you yet. And it can be because of anything, not necessarily because of you.

Just an opinion tho.