Advice about masculinity

Da_Famous_Anus · 2022-03-17T20:47:26+00:00

Yo man, it’s hard out there. You’re not alone. I used to think that a real relationship with a reasonable woman who will listen to you was something that was possible. That was my dream. I don’t see it as something that’s possible today.

I suggest cultivating yourself. Invest in yourself and be kind to yourself and be a good person in your community and pursue your interests. The world is a very difficult place nowadays. But Things will flow from that.

But_Kicker · 2022-03-17T20:42:55+00:00

Your priority seems to be women. Your priority should be you.

Why would a woman want to be with you if you have nothing going for you?

Focus on yourself and women will come and go as your success increases.

Do great in your career, get gains in the gym, acquire knowledge through books and education. Be the best you that you can be. Women will come, but you come first.

livingthesaurus · 2022-03-17T21:42:16+00:00

You need a therapist for depression, not to worry about dating. Get right with yourself first before you off load this problem on someone else. Dating is not going to change this for you, in fact it may make it worse. Self worth shouldn’t be drawn from people whose literal role is to judge your potential as a partner. If you go into it like that, there’s a world of hurt for yourself and people you’re involved with waiting for you

OtPayOkerSmay · 2022-03-17T21:53:33+00:00

A pill won't fix your issues, unless it's the red one...

I'd say start to develop a routine, and find your purpose. If you don't have a job, get one; that's the first step to getting out of a deep funk. Whenever I was depressed and between jobs, a new job always made me happier.

It's more attractive to be the kind of guy who doesn't give one single shit about what women think of him versus being the guy that thinks success with women is the key to happiness.

Underrated_Prince · 2022-03-18T06:19:58+00:00

Brav your just overthinking things

Listen get use to talking to people without having an end goal, even having small talk, complimenting guys and girls

Get hobbies that allow you to meet new people on a weekly basis, just get use to talking to people and introduce a little bit of flirting here and there without having an end goal, just see where the conversation goes

nordik1 · 2022-03-18T06:44:36+00:00

Switch up your life in some regard. Take a vacation and/or sign up for a hobby that seems even a little bit interesting. I’d recommend a martial art for the various benefits and social community

Focus on success in school/your work and keep trying new experiences. The latter is really important because life has an interesting way of guiding you to where you need to be, but it doesn’t happen if you’re not actively taking action out in the world. Life can’t guide you anywhere if you’re on your bed

I’d also advise working a social job. A job in sales or something like a bartender or personal trainer can teach you a lot, force you out of your shell, and discover new things about yourself. There’s rough moments with those types of jobs, but sticking them out is worth it in a big way becusse the skills carry over to dating and life in general in a huge way. Plus you’ll be too busy to think about wallowing in depression

Summary:

work a social job that will develop your social skills, social circle, and confidence
travel as much as you can even if it’s once a year on a road trip
do a martial art and stick with it
continue refining yourself in the process
you will come across women if you do these things, it’ll be up to you to capitalize and speak to them from there…but you have to be solid as an individual in order to handle them, otherwise if one leaves or says the wrong thing, you’re back to wallowing

Title	Advice about masculinity
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Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	March 17, 2022 8:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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