How do I take the interest out of her? She's beautiful but boring.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-03-09T00:36:00+00:00

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I (23m) spotted a beautiful girl (20f) in college campus, I sat next to her then we started talking.

For future reference, if you're going to ask questions about what went wrong or how to proceed, you need to actually say what you actually did.

Seduction is a two-way interaction and you skated right over details about what you actually said or did specifically.

Details matter and it's impossible to really tell whether this person was truly boring or just put off by your opener or something else you did.

Maybe someone else would react differently, but it doesn't change the fact that an adjustment may not require you to change who you are and yet still increase your appeal.

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She does nothing besides doing college stuff and hanging out with friends. No future visions, plans, hobbies, ambitions, original opinions about whatever, nothing that I could pull a longer conversation out of.

Again, all you've done is list the results, with no details whatsoever about what exactly you said and did that preceded her behavior.

There's nothing here about how you phrased your questions or how you segued from topic to topic. Word choice has a huge impact.

All of which has an effect on the end result.

2022-03-07T19:03:57+00:00

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mabden · 2022-03-07T20:29:22+00:00

If she is that beautiful, then chances are you were probably one of a hundred guys talking her up.

Her interest level in you was clearly not very high, so why waste any more of your time. Unless of course, you want to find out how her "laughter" is while getting fucked.

2022-03-07T22:08:53+00:00

Have you considered that the questioning may in fact come across as an interrogation to someone women, and that she’s just not that into you?

CeylonSiren · 2022-03-07T20:56:27+00:00

I don’t know how I got here but this question is weird and so are the answers. Why the hell would you interrupt some stranger in public and demand they tell you about their personal life? Geez, she owes you nothing. You basically attacked her and then complained that she was boring- which was probably to get you to leave her alone. And the woman who is nice to you and answers your questions doesn’t have better social skills she just has a different response to being harassed by trying not to escalate their discomfort. Try meeting someone mutually- like give them your phone number and your name and major at that’s it. Then let them decide if they want to further the conversation. Stop harassing people.

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knowthetruthh · 2022-03-07T19:53:43+00:00

I didn't enjoy my time

And you never will. You have natural instincts. Follow them here..and the problem is you failing to lead the encounter.

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kingmakk · 2022-03-07T20:44:11+00:00

Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved

2022-03-07T20:48:48+00:00

You should know very quickly if you're into a girl and if she's into you. Pretty clear answer here my dude.

Worst thing ever is to keep going when you know it's not right, just for the sake of getting laid / her being hot. It just feels wrong to do it because it's not congruent.

However, maybe the problem is how you're doing the interaction. You shouldn't really be 'asking questions' as the main way of communicating (yes a few are fine), you should be having a man to woman interaction. Teasing, observational statements, flirting. If it's a job interview, then girls enter that logical frame and don't know how to get out (I would know, as I have killed the potential of so many dates by being in that mindset).

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caledonguy · 2022-03-07T20:08:06+00:00

She could be shy or socially deprived.try and talk to her again another day to get a better feel. If it's the same then forget about her

damiancontrol · 2022-03-08T04:55:06+00:00

in my experience... if a chick is boring,,, pretty much means you're boring her

cronasminate · 2022-03-08T06:41:50+00:00

She does nothing besides doing college stuff and hanging out with friends. No future visions, plans, hobbies, ambitions, original opinions about whatever, nothing that I could pull a longer conversation out of.

That's on purpose. It's the most common way to reject guys aside from "I have a bf." They look super low energy and looked bored because they want you to get the hint and lose interest. They are not excited by you. Watch how they talk to people they like and you'll see the difference is night and day.

I've seen in every single time I've been in a conversation with a girl/girls in class. We're there talking about bullshit asking her why the fuck her shoes are too white, or just vibe with the girl and some dude comes in and tries to have a formal 90th century conversation about their hobbies or their passion. Like wtf, that's too extra for a monday afternoon. Noone who actually has friends talks like that. Just talk about random trivial shit, you are trying too hard.

The guy then asks for their number, they reject them mildly or tries to be very ambiguous so it can be over. Then they come back to me and we bullshit around actually have fun, we go hangout and she sucks my dick in the back seat of her beat up sedan while you wonder why the fuck she didn't wet her panties when you asked for her entire fucking life story.

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Topperno · 2022-03-08T07:15:58+00:00

Did no one consider you were bothering her and she was saying nothing so you'd leave?

Like you went up to a student probably studying, talked at her for half and hour and then concluded she is socially inept and not, she didn't want to talk.

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epimpstyle · 2022-03-07T20:11:09+00:00

It is possible that she doesn't like your companion?

Does she have no hobby? This is not a problem, talk about your rock climbing experience :-)

Does she have no plan? Talk about your future plan of becoming an astronaut.

Asking is not a way of talking because you are not a police officer, try to build a story (or invent a story), tell her something interesting, talk about your past experience, your dreams ... do not ask unless she asks you something... otherwise, you show interest but she is not interested.

If she is still not interested maybe she is just polite and she doesn't want to tell you to let her alone (maybe you are not her type: she likes chubby guys but you are skinny or she likes blonde guys but you are black-haired - I'm sure you got the idea).

P.S. - I hope she was not a psycho

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burncushlikewood · 2022-03-07T23:32:44+00:00

Don't try to force it, find a better more receptive woman, if she's giving one word answers and is disinterested just move on, some people are just harder to connect with

bondrez · 2022-03-08T03:57:27+00:00

You just met her. Some people, especially women, aren't comfortable sharing much about them. Meet her again often if you can, then make your conclusion after that.

puffinsaretrashbirds · 2022-03-08T04:12:48+00:00

Sounds like she didn't wanna talk to you and was just being polite. Let her go.

creativeoutlaw44 · 2022-03-08T04:15:44+00:00

...or you could just move on?

recyclablebanthas · 2022-03-08T08:16:52+00:00

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I (23m) spotted a beautiful girl (20f) in college campus, I sat next to her then we started talking.

What was your opener? How did the interaction start off exactly? What exactly did you say and how exactly did she respond?

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She does nothing besides doing college stuff and hanging out with friends. No future visions, plans, hobbies, ambitions, original opinions about whatever, nothing that I could pull a longer conversation out of.

You can turn any small talk topic into something more with good follow-up.

For example you could ask someone something as simple as, "How is your day going?" and it could lead to a lot more and even deeper topics with follow-up focused on getting at motivation (why she did something) and emotion (how she feels about something).

On the other hand, trying to immediately segue into asking someone you just met about their future visions, plans, and ambitions, etc can be a little bit awkward depending on how you worded it.

People don't always feel like opening up to a complete stranger but they will if a more casual topic leads into a less casual one.

How exactly did you word it when you asked her about her future visions? Or her plans? Or her ambitions?

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We talked for 30 minutes, when the conversation was on the purge of hitting an awkward silence I wrapped up then left. Thinking she's boring af. She didn't even ask me half of what I asker her for the sake of mutual connection to get to know each other.

Could be she's boring. Could be your approach was too personal, too fast, or otherwise awkward in some way.

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I didn't enjoy my time with her but she's really beautiful....

Honestly, this should be the guiding principle here. If you didn't enjoy your time with her, then that's when you are doing yourself a favor by screening out someone you didn't enjoy talking to.

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... and now I'm thinking what if she has fucked up social skills?

Without knowing exactly what you said, it's impossible to establish who has adjustments to make in their social skills.

If it's her, you can't help her with that in any way.

If it's you, then at least you have control over that.

Title	How do I take the interest out of her? She's beautiful but boring.
Author	GeniusArtist
Upvotes	142
Comments	91
Date	March 7, 2022 5:53 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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