I've been doing much better than usual in the dating market recently. In the last 2-3 months I've been on maybe 10-15 first dates. I can only remember 10 but I'm pretty sure its more.

Of those 10 women, 3 ghosted when I texted them suggesting a second date.

3 said they weren't feeling it/wanted to be friends/not ready to date etc.

1 led to a one night stand. I actually really liked her and the sex was good. But she texted me the next day saying she regretted sleeping with me on a first date and felt disappointed in herself and needs to work on some stuff or something.

1 led to the beginnings of a relationship. We went on 4 dates and had sex but I ended things because of logistics. She just lives too far away.

2 are TBD but seem likely to ghost because I’m waiting too long for a response from them

I want to make it clear that I'm escalating on 80% of these. Only dates I didn't kiss or make out with the girl were with two of them that ended up trying to friend zone me. But honestly there wasn't much chemistry anyways and I felt like the girl wouldn't have wanted me to.

for more context this group of women is a mix of girls from ONL and my extended social circle.

I guess I'm just wondering why its so hard for me to get a second date or if my experience is normal for most men. Sometimes I think I'm texting them too soon but I've tried waiting a few days also with similar results.